Why do many single women in their thirties care nothing about their marriage?

Women who are not married in their thirties will have a lot of troubles, such as parents urging marriage, outsiders not understanding, gossip and so on.

With women's ideological and economic independence, they don't care about marriage, but they don't want to deal with it. The remaining reasons for the leftover men are poverty, ugliness and honesty, while the leftover women are the opposite, with outstanding ability and good looks.

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The reasons why women don't get married are obvious and can be roughly divided into the following points.

First, the resources of leftover men are poor.

Some people say that leftover women have high vision, but in fact, leftover men have poor resources. According to statistics, the proportion of rural surplus men is the largest, and the reasons for not finding a wife come from economy, education and family.

Now the countryside has caught up with the country's good policies, and many rural areas have begun to get rid of poverty and become rich. Most of the little girls in the countryside are married to the city, and the young men in the countryside have become bachelors.

If you want to change this situation, young people in rural areas should earn their own living. For example, using the Internet to develop rural economy, or learning a technology to develop in cities.

Young people in rural areas cannot give up their studies. They should apply what they have learned. They have diplomas and knowledge, and they are afraid of not finding a wife. There are many girls in universities all over the world. Being admitted to the university will increase your chances.

Therefore, if you want the leftover women to get married, you must first upgrade the resources of the leftover men. In a marriage with a big gap, one party can't keep balance and the marriage won't last long.

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Second, influenced by parents' unhappy marriage.

Leftover women always want to find someone who knows themselves and can work together for future happiness. In China families, parents lack expression of love, and make-do marriages abound.

In the eyes of outsiders, it is a loving couple, but in fact, the marriage has already broken down. Couples who are married now and leave soon don't care about the weight of marriage at all. If they love each other, they will be together. If they don't love each other, they will divorce.

Marriage is not a child's play. Couples must think it over before they get married. Getting a marriage license requires a marriage exam, and then get married after passing the exam.

Husband and wife quarrel, their feelings break down, and the children suffer the most. Which child doesn't want to have a harmonious family, but it backfires, quarrels, insults and even hands-on, which has a great influence on the child's future.

Influenced by the family background, children will follow the way couples deal with marriage problems when they grow up. Such a vicious circle keeps going back and forth, which makes many people afraid to accept marriage.

A happy marriage and family requires the joint efforts of two people. Husband and wife should learn to understand and respect each other. Understanding requires thinking from each other's perspective, and respect requires abiding by each other's bottom line.

Marriage is when two people grow up together. After discovering contradictions, we should learn to resolve them and treat problems equally and rationally. You can't be immune and claim to be the overlord. Over time, marriage will fade.

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Third, leftover women know how to work hard.

Leftover women are generally excellent, no less than men in the workplace, and economically independent from others. Such a woman still hasn't given up her efforts and has a good plan for the future.

If there is no bright spot in a man, it is difficult to attract him. So it's not that the leftover women are arrogant, but that they have such capital.

If a man wants to conquer the leftover women, he must learn to change himself. Husband and wife appreciate each other and pursue each other. Men don't even have any advantages, so how can they let the leftover women fall in love?

Many men have a bad attitude towards leftover women, not because leftover women are so bad, but because men are incompetent. Men are naturally controlling, but leftover women make men want to wear them.

It's easier to get rid of poor leftover women than to admit that you are incompetent. Leftover women strive for a better life in the future and realize their own value.

If there is something worthy of their appreciation in men, they can even support men, regardless of their economy or each other's ability.

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Fourth, the leftover women want to find the right person.

Leftover women know how to cherish marriage and will be very cautious when choosing the other half. They have passed the age of impulsiveness, seeing things more comprehensively and thinking longer.

Marriage is not two people living together, but the precipitation of love. Even without vigorous love and small beauty, happiness can be found.

Some people say that leftover women are picky and self-righteous, but in fact they just want to find the right person. Even if that person doesn't show up, I don't want to get married.

I'd rather live alone than ask for trouble. Among the options of unhappy married life and living alone, the leftover women chose the latter.

So don't bombard the leftover women easily, they have the ability to choose a better man. No matter in marriage or in society, women who can be economically independent have the right to choose.

Marriage is not to marry a person, but to marry a family. The parents of the other side will also affect marriage, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the highlight of family conflicts.

If you don't choose carefully, in case the other person is Ma Baonan, how much anger you have to suffer when you get married, it is better to live a chic life. Women also have parents, so it is not sweet to show filial piety to their parents when they are angry.

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To sum up, the 30-year-old leftover women don't care about marriage, but don't want to make do. They have the ability to choose people who know them better and better.

A man can marry a wife in his career, but why can't a woman find grass in her career? Therefore, with the changes of the times, men and women have equal status, and women should be respected, instead of demanding them with old ideas.

Some people even think that women should not go to work, and leftover men can marry wives. When the feudal society was over, women had already turned over, and men didn't work hard themselves, and they blamed others for being better than him.