How to treat parents' divorce and think that their daughter is worth 280 thousand instead of 200 thousand?

The author looked up the explanation of the word "bride price" in Baidu Encyclopedia: the bride price originated from one of the ancient wedding procedures in China, also known as betrothal price, betrothal price and betrothal money. In ancient times, the things in the bride price were generally very expensive but practical, and the gifts were generally made by women themselves. But in modern times, the bride price has been given too much material significance, and even become a heavy burden, losing its original intention. Moreover, it has formed a wind of comparison, which is even more outrageous in rural areas. How many couples broke up because of the high bride price and how many families made jokes because of the bride price.

My name is Wang, and I come from Xinzheng, Henan. Originally, the family conditions were not bad, but because my father was ill, I spent all my savings and finally failed to cure my father. After my father died, I had to rely on a monthly salary of 6,000 yuan, not only to pay off my debts, but also to take care of my mother's living expenses. So all the year round, I have little savings, and it took me four years to pay off my debts. At this time, I was 29 years old.

During my work, I also talked about a girlfriend. When she learned about my situation, she gradually let go, and I could understand her. After all, on my terms, no one will back down. My mother is old and has always wanted to marry me a daughter-in-law, and she got it. Introduced by distant relatives, I met a girl from a neighboring county. Her name is Hu Hongmei and she is two years younger than me. After knowing each other, she became familiar. However, after learning about my family's situation, the original 1.5 million bride price suddenly rose to 200 thousand. I didn't want to, but my mother always expected me to marry a daughter-in-law, and she agreed.

Then, according to the custom, the two sides set an auspicious day, just waiting for the wedding day, 200,000 bride price money, of which 80,000 was the money that the mother gave her an ancestral bracelet as a replacement. But as the wedding day approached, when the two families were discussing the final wedding ceremony, her parents suddenly changed their minds and wanted to break off the marriage relationship. All kinds of wonderful reasons, and finally they said that their girl had talked about boyfriends before and was not worthy of me. So, finally,

Hongmei has no choice. After all, we have no emotional foundation. She was at the mercy of her parents. Finally, her parents shamelessly said that as long as I added 50,000 yuan, he would push the door open and let Hongmei marry me.

I lost my temper after listening to it. What do I take marriage for? Treat marriage as a free market and sell your daughter as a commodity? I can't help marrying whoever pays the highest price, not because I don't want to pay the extra 50,000 yuan, but because I think such a marriage is boring, so I will ask him to return the previous bride price money to me, so that we can be together and find happiness separately.

I didn't expect her parents to say that the money had been spent, and that I had delayed his daughter for such a long time, so it was considered compensation. After listening to it, I gave up. How can this be true? I've been to his house several times, but I was turned away directly and never saw me at all. I had to call the police. Finally, under the consultation of the police, the bride price money was returned.

As for who Hu Hongmei married later, I don't know, because it doesn't matter to me. It's just her sorrow to have such parents. I'm still single, so I put more energy into my work. I am 35 years old and my monthly salary has exceeded 30,000.

When I learned about it, it touched me a lot. I've only heard a lot about the bride price, but it's not that outrageous. It is really chilling for such parents to regard their daughter's happiness as a tool to make money. After all, I have always felt that the bride price is essential. After all, for an award, we should not speak, let alone compare ourselves. The amount of the bride price should be within the tolerance of both families. After all, we should marry our own daughter. I don't know how many boxes of sad girls like "Hu Hongmei" are still suffering in rural China.

Fiona Fang, what do you think of the bride price?