I have surpassed stuttering-the legendary self-help experience of a severe stutterer!

(Note: I wrote this article on 20 1 1).

(continued)

My name is An Feng. I have been suffering from severe stuttering for more than 20 years because of poor education at home and school! Later, after continuous study, reflection, practice and hard training. Now I have completely got rid of my stuttering problem! Of course, I believe that 99% of friends who are troubled by stuttering are in a closed state of mind and don't believe that stuttering can be corrected at all! "Stuttering is an incurable disease" is an ironclad fact in their hearts. But you know what? My experience shows that stuttering can be completely eliminated!

I speak with facts! Below I will write in detail how my severe stuttering happened and developed, and how I got rid of the problem of severe stuttering. I believe I can help more friends who are lost and struggling in the stuttering swamp!

(childhood)

I was born in a family where women are strong and men are weak. My parents always deny, spoil, criticize, interfere, criticize, insult and insult my education. I grew up in an extremely disharmonious family atmosphere. Because children's physiological characteristics and living environment are full of panic, fear, depression and anxiety, when I was about three or four years old, I showed signs of stuttering, such as impatience, repetition and jamming, but I didn't pay attention to it, just stuttered unconsciously, and I didn't have any negative thoughts and fears about stuttering. But whenever I stutter, my parents always interrupt me, remind me, criticize me and correct me. And instilled a lot of negative knowledge about stuttering in me. For example: stuttering is humiliating, stuttering will be laughed at, looked down upon, discriminated against, etc. In fact, there are many children aged three or four in ................................................................................................................................................ who will get stuck and repeat when they speak. This is a normal phenomenon in children's learning to speak, but if educators don't understand this knowledge, they will often correct and guide children's normal stuttering, laying the groundwork for children to form real stuttering problems in the future. Perhaps this is the first watershed between stutterers and "normal people"! In the fifth grade of primary school, my family moved from the countryside to the city, transferred to school and transferred to the hukou. Rural children who study in cities are often looked down upon by primary school students. After all, children are not sensible. But sadly, there are two teachers in our class who are also snobs. Often make discriminatory verbal insults and attacks on me. I can't adapt to it in a strange environment, and with the ridicule and insult of my classmates and teachers, this sense of helplessness is even stronger. But my fear of stuttering didn't seem to show at that time. I just feel deeply lonely and helpless. And my parents are only interested in my academic performance. As for my spiritual world, I have never asked. Gradually, I changed from a lively and cheerful child to an inferiority complex and timid child.

(follow)

I once went to menstruation's house to play. After entering the room, I called "Auntie" and got stuck. Big ... big sister. She was laughed at by her sister. (At that time, my sister was still young, seventeen or eighteen at most. ) I felt so humiliated at that time. This undoubtedly confirms what my mother said: stuttering will be laughed at and looked down upon. ................................................................................................................................. Although ............................ used to get stuck when he spoke, I never stuttered in my heart, and I wouldn't pay attention to him. If you don't card, you won't card. When I speak, my heart is completely free! Natural cards, put them down naturally. But since this incident, I will consciously pay attention to whether I stutter or get stuck when I speak. I began to have a fear of stuttering for the first time!

Although I feel inferior, I have been laughed at for stuttering, but my love for speaking and expressing will not change for a while.

I often tell jokes to my classmates in class and often make half of them laugh. The same is true in military training. I'm still telling jokes to my classmates after lights out. Although I still love talking and laughing, I began to cover up my stuttering at that time. I'm not free inside. Coupled with the misconception of stuttering, natural speech will be deliberately controlled to avoid some difficult pronunciation. Sometimes I feel that I have to get stuck in advance, and I will use other words that are easy to pronounce instead. Sometimes I think the card is too powerful, so I just change it to another word. When you have a strong premonition of stuttering, simply swallow the whole sentence into your stomach and never allow yourself to say it. I always feel that if I get stuck, I will be laughed at and looked down upon. So the more I fear, the more I fear, the more I fear, the more I hide, and the more I am controlled.

I didn't expect this control to be more than ten years. ......

So the vicious circle began.

(strengthening)

Once my aunt called my home. I hesitate to say a few words. So my aunt urged me eagerly over there: say, say it quickly, you say it quickly! I'm more nervous and scared. I stammered a few words and then hung up. A few days later, I was worried about my aunt calling. From then on, I began to be afraid of making phone calls. I always feel stupid, and I will be urged by the person on the other end of the phone, which will make the person on the other end unhappy. For many years, I was afraid of making phone calls, especially at home. I never answer the phone. I'm always afraid I'll be laughed at if I can't say it well. I really can't answer the phone, and I will nervously control my voice and the rhythm of my speech. Say a few perfunctory words. It must be strange to trust each other. My heart hurts. It feels really useless!

With the gradual strengthening of self-awareness in adolescence, I naturally care more about what others think of me. So in the later life, as long as I speak, I will control it intentionally or unintentionally, especially when I have a premonition of stuttering. I'm afraid people will hear me stutter! When you speak, you enter a state of inhibition. Control, hide. That feeling is really suffocating. But it is not always well controlled, and the fox's tail is often exposed. Once I stutter at home, my parents will still imitate me and laugh at me. So when I speak, I am more restrained, more controlled, and the fight with stuttering is more intense. Every time I encounter setbacks because of stuttering, I will sink for many days.

Gradually, I got used to this kind of control. Although it is very tiring to control my speech, my serious stuttering will not be found. In life, talk less if you can, and don't talk if you can't. Although many times I can't express my feelings perfectly and safeguard my dignity well, in the eyes of others, I am basically a normal person, sometimes stuttering and sometimes I don't express myself. ......

(lost)

As the days passed, I still kept hiding my stuttering and propped up my face feebly. Gradually, I got used to this control. Even deep down, I have accepted my appearance and thought I was just a dumb normal person! There is no such thing as stuttering ... but it is like a chronic poison, which has gradually eroded my will and twisted my soul bit by bit.

I sang in a bar for two years in college. After two years of "drifting north" and "wandering" life. After graduating from college, I chose business. I became a salesman. Compared with singing with black and white stripes, it is more suitable for my down-to-earth work. Identity has changed from a student to an employee, and the pressure has naturally increased a lot. A salesman's job requires a strong eloquence. I care more about what others think of me. Fear of stuttering has also doubled. As a salesman, a lot of work is done by telephone, which is undoubtedly my biggest challenge. Talking to customers and leaders is torture for me. Every time I make a phone call, I get nervous, keep my voice down, speak carefully, or speak quickly, or find a noisy road and shout it out with a loud voice on purpose. Of course, there is only one purpose to do this-to hide stuttering! Of course, this will only be when you are in a good state, when you are in a bad state and have a strong sense of stuttering, no matter who calls, just don't answer! That depressing feeling is extremely painful!

The company meeting is my biggest fear. My heart beats wildly before every meeting. I am most afraid that the leader will let us speak one by one. Colleagues use this opportunity to express themselves to the leaders, while I only look at the performance of others. At every meeting, I am the one who talks the least. Can not talk, can not talk. Sometimes I have to talk. I also tried to squeeze out two easy-to-say correction words, and my expression was extremely unnatural, incoherent and unconfident. More often, leaders begin to doubt my ability to work, and colleagues think I am strange. When you talk to me, you care about your innocent little brother. I am often ignored and despised. This is the inevitable result of a person's incompetence! But where do they know? I have a lot of ideas in my mind. Actually, I'm trying to cover it up. I'm afraid that stuttering will be found out. My heart is so depressed and painful! I'm not the real me in front of them.

Where did you go, the sunny boy who used to be lively, cheerful and expressive?

I am becoming more and more inferior. ......

Going out is also a torment for me. Because it is possible to communicate with people on any occasion. Every day before I go out, I hope and pray: I hope no one will talk to me today. When a stranger asks me the way, I always say a few vague words after I suddenly get nervous. People who ask for directions often don't understand what I'm saying at all, either glance at me or walk away with a contemptuous smile. I know exactly how to get to that place, and I know how to tell him in detail. But I dare not. I'm afraid my stuttering will show up in front of others. I'm afraid of being laughed at! When going out to play with my girlfriend and asking for directions, she always takes the lead. I couldn't even say my name for a long time. I am also the most silent person to visit relatives on holidays. A few pleasantries are perfunctory as soon as you enter the door, and there is nothing to say after you sit down. When I talk to people, once I stutter, I feel that when I am stuck, the air around me freezes for an instant, as if the sky is falling, and my abnormal appearance is unobstructed. It's really embarrassing. I believe that in the eyes of others, I must be a dumb person, an unconfident person and a freak! Others must be secretly laughing at me! Just like when I was a child, my sister laughed at me! Speaking is on thin ice for me, and speaking is a kind of punishment and torture for me!

(despair)

Because of stuttering, I can't express myself well in communication. Because of stuttering, I can't fight for my own interests on many occasions, and I can't maintain my dignity even when I am ridiculed! Also because of stuttering, I missed many job opportunities and promotion opportunities! I am envious to see that all people can express themselves with ease in communication, work and life. Due to extreme inferiority and depression, the vicious circle of my stuttering is getting more and more serious, and it seems that I have to shoulder a heavy burden every day when I go to work. I can't breathe. Language is the basic tool for communication between people. And I can't even say a word well. what can I do? The fear of stuttering has gradually penetrated into my bone marrow. My character also suffers from stuttering. Once that confident teenager has left me! I am a person forgotten by the world! Every time in the dead of night, I always lie in bed and ask myself: Why do people talk? Being dumb may make me more confident than I am now. Oh, my god Why do you want me to suffer so much? Where is the real me? Hidden by the stuttering snow! Who can understand me?

In fact, I have tried to use this method: speak slowly and think. But it feels useless. Can't solve the fundamental problem. Because when I speak, my heart will never be free. Especially on some occasions, it is impossible to control the speed of speaking in a tense situation. The more nervous you are, the more worried you are about the difficulty in pronunciation. Anyone who has difficulty pronouncing will get stuck there without exception. Embarrassment and ridicule ......

(Strike) 20 10 is the most serious year of social fear (I used to have a serious social fear). I can't stand it anymore, because social fear and stuttering have in turn destroyed me, and my life is bleak. I have no way out. I began to read books about success, reading them every day and motivating myself repeatedly. Between suicide and breakthrough, I chose a breakthrough. I think speaking can give people confidence. So I attended a speech salon. .................................................................................................................................................................................., this is the first time in my life to speak on the podium. I don't remember walking on stage at all. Because I'm so nervous. Actually, there are only five or six people down there. I was completely confused when I came on stage. I can't believe I can't say a word. You can't even say my name. One is extremely nervous, and the other is afraid that others will find me stuttering! I really didn't expect to feel this way in front of everyone. It's like there is a very high and thick wall in front of you. The obstacles are great and I am completely speechless. It's really embarrassing. I was completely confused there by myself. Like a mute! I froze on the stage. The audience is also silent! Later, I walked down from the podium with my head down. It's embarrassing ... and then. I went to the club twice again. I feel worse every time. It seems that more emphasis is placed on how to make a speech, the connotation of the speech, elegance and so on. I don't think it is helpful to improve courage and self-confidence and get rid of stuttering and social fear. On the contrary, my stuttering and social phobia are more serious. I haven't been there since. Because of the blow. In the following days, I was overwhelmed by confusion and helplessness. Can stuttering be corrected? I'm afraid of making phone calls, communicating with people and having meetings. Do I have to be a silent person all my life? Do I have to watch others perform all my life? Am I going to be a loser all my life? I am not reconciled!

(Breakthrough) Later, I gradually came into contact with some books on psychology and some biographies of great men. I began to realize that stuttering is a psychological disorder ... and after careful consideration, I found that elegant speech is not what I want! What I want should be a feeling that can completely shake my heart! The kind of devil training that can crush my inferiority! So one day, I started my first breakthrough in my life-a breakthrough speech in the waiting room (I won't describe the process of my successful breakthrough in detail, you can read my article "Beyond Social Fear". After a year of study, reflection and experience. I've changed! I have become more cheerful and confident, and I have become more comfortable. Think of the child who used to feel inferior and depressed and was extremely afraid to express himself in public. Up to now, I have regarded expressing myself in public as my greatest hobby! It can really be said to be a miracle! I seem to see me as a child again. The one who dares to perform on stage and likes to perform on stage! I have surpassed that me! This is the power of breakthrough! Gradually, this feeling of self-confidence gradually spread to my life ..... and my theory was gradually formed through constant study, practice and exploration. Later, I set up my own website-Crazy Breakthrough Group Psychological Quality Training Center. In the group of our center, there are also many self-abased, shy and confident friends who speak in public. We organize parties, mountain climbing, KTV, dinners and chats every week. We are like a harmonious family. Of course, we have our own breakthrough training. We shouted slogans in downtown, chatted with strangers, promoted spiritual practice, and gave speeches in waiting rooms and buses, attracting people's eyes of surprise, admiration and admiration! We encourage and support each other together, * * * and progress, * * * and growth! And there are many friends who got rid of their demons with my help!

By remolding my personality and creating my own breakthrough training, my stuttering has been greatly alleviated. I almost completely got rid of my serious social fear. I can speak for more than 40 minutes in almost any public place, like nobody's business. But I find that sometimes I get inexplicably nervous before giving a speech. Stuttering doesn't seem to be completely solved because I train myself crazily. The process of speaking is sometimes troubled by the premonition of stuttering. When I encounter some difficult pronunciations, I sometimes use other words instead. So I began to reflect again. Breakthrough training undoubtedly plays a great role in improving people's self-confidence, courage and psychological quality. But what about stuttering? Every time I have a strong premonition of stuttering, I feel nervous before giving a speech. When I have no premonition of stuttering, I speak with confidence! What does this mean? It means that what I am afraid of now is no longer the speech itself. But-expose stuttering!

(direction)

After a long period of thinking and research. During the period, I also consulted many experts in stuttering correction and consulted some related books. I finally come to the conclusion that after a year of breakthrough, I have never really faced stuttering! Because even if I can forget my speech on any occasion, I still aim at not stuttering and hiding my stuttering. In other words, I am still afraid of stuttering! Therefore, we should get rid of stuttering completely. I think stuttering must be thoroughly exposed, without any concealment or cover-up. Completely release the inner pressure. Yes, I want to completely desensitize and stutter again! Because transformation requires complete transformation. Leave no trace! I want to completely break through my fear of stuttering! ! !

So I improved my theory! Supplement many scientific anti-traditional stuttering correction ideas.

(Breakthrough again) So I started my first bus exposure stuttering speech in my life! This is a brand-new breakthrough! I have been hiding my stuttering for more than ten years, and now it is finally obvious.

Think about it. It was really painful. In the past, all implicit stuttering became explicit stuttering. Strength is naturally increased several times. It also has great challenges to psychological endurance! Yes, in the past breakthrough year, I have never really faced myself in stuttering. And after I completely let myself go, my stuttering phenomenon is dozens of times that before. My position seems to have suddenly fallen from the bus horn to the disabled-I can't even say a word! My heart is about to jump out of my body. The real me turned out to be a complete stutter! The embarrassment of stuttering in public was really unbearable for me at that time. I'm fed up with people's strange eyes. Of course, there are many people who encourage me and give me advice. I thank them. Even a high school student was moved by my spirit of "being physically disabled and determined" and gave me a thumbs-up with tears and said: You are the best! But even if it hurts, it hurts. I gritted my teeth and stuck to it. Just like when I first broke through last summer. As the first bus speaker in Beijing, I, as far as I know, am also the first and only person in China who dares to expose his stuttering completely and give a bus speech alone. Yes, whoever is in the right direction and whose method is scientific, advanced and correct will have the courage, who will stick to the end and who will be the winner!

(success)

Of course, the miracle happened to me again!

After three months of crazy training. Gradually, I found out. The knot hidden in my heart 10 years began to dissolve. My fear of stuttering has decreased from a lot to one point now. The phenomenon of stuttering is naturally much lighter. Of course, the process is very painful. I tried to cover up my stuttering for more than ten years, and it finally saw the sunshine! I'm not fighting anymore. I found that, in fact, it is far less ugly than I thought. Very cute, very lovable. It seems that I (we) have misunderstood too much ......

I am not afraid of stuttering. I accept stuttering, which naturally doesn't affect me. Of course, it doesn't mean that I don't stutter now, and stuttering won't be eliminated at once. Changing the wrong idea of stuttering, daring to stutter and accepting stuttering unconditionally are the signs of getting rid of stuttering. And this feeling of freedom is something I have never experienced before by speaking slowly, thinking, taking control and pronouncing. Got the freedom to speak. My expressive ability and speaking level naturally depend on a higher level. When communicating with others, you can also express your views accurately! I will never be nervous, because I am afraid of stuttering when I make a speech. I really became a free and unrestrained bus speaker! No matter work, study or life, no matter what you do at any time, you won't hide it, you won't control it, and there are no obstacles in your heart! Communication is communication. Change your performance, argue, and give full play to yourself! What a great freedom! It's really great to open your heart and feel real!

(feeling)

Now my theory is more perfect, including ways to get rid of social fear and stuttering. My legendary transformation experience also attracted many friends with psychological problems, and everyone participated in our breakthrough training. And succeed. Seeing that everyone is getting better and better, I am really happy for everyone. The principle of correcting stuttering is simple: I think solving stuttering is exactly the same as solving social fears-exposure and desensitization! Of course, compared with pronunciation, it is difficult for me to play hardball! In essence, stuttering (acquired) actually stems from "fear"! The more afraid, the more stuttering, the more afraid, the more flustered, the more depressed, a vicious circle! The degree of stuttering is directly proportional to your fear of stuttering, misunderstanding of stuttering and negative thoughts! I think it is the most scientific to eliminate the fear of stuttering (rather than simply eliminating the phenomenon of stuttering, just like a person who is afraid of blushing wants to eliminate blushing)! So the solution to stuttering and social fear should be the same! Do what you are afraid of! What pronunciation and breathing method a stutterer uses is equivalent to a person who is afraid of blushing. It is the same reason that you have to drink a lot of wine before going out with him to make people think that he is not blushing because he is shy. Speak slowly and rhythmically. No matter how well you speak, people who are troubled by stuttering will be more scared once they integrate into life! More afraid of stuttering! Resist stuttering! The method will also lose its effect! More will doubt the method! Then I wonder if stuttering can be corrected! Will also be pessimistic and disappointed in life! This does not solve the essential problem. I can't solve my psychological obstacle of stuttering! In fact, escaping, covering up and confronting completely violate the laws of nature. If we don't face up to and eliminate the earliest slight stuttering phenomenon, then it can't have such a strong vitality today! This is our fear of it! Attention! Sir! No Sir! Run away from it The cover-up of it has fueled its vitality! I once joined some stuttering groups, and through communication with them, I learned that every stutterer is very afraid of stuttering! Just as people who are afraid to tremble, people who blush dare not blush! For them (including me), stuttering is a tiger and stuttering is a lion! None of them agree with me. They think it's stupid and will aggravate stuttering! But through practice, I found the opposite result! Stuttering, like social fear, is because of fear! Fear of ridicule, fear of others not accepting, fear of embarrassment, fear of losing face ......................................................................................................................................................., your pressure will be released immediately. When you speak, you also gain freedom of mind! When the mind is free, it will naturally pay more attention to what is said. This will make stuttering less and lighter. This also started a virtuous circle. Your troubles will naturally be solved gradually. There is no trouble in stuttering, and after you speak without pressure, your stuttering phenomenon will naturally decrease little by little and disappear slowly! Stuttering is normal! On the contrary, your cognition of stuttering mistakes is abnormal!

Therefore, the best way to correct stuttering is to establish a correct concept of stuttering, and then completely give up the idea of correction and devote yourself to life!

Social fear bothers me and helps me save myself from fear, and stuttering also helps me get rid of fear.

My family, friends, relatives and colleagues have all discovered my great changes. Yes, I not only got rid of social fear and stuttering. Moreover, he jumped to death from an extremely self-abased and timid little stutterer and became a breakthrough speaker envied by the audience! This is a miracle! No matter on the bus, waiting room or downtown, we often practice driving, and everyone we see doesn't admire it! Getting rid of psychological barriers is not just getting rid of psychological barriers. By solving psychological obstacles, we will learn a lot of philosophy of life and improve our wisdom and ideological realm. It is a washing and sublimation of life. Become a superman who is far superior to others!

Friend, see? The above is my experience of transformation. Stuttering can be completely eliminated. Pronunciation, breathing, speaking slowly and other methods aimed at eliminating stuttering will not save you. Changing cognition, stuttering boldly, giving up correction and actively participating in social training and improvement are the right direction!

Those who lose wealth lose very little, those who lose health lose a lot, but those who lose courage lose everything!

I can do it, so can you! You just need to copy my successful experience. You can also work miracles! Victory will definitely belong to you!

Trust me!