Crying little kestrel

The book Crying Little Kestrel tells the story of a sensitive crying boy, Kestrel, who gradually grows into a brave and responsible boy with the care and love of his parents and brother.

In the public's impression, boys are generally strong. Even if they are bleeding outside, they won't cry if they are injured. They have to carry everything by themselves. Only girls cry because of the little things in life.

Parents with boys at home generally teach their children to be brave and strong from an early age. If a boy is as sensitive as a girl and cries easily, he will be laughed at by people around him and labeled as a sissy and a crying baby.

The book crying little kestrel tells us that not all boys are born strong, boys can cry and boys can cry. A crying boy deserves to be sincere and loved.

Kawaguchi Kazuo, the author of this book, is a famous Japanese psychologist and a heavyweight in Japanese psychology. From 65438 to 0962, he went to Switzerland to specialize in Jungian psychology and became the first Jungian psychoanalyst in Japan. He has written more than 300 kinds of books in his life, including municipal academic monographs, popular psychology books, school education, family education and so on.

The crying little kestrel is kazuo kawasaki's last work. This paper tells the story of the growth of crying kestrel from kindergarten to the fourth grade of primary school with Buxiaoshan in Hyogo Prefecture as the stage and Hayakawa as the background of childhood. Although kestrel is weak, crying, willful and sensitive, she still has a happy childhood and grew up with the love of her parents and the care of many brothers.

After introducing the basic content of this book and the author's brief introduction, I want to share with you the most subversive content of this book. In people's impression, boys are generally very strong. Why does mother say that boys cry in the face of crying little kestrels? The full name of kestrel is Changshan, Hayato, and it was born in 1928. With the growth of Hayato, Japan began to pursue militarism, and its military strength became stronger and stronger.

The idea that boys can't cry is popular all over the country. Kestrel is the fifth child in the family, with four brothers above and a younger brother below. Yutai's brothers are excellent, energetic and good at sports. Zheng Xiao, the third brother of Yutai, is also good at fighting. He is the king of children on their side. Only the crying kestrel looks like an alien. When you meet something that makes you sad, moved or guilty in your life, you can't help yourself and start crying.

His habit of crying is unacceptable to anyone, even in this era. Not to mention the time when the kestrel really grew up. Little falcon, so it is often laughed at by others. Kestrel is a crying but strong baby. It doesn't want to lose to others, and it doesn't want to be looked down upon by others. But many things are beyond your efforts.

The efforts of kestrels often fall short because of their own crying. So he is very upset, very self-abased, and hates being a crying baby. Little Falcon fell in love with the class teacher when he was in kindergarten. The class teacher is a country student, young, beautiful and gentle, and always praises the singing of the kestrel. Little Falcon likes country teachers very much. Every day after school, she wants to go to kindergarten early tomorrow so that she can meet the village teacher early.

The good times didn't last long. Because of the marriage, the rural teacher had to quit his kindergarten job and go far away. When seeing off the country teacher with everyone, the little falcon couldn't help crying. The female students on the side were all surprised. Look at the falcon with strange eyes, as if it were a monster. Kestrel was very angry, but he didn't dare to resist these female classmates. He didn't even have the courage to stare back at them.

How should parents educate such a sensitive and crying child? Some parents may think that their children are crying and upset, so they yell at their children to stop crying. Some parents may look down on their children and make them feel ashamed. Crying is a shame.

Other parents may ignore their children and think it's no big deal for them to cry. Just cry for a while. I have to say that these treatments are all wrong, or not so correct.

First of all, talk about the development characteristics of children. British materialist philosopher Locke thinks. When a child is born, his mind is like a blank sheet of paper, and his knowledge of the world is gradually established through the reaction of adults to him.

Children are born with adaptability and instinctively explore ways to get along with adults. When children are young, the way parents educate their children will have a far-reaching impact on them. When a child cries, his parents will scold him, which will make him afraid to cry in front of his parents in the future, and he will not dare to tell his parents when he is wronged, so that he will not dare to resist any unfair treatment when he grows up and become a timid and cowardly person, and will not dare to fight for the corresponding rights for himself.

Secondly, children's crying is a kind of emotional release and self-repair. Scientific research shows that crying can protect people's body and mind. When you feel very painful, crying can vent your bad feelings, make you feel carefree, and hold back from crying until you may get sick.

Finally, our brains can actually be divided into emotional brains and rational brains. The emotional brain begins to develop very early, so children have various emotions from an early age. However, the rational brain will not fully develop until around the age of 20. When the child is crying, the rational brain is temporarily offline and the brain is controlled by emotions. If you can't listen to you, you can't ask him to be rational. As a parent, it is really necessary to accept children's emotions first and let them know that they are understood. Then communicate with children to help them deal with the problems they encounter.

How does kestrel's mother treat the crying kestrel? The kestrel cried at the village teacher's welcome meeting. When he got home, he tried to be brave in front of his mother, but the wise mother saw through everything. Mother gently said to the falcon: Falcon, boys can cry when they are really sad. Hearing this, the kestrel couldn't bear it any longer, holding her mother's knee and crying.

Mother's words gave the little falcon great comfort. Let kestrels feel recognized and supported, and no longer hate themselves. Later, Xiao came to play with Xiao Falcon and laughed at Xiao Falcon's crying at the farewell party. At this time, the kestrel has accepted itself and no longer feels inferior for its crying. He bravely hit back at Xiao, saying that crying is no big deal, and crying children are even more remarkable.

Ah Xiao was frightened by the momentum of the little falcon, but instead courted the little falcon. As parents, we all hope to have a lively, cheerful, healthy and sunny child, and no one wants to see their children cry all day. However, every child is an independent individual and has his own unique personality. Parents don't have to force their children to be like others, nor should they look down on their children's minor shortcomings. Accept children with patience and love, and children will grow up slowly, change and finally grow into their best appearance.

Let's talk about the second part. Why doesn't mother object to the falcon crying or fighting, but to the falcon lying?

Yu slowly grew up and became a first-grade pupil. He was assigned to the middle filial piety class and the shun class among the three classes. The teacher in charge of Shunban is Mr Yamaguchi. Not as young as a village teacher, but Xiaojie really likes Miss Yamaguchi because she thinks Miss Yamaguchi is reliable, just like her mother. Kestrel met Zhou Xiao from Qingshan in Shunsaka, and became good friends with Zhou Xiao. But such a pair of good friends, on a certain day, had an argument because of a small matter.

The thing is, in Japan, every time after school, everyone will go to the shelf outside the classroom to get their schoolbags, then go back to the classroom and sit down together after school. At the end of school that day, Little Falcon and other friends hurried to get the schoolbag on the bookshelf, and they were also getting the schoolbag, but perhaps because of the hurry, he accidentally knocked the little Falcon's schoolbag to the ground and didn't notice what he had just done.

I didn't pick up the falcon's schoolbag, but I picked up the schoolbag and prepared to leave. When Chakestrel saw it, his brain suddenly became hot, and the upwelling hot air suddenly pounced on Zhou Xiao and wrestled with him. This is the first time that a kestrel has fought with others. Teacher Yamaguchi, the head teacher, was very shocked when he learned about it, because in his impression, Little Falcon was a very gentle and emotional child.

Teacher Yamaguchi didn't say anything, just let Xiao Ying and him stay in the classroom and stand as punishment. A minute passed and all the students went home. There are only two people left in the classroom, Hysterin and Zhou Xiao. The kestrel couldn't help crying again. He regretted that he obviously liked Zhou Xiao, why he had to fight with Zhou Xiao for such a trivial matter. The kestrel is imagining things.

Suddenly, I heard Zhou Xiao say sorry to himself. Xiao Ying quickly apologized and the two got back together. Teacher Yamaguchi watched the two children get together. Take the opportunity to come and teach them a few words, and then let them go home. But the story doesn't end here. The falcon was left at school because of a fight, so it was a little late to leave school. It happened to rain, and the little falcon walked home alone in the rain without an umbrella.

Xiao Qi's eldest brother came to meet Hayao with an umbrella. Seeing that Hayao was in a bad mood, I asked Hayao what was wrong. I don't know why, the scene where my classmates were bullied by others suddenly appeared in the mind of Little Falcon. So I lied to Big Seven, saying that I was stopped by a senior student and just escaped. My brother flew into a rage and wanted to settle accounts with these seniors and get justice for the falcon.

The kestrel stopped his eldest brother in despair. When he got home, his mother knew about it and comforted him. Tea falcon feels very guilty. He felt that he was not only a cry baby, but also a saint. The little falcon's lie was soon shattered. Teacher Yamaguchi, the head teacher, came to see the little falcon and talked with its mother about the fight. After the teacher left, Xiao Jie was called by her mother, and Xiao Jie was ready to be reprimanded.

Unexpectedly, my mother told the falcon seriously at this time. Fighting is ok, but lying is not. At dinner, the little falcon's brothers heard the little falcon fighting with others, but they were all happy. However, his brothers don't support him to lie. O knife elder brother gently said to him, falcon, it doesn't matter to fight, but you can't lie. Tea falcon blushed with shame and quietly wiped her tears.

Why don't kestrel's mother and brothers oppose kestrel fighting, but don't support kestrel lying? What should we do when children lie?

Let's start with the fight between kestrels. According to Kohlberg's theory of moral development stage, children aged 0 to 9 are still at the pre-custom level, and there is no moral concept in their minds.

In their view, bullying other students and fighting with them are nothing. As long as they are happy, they can do whatever they want. In addition, in each of our brains, there is an area called prefrontal cortex, which is related to self-control. At the age of 20, the child's prefrontal cortex is still developing and his mood is unstable. It is not surprising that he made some radical moves and fought with the children on impulse.

As children grow up, they will gradually know how to get along with others, establish a sense of identity with social norms, and adjust their behavior to meet the needs of society. So in the eyes of kestrel's mother and brother, it's no big deal for kestrel to fight with people.

Let's talk about the little falcon lying again. We all know that lying is wrong, and we can't encourage children to lie. Otherwise, children's habitual lying will lose the trust of others, affect interpersonal relationships, and make them unable to gain a foothold in society.

However, children lie for many reasons, which may come from imagination, desire, ignorance, trying to defend themselves or trying to attract attention. When a child lies, we must first find out the reason why the child lies and then prescribe the right medicine. For example, the kestrel, because he didn't want his brother to know that he was fighting, and because his mind couldn't distinguish between imagination and reality, he was nervous for a while and lied to his brother.

Tea falcon lied innocently, and he regretted it afterwards, so his mother and brother didn't blame him too much. Tell him this is wrong. Let kestrels realize their mistakes and achieve the purpose of education, that's all. In the process of children's growth, they will encounter various problems. As parents, we should patiently understand the truth of the matter, prescribe the right medicine, show more patience and love to our children, and wait for their growth.

Next, let's talk about the third part, how the kestrel grew from a crying baby to a brave boy. At the beginning of this book, kestrel is a timid person except crying baby. Jun Xiao, a first-year classmate of Xiao Falcon, was called Miss Pickled Radish by other students because she answered a wrong question in a class.

After school, Xiao Tuo, a classmate whom Xiao Falcon hates very much, is teasing Xiao Jun with several other boys. Seeing this, kestrel obviously wanted to rush out and take the blame for Xiaojun, but because he was too weak, he only dared to stand in situ and shed tears. Watching Xiaojun being bullied. But the kestrel is not static, and he has been slowly changing himself.

Make yourself more responsible and considerate. In the third grade, the kestrel collected scrap iron outside to sell money, and then donated the money to the army. Knowing this for a long time, the headmaster praised the little falcon in front of the teachers and students of the whole school. The friends are very envious of the praise of the little falcon, so they come with the little falcon to find the little falcon to collect scrap iron. Because they were so absorbed in collecting scrap iron, they broke into a family's yard unconsciously.

Out of the room came a foreigner who looked like a monster and was surprisingly tall, with strange hair color and full of whiskers, and asked them loudly what they were doing. My friends got scared and ran away. Only Miss Jun, a pickled radish, was caught by this monster because she ran slowly. At this time, the crying kestrel didn't cry, but bravely walked up to the foreigner, apologized to him, told him what he and his friends were doing and asked for his forgiveness.

This monster, in fact, is Mr. Kleber who lives near the home of the kestrel, from Germany. Mr. Kleber readily accepted the apology of the kestrels and gave them a pair of copper wires to go home. Knowing this, Hayao's father quickly asked Hayao's mother to take Hayao to see Mr. Kleiber and apologize. After the visit, Mr Kleiber gave Hayao a pack of snacks, but Hayao didn't accept it.

Because there are only five snacks, and the little falcon has six brothers at home. Klibo laughed when he knew the reason why Little Falcon refused snacks, and prepared a pack of snacks for him 12, and praised Little Falcon's move. Why can the kestrel grow from a crying baby to a brave child? There are mainly the following aspects.

First, it is because of the love of mother falcon. Yutai's mother graduated from a normal school and used to be a primary school teacher. It can be said that she is a knowledgeable woman. In terms of educating children, there are naturally their own methods. The mother of kestrel has always been very gentle with kestrel, always paying attention to its needs, both internal and external. When the falcon makes a mistake, her mother will not simply and rudely scold the falcon, but patiently reason with the falcon.

When the little falcon feels inferior because he loves to cry, his mother gently comforts him and makes him accept himself and stop feeling inferior.

Second, it is the father's concern for the kestrel. Besides his mother, his father also played an important role in his growth. Falcon's father is a doctor, with a stern appearance, but he is actually a very kind person.

Every Christmas, my father secretly pretends to be Santa Claus. Give gifts to children and satisfy their wishes. Little Falcon Primary School got very good grades, basically every subject was A, only the body shape. Because the little falcon is too energetic and has his own ideas, the teacher finds the little falcon difficult to deal with. I rated the character of Falcon B.

Dad knew, but he didn't say anything, didn't scold Hayao, and even spoke for Hayao, saying that it was normal for children to get a B in elementary school. For a time, the kestrel was afraid of the dark and sneaked into his parents' room to sleep with his father. After the two brothers knew it, they both laughed at Xiao Zhun, and it was also Dad who stood up and comforted Xiao Falcon.

But dad didn't blindly pet falcons. When the little falcon had a conflict with his mother, his father hit the little falcon. This is the first time that a young falcon has been hit by his father. It is precisely because of this that the tea falcon realized how much mistake he had made.

Third, it is the love of the little falcon brothers. Although the brothers of the kestrel often joke with him, they never look down on him, but always take care of him.

Kestrel came home late because of a fight with his classmates, so his eldest brother Xiao Qi went to pick him up with an umbrella. Little Falcon was ashamed of writing a fake composition. It was his brothers who told jokes to amuse him to relieve his stress.

In addition to the family's love for Falcon, Falcon's own efforts are also an important reason for Falcon's change.

In the third grade, Gong Jie and his good friend Zhou Xiao and others found a secret place near the school. So they took this place as a secret base, brought all kinds of snacks, snacks and small toys from home to decorate their secret base, and had a good time here. Unexpectedly, one day the headmaster discovered this secret base and warned everyone not to stand and play in this dangerous place at the meeting where all the teachers and students gathered.

Xiaotuo knew the secret base and told the class teacher. The head teacher of Xiaojie's class has now been replaced by Miss Gao, a substitute teacher without a teacher qualification certificate. In order to stay in school and teach, Miss Gao has always been conscientious and responsible in her work. Miss Gao came into the classroom angrily and asked everyone what was going on.

In order not to get into trouble with his friends, Little Falcon came forward to admit that it was his idea to go to the secret base. Zhou Xiao and other friends quickly stood up to admit their mistakes, so Mr. Gao took the children with him to apologize to the headmaster. Unexpectedly, the headmaster didn't punish everyone too much. Because of the waste collection before, the headmaster had a good impression on the little falcon, but he just told them to pay attention to safety and not to play in such a dangerous place, so he sent them back to the classroom.

When Xiaojie returned to the classroom from the principal's office, the whole class was waiting for him. Seeing this, the little falcon cried again, but this time he was moved to cry. Little Falcon's brave action was forgiven by the headmaster and trusted by his classmates. Later, Kestrel became the vice president of Shunban, and he finally grew from a crying baby to a boy who dared to take responsibility.

Ok, speaking of which, let's summarize the main contents of today's speech.

First of all, we talked about the little falcon. Although it is a boy, it is a crying baby. Whenever something happens, it cries. Therefore, the kestrel feels inferior and hates itself. The head teacher of kestrel kindergarten married to a foreign country, and kestrel couldn't help crying at the teacher's farewell party. When I get home, I still want to be brave in front of my mother, but when my mother gently says that I am really sad, boys can cry. Let the little falcon put down the burden in his heart, reconcile with himself and stop feeling inferior.

Secondly, we talked about that Yu's mother and brother are not opposed to fighting, but they don't support Yu's lying. Xiaojie went to primary school to fight with her classmates, and ended up in school. When my brother came to pick up Hayao, Hayao lied that he was stopped by a senior, so he came home late.

However, the lie was soon exposed, and both mother and brother told the little falcon seriously. Fighting is ok, but lying is not. Because fighting may be a child's impulse, lying is different, it is an essential problem of a person. Educated by her mother and brother, Yutai was very ashamed, realized her mistakes and learned lessons.

Finally, we talked about the growth of kestrel from a crying baby to a brave boy with the care and care of his family and his own efforts.

Falcon's father is strict on the surface, but he is good to his children. Not to mention the mother of the little falcon, who graduated from normal school and worked as a primary school teacher, has always been very gentle with her children. My brothers also take care of kestrels. Under the care of his family, the little falcon, although sensitive and crying, has been living happily and has grown up slowly, which has been recognized by his classmates. He also became the vice president and the kind and brave man he hoped for.

"How to say that children will listen, how to listen to children will talk."

The courage to be hated