Wang Lu: Don't try to be humorous.

A few days ago, I received an email. It's from a writing enthusiast. Let me look at his article. In the past, I generally encouraged two words: talent and lively writing. My evaluation will not affect his writing level, but encouragement can at least give each other enthusiasm. But this time, I read the article and replied to him: You and I are not going the same way. I made a perfunctory remark and deleted it. I told him bluntly that the article should not pretend to be humorous. It is not easy to explain things honestly. Humor is taboo when writing articles. I decided to say this because if he really intends to write, it will be ruined if he goes this way.

Humor is a technical job. Just like writing. Writing has the skill of writing, and humor has the skill of humor, which are two different things. People who make a living by writing like me have to wonder what is the difference between "when I was in primary school" and "when I was in primary school". Just like a person who chops steamed buns doesn't know when to chop two more knives, and a person who works while the iron is hot doesn't know where to hammer two more times. Today, I went to an old jiaozi store to eat jiaozi. The same skin and stuffing are better than mine. This is a craft, and I can't refuse it. Why do oranges grown in Chu taste better than others? Because when Chu Shijian went to the street to buy organic fertilizer, that is, chicken manure, he would personally take out a handful of chicken manure, rub it to see the degree of dryness and wetness, and then gather together to smell it. The same is true of writing. You must smell a lot of rotten chicken shit. Humor can't be done without trying to smell rotten chicken shit. Because you're not a genius.

I have also read many articles, which are vivid and humorous and make people feel relieved. After reading such an article, he poisoned me when I started writing. If others don't agree with your temperament, you can't learn the benefits of others. Just like the buyer show and the seller show. Whether a suit looks good or not depends not on the clothes but on the face. A word is humorous or not, don't look, see who said it. "Drunk" comes from some people's mouths, which is wonderful. If you were someone else, you would get goose bumps. This is really not discrimination, because 99% people are not humorous.

But many people find themselves humorous. This stems from the intimacy between you and yourself. Humor always comes from people close to you. Lovers are the easiest to find each other's humor, followed by family members and strangers, while enemies can hardly find each other's humor, but only find each other's brain damage.

In front of close people, people don't care much about their image. Because the impression formed is not easy to destroy, one can expose one's flaws and indecency without scruple, which is enough to be a condition of humor. When you meet a stranger, you will feel sorry for him. This kind of secrecy is the enemy of humor, and embarrassment and anxiety destroy the relaxed atmosphere.

There were two sisters sitting next to my colleague before. After they left their jobs, my colleague said easily, now it's finally easy to go to work and you can fart comfortably. Because of this, his sense of humor will never be passed on to his two sisters.

No one has the ability to make a new person feel humorous in half a minute. If there is, it must be a well-trained performance and mechanical operation, not humor itself. When you see a joke, the dog laughs and tells jokes all day. When you meet and talk, you may be suffocated. There is only one reason: people have good workmanship and know what makes people laugh. But knowing this is not enough to make him humorous. Humor is largely natural.

People are puzzled that they often confuse nature with craft. Nature is innate and is brought by genes; Craft is acquired, and it is ground bit by bit. Learn, and then know the shortage, know the shortage of craftsmen, not the shortage of nature. Once you confuse this point, the more you try to show humor, the more annoying it will be. People close to me make fun of me and say a few words of ridicule, which will make the atmosphere between us active and happy; And unfamiliar people, using the same means, will make me feel disgusted.

I especially hate those who try their best to show off their humor because the opposite sex is present. His sense of humor is not enough, just like a drained bottle of wine. No matter how hard you pat the bottom of the bottle, you can only drop one or two drops. They themselves feel that they are out of the limelight, that they are too funny and make a table full of spring scenery. This is the virtue of people who abuse humor, but they are stretched without introspection. Therefore, ordinary people should not tell jokes easily, but must tell them, and don't say "I will tell a joke" in advance. Maybe, you are a joke.

Humor is a rich state. It's like you have five dollars and only spent two. It's very humorous. It makes you relax and effortless. People who are deliberately humorous have two dollars in their pockets, and spending one dollar and eight dollars is not enough. In order to prove that he is rich, he has to spend at least one dollar and nine dollars. When he spent that extra dime, everyone could see that he had little money left.

People who try to express humor have a strong sense of self and want to brush their sense of existence everywhere. Therefore, they don't want to miss any opportunity. This hard place is the place where there is no effect, and it is the place where humor is crushed.

A person should try to make himself interesting, and more importantly, he should restrain his interest. The former is the virtue of progress, while the latter is the virtue of restraint.