How many people have nightmares about having a birthday in Haidilao?

Birthday fishing in Haidilao is tantamount to torture.

Little friends who have had personal experience or seen other people's birthday scenes will be deeply shocked by that scene and want to blow themselves up on the spot.

So that there is a warning motto circulating on the Internet: If you love someone, please take TA to Haidilao for a birthday; If you hate someone, please take TA to Haidilao for her birthday.

Can you imagine being suddenly surrounded by more than a dozen people holding birthday greetings in public, singing happy birthday songs, and then celebrating your birthday with 360 degrees immersion?

Yes, this is the birthday celebration scene featuring Haidilao!

I'm afraid the social death scene that people often talk about on the Internet refers to this kind of scene.

When browsing netizens' experiences about Haidilao's birthday, I found that the words they mentioned most were related to social activities.

Many people attribute this embarrassment to their social phobia, and then hate and reject themselves from the heart, hoping that they can be like social maniacs without being afraid of anyone's eyes and slandering the audience.

But after in-depth study, I found that both social cattle and social fear are actually behind people's beautiful vision of improving their social status.

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Social fear per capita in real life

Human emotions may not always be the same, but their feelings about social fear are surprisingly consistent.

A few years ago, a cartoon called "Finnish Nightmare" was popular.

This book is about the introversion of Finns, who are afraid of socializing and dialogue.

Many people read it and said, "Isn't that me?"

In daily life, you have more or less encountered such a scene:

Speaking in public, when the words are clearly on your lips, your brain is blank;

I met my half-baked neighbors and friends on the road. After a long time, I thought about whether to say hello. After some struggle, I finally chose to look down at my mobile phone and pretend not to see each other.

When I was about to go out, I would hide behind the door when I heard my neighbor was going out. After the other person went downstairs, I breathed a sigh of relief and then opened the door and went downstairs.

For social terrorists, "Don't talk if you can type, and don't meet if you can use a mobile phone" is a life-saving guide.

An organization once launched an online survey, and the results showed that among the more than 2,000 people who participated in the survey, only more than 60 people thought they had no social problems, and 97% of the participants expressed avoidance or even fear of socializing.

Obviously, social fear has become a common phenomenon at present, and it is not your problem alone.

Some people attribute social phobia to a disease: psychological social anxiety disorder, which is also a kind of anxiety disorder.

Others attribute it to narcissism.

However, no matter how it is divided and classified, social activities are an insurmountable hurdle for social terrorists.

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Social genius per capita on the internet

It seems to be a reaction to social fear. When almost everyone in real life is afraid of society, an epidemic of "social arrogance" has begun to rise on the Internet.

The so-called social arrogance is actually the antonym of social phobia, which describes that people are not timid and uncomfortable in social interaction.

"Social cattle patients" usually don't care about being the focus of the crowd, let alone being afraid of others' eyes, being laughed at by others and having excellent psychological quality.

They show that they can chat with anyone indiscriminately, even across species:

"C- presence" can become the focus of the crowd no matter what occasion;

"Self-confidence", they are always confident, even if their words and deeds are strange to others, they are not afraid of others' eyes:

Socially arrogant people can be like nobody's business in public, never afraid of attracting attention, and even want to attract attention.

Because in their eyes, as long as they are not embarrassed, it must be someone else.

Jiao Shuangxi, an online celebrity called "Brother B" by Jianghu people, is a pioneer and master of social arrogance.

His whole way of life is to entertain the audience by disgusting himself and the people around him. The content is not limited to "loudly pointing out that others fart on the bus" and "crying for the taste of childhood in the restaurant".

The famous scene is to call him a cow in the subway and dare to eat shit. Whoever dares to pull will dare to eat, eating three pounds every day, and the more you eat, the more awesome you are.

Although these live videos of Brother B are old-fashioned more than 10 years ago, the social bovine disease videos that are popular now are basically like this.

Their enthusiasm and humble "service attitude" even made the waiters in Haidilao feel ashamed:

They can also do it in front of the beauty, put down the man's face and dignity, just to win the beauty a captivating smile:

There are even people who risk being killed on the spot, wearing stockings headgear that only robbers in movies can equip, and haunt the downtown area like no one's watching.

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When social cattle become a new type of "social fear"

It seems that overnight, social cattle patients suddenly occupied the major platforms of the network.

The behavior of social cattle people without any burden and pressure in their hearts has aroused the envy and admiration of social terrorists.

Social terrorists brush the video of social scalpers, as if they had experienced a cool social article, and gained a short relief while substituting themselves into other people's social stories.

However, with the involution of social cattle, it is inevitable to go to the other extreme.

Their behavior is becoming more and more chaotic, and they even take pleasure in offending others.

Someone robbed others of their food in the canteen;

Someone deliberately touched the chocolate column with their hands:

Others in the crowded subway station, loudly announced that they have developed six pulse Excalibur, and they also made a decent gesture:

These acts suddenly became another kind of "social terrorism"-social terrorism.

Obviously, even after watching this video of 100 hour, the social life of social terrorists in reality may not get better or even worse.

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Write it at the end

However, whether it is the average social fear in real life or the average social cow on the internet, it seems to be reflected from the side that people are at a loss when facing social interaction.

Effective communication in the pure sense is greatly reduced, and communication is given more instrumental purposes, such as communication in daily work and maintenance of working relationship.

People who are not good at or don't like this kind of communication will often be physically and mentally exhausted, which will lead to boredom and resistance.

Social cattle, on the other hand, have entered the other extreme, which is extremely utilitarian and purposeful, and often makes people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable because of their grandiose performance.

Whether it is social cattle or social fear, it may reflect our helpless but distinct attitude towards social interaction at present: either actively cater to it or avoid talking about it.

When social phenomena are discussed again and again, the communication between people really deserves our deep thought.