How to convince yourself to accept others' "good intentions to do bad things"?

For example, if you do something you think is good, in fact, others don't like it or even hurt it, often because you don't respect others. For example, parents who support Thunder King think that they can choose life for their children. For example, a woman secretly loves a poor and disabled man, but she likes him very much and treats her well. For example, a woman spends ten years pursuing a timid man she likes, such as a poor painter, who has good engineering talent, but prefers art that she is not good at. For example, a timid and quiet girl refuses to take the civil service exam and wants to do business. People always have ten thousand reasons to deny easily, especially those close to them have a sense of mission to correct. It seems that if you don't listen to them, you will end up miserable and regret it. People always don't respect people who look weak, always make decisions for them, and treat their ideas as childish and immature, as if they can't live without their masters, such as women and children. I really hate people who don't respect others' wishes and make decisions for others without asking their permission. I can't help but accept it and make it seem that I am particularly narrow-minded.