I have no background, I am too serious in the workplace, I am always excluded, and my leaders don't like me. What should I do?

There is an old saying in our country: "The best is easy to muddy, and the smallest is easy to fold", which means that clean things simply become dirty, and things that are too high simply break (meaning that trees attract the wind). This sentence is not only a social rule, but also applies to the workplace.

It is no exaggeration to say that some phenomena in the workplace are like a big dye vat. It's hard to be honest, and you must be prepared to pay the price. I have been in the workplace for many years and have a deep understanding of this. There is nothing wrong with keeping the bottom line in your heart, and there is nothing wrong with not sharing weal and woe with the little people, but it is wrong to be outstanding. A group of chickens are trying to dig for food, but you look on coldly like an idle and comfortable person, even dismissive. We put you on the shelf and the leaders don't like you, which is completely in line with the value culture of modern society.

Without background, since there is no scenery, you are in a difficult situation in the workplace, and it is difficult to make a living as a person with your tail between your legs, but you just love being serious. The inconvenience is that the bomb fell into the toilet, which not only aroused public anger, but also splashed your ass! This is a matter of your personality. There is nothing wrong with working hard, but being too serious is dogma. If you want to do any work well, you should have both discipline and sensitivity. Sticking to the policy and lacking flexibility will make enemies everywhere; The loss criterion, paying attention to all directions, will cause trouble. So the golden mean is the right way to live.

Now, your partners flatter you and your leaders don't like you, which is the result of your dogmatic care. How to improve this embarrassing situation?

First, grasp the principle with one hand and the sensitive principle and sensitivity with the other. Don't go to extremes, but stick to the golden mean. When the problem is not big, or it can be big or small, we should grasp the sensitivity and don't use a standard ruler to measure some trivial things. This is the way to accommodate people; If the problem is serious, or if you raise your hand, you may bring yourself trouble. At this time, you need to stick to the guidance, which is the way to protect yourself.

Second, improve the way of communication with us. In my analysis, the reason why we isolate you should have a lot to do with your communication style. Generally speaking, it is hard for us to accept that people who obey the rules and do things carefully speak bluntly. In the future work, we should pay attention to our own words, even if we refuse, we should say it euphemistically, and we should not intensify contradictions because of words.

Third, learn to close your eyes and shut up. In the workplace, there are inevitably some things you don't like and some people you don't like. If you speak frankly and call a spade a spade, what you think and say will definitely offend people. In order to have excellent interpersonal relationships and improve the living environment, you should learn to adapt! Close your eyes and shut up when you know it's none of your business.

Fourth, handle the contact with leaders. The leader doesn't like you now, which shows that he is very dissatisfied with your current behavior. Why? Because of your integrity and stubborn donkey style. Officers are too cautious and do not know how to be flexible, which will inevitably lead to unhappy leaders. Therefore, in order to change your appearance, you need to find ways to ease contact with leaders, such as being able to talk to leaders, make self-criticism, and show your position when necessary. In this way, the leader will change his view of you.