I hope to have a lover when I live together for the first time. If you didn't bully me when I was a teenager, I wouldn't bear your kindness.

The so-called cohabitation for the first time is nothing more than two people from ambiguity to establishing a relationship, to talking about marriage, to cohabitation.

This topic reminds me of a joke. Here's the story.

"When I was a student, I had a girl I particularly liked. She likes me, too, but once I saw her coming out of the toilet, my heart thumped, but I was calm and didn't have an attack right away. Instead, I dragged her to a deserted place and asked her what she was doing in the toilet. At first she faltered and tried to escape, but at last she admitted that she was going to take a shit.

God, my heart is like a bolt from the blue. Can the girl I like shit? I didn't want to accept this fact and ran away crying. By the way, that was when I became addicted to cigarettes. "

Although this joke is absurd, it contains some truth.

It's one thing for two people to fall in love, but it's quite another to live together. When you are in love, show your best side to each other. For dating, boys may take a bath and do personal hygiene. A girl may wear makeup for an hour and wear her favorite perfume.

When two people live together, there is almost no personal privacy, and their shortcomings will be exposed to each other. The former male god was so unsanitary, and the former goddess was so plain. This kind of blow will suddenly make many people feel unacceptable.

Zhang Ailing said that every man has two roses in his heart, a red rose and a white rose. If you get a red rose, then the red rose will become a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white rose will become Bai Yueguang in front of the window. If you get a white rose, the white rose will become a grain of rice on your clothes, and the red rose will become Zhu Shazhi on your chest.

How many couples are sincere when they are in love, and they end up living together and don't like each other. You dislike me for not cleaning the room, I dislike you for not washing clothes, and finally the contradiction escalated and broke up in discord.

Remember when I first started living with my lover. At that time, I just graduated from college and entered social work. My salary is not high, and I have no deposit in my hand. He was really a standard poor boy at that time. It was my lover's birthday. I went to a small gift shop and bought a white plush toy dog. When my wife saw the gift, it was not too shabby.

Now married and bought a house, this toy dog is still in our house. My wife didn't dislike my poverty, and she stayed with me without any regrets, married and had children. Then I went to work overseas, and my wife supported the family alone. Think about it, my wife has really paid a lot for me.

When we first lived together, neither of us could cook. So how to eat has become a big problem. Fortunately, the internet is developed, and you can find all kinds of delicious food with your mobile phone. So we went to the supermarket to buy ingredients, wash and cut vegetables, and put videos on our mobile phones to learn how to cook.

The first dishes are the simplest, such as coke chicken wings and stewed ribs. Later, I gradually cooked some difficult dishes, such as three fresh potatoes and fried tomato boxes. Some dishes are very successful. We eat our own cooking and feel very happy. Some dishes are neither fish nor fowl, so we have to eat staple food to fill our stomachs.

Now that I think about it, the days at that time were actually quite bitter. But I didn't feel bitter at that time. At that time, I just came out of school, and I felt very satisfied to be able to cook my own meals and sleep in my own room. Being with two like-minded people always feels that life is full of hope.

The ancients said that a good beginning is complicated, and a good ending is few. Many couples are very sweet when they first get together, but the impulse of love can hardly stand the test of time. Finally, it's embarrassing to part ways.

During the Western Han Dynasty, Sima Xiangru was down and out. He visited Zhuo Wenjun's home and wrote a song "Phoenix Begging for Phoenix", in which he went back to his hometown, traveled all over the world and begged for Phoenix. His talent touched Zhuo Wenjun, and the story of a gifted scholar and a beautiful woman began.

Despite the opposition of his family, Zhuo Wenjun followed Sima Xiangru firmly, and even if he could not make ends meet, he sold alcohol. Later, Sima Xiangru was successful in my official career, but she abandoned Zhuo Wenjun and lived with her new lover. I only heard the new couple laughing, but I didn't see the old man crying.

After that, Zhuo Wenjun wrote a poem "Poem of Complaining Lang" for him. Excerpts are as follows:

After the farewell, the two places hung together.

Let's say March or April, who knows five or six years.

The lyre has no intention of playing, and the eight-part essay cannot be passed down.

Nine chains are frustrated, and Shili Pavilion is in urgent need.

I thought about it in every way, and I missed it a thousand times, but I was helpless and could only blame Lang.

This poem touched Sima Xiangru, so he returned to Zhuo Wenjun.

Some people say that if life is like the first time. Many people fall in love at first sight, but there are many things to face when living together. When they found each other's shortcomings, they gradually disliked each other. I used to like pouting when you lost your temper, but now I think you are too angry and fierce.

So I gradually forgot my original intention and some childish promises at that time. Once the ocean dries up and the rocks break, it becomes a cloud in the blink of an eye. Two people who once loved each other have become the most familiar strangers.

Living together for the first time, there is another important thing that needs to be solved by two people together. This is how we spend our free time together. Everyone has his own hobbies and different ways of entertainment. If two people have very different habits, it will also bring friction to cohabitation.

When my wife and I first lived together, we often worried about where to go. She likes shopping. For me, shopping is more tiring than playing ball games. But people have to go shopping and follow, so they have to follow to the mall. But it's not enough just to follow them to the mall. Put forward constructive suggestions on clothes, hats, shoes, glasses, etc. Line up in the girls' team, wait for her to choose clothes to try on in the fitting room, try them on when she sees good-looking men's clothes and accept her packaging.

I have a friend, steel straight man. One day I saw him wearing snow boots and suspenders, and I was puzzled. He is also very helpless, saying that his girlfriend wrapped it and insisted on wearing it. This friend is like a dog whose hair has been cut, and his eyes show sadness and inferiority.

But it is said that this is a girl's hobby, like to transform her boyfriend, packaging him in line with their own aesthetics. This incident puzzled me at one time, because I also had a quarrel with my girlfriend. But after all, two people need some running-in, which is probably the only way for all couples.

We China people are conservative, cohabiting is basically two people getting married. Unlike westerners, cohabitation is just cohabitation. Maybe neither of them wants to get married.

It is generally believed that cohabitation makes girls sacrifice more. Because youth is the most beautiful stage of a girl, a girl gave you this most beautiful time, and you should cherish this girl. She gambled on your youth. You shouldn't let her lose.

For men, when they were young, they had no land money, no status and no aura. When people reach middle age, they have money, status and charm. At this time, there will be many people around you, asking about your situation and meeting your various needs and wishes. In the words of the ancients, this is "the beauty of the guest lies in me, and I want to follow me." Men can't go with the flow at this time. Those who take part in accidental amusement are all dew marriages, and those who treat each other sincerely will always be the one who never leaves at the beginning.

So people who want to live together can tolerate each other and get through this running-in period smoothly. Live a happy life. There are many model couples, such as Tony Leung Ka Fai and Chow Yun Fat. They were poor when they were young, but their wives did not abandon them, but stayed with them firmly. Later, when they became famous and rich, they met his wife and stayed with her until they were old.

I hope anyone who has a lover can do it. I won't give you money if you don't bully me as a teenager. I hope everyone who lives together has a happy ending. I hope that those who really give can be treated gently.