Why can the hatred of the moon be remembered for a lifetime?

When I was very young, I often heard my mother talk about my grandmother.

Mom can't speak well of grandma. "You don't know how cruel your grandmother is. Your brother is ill, and your grandmother won't show it. At that time, the family was poor and had no money. Finally, I went back to my home and asked for a few dollars. "

Strangely, no matter what the mother says, the father will say, "How many years ago, don't say it in front of the children."

Father was not angry, and there was a trace of indefensible on his face.

"Am I wrong? You don't know what kind of person your mother is and how she treats me. I took good care of your mother when she was ill and gave her a pension. "

Father still doesn't talk. Actually, my mother was right. Father knows very clearly and feels guilty. Naturally, there is nothing to say.

I have never met my grandmother. My grandmother died of illness when I was born. I have no feeling about the word "grandma", which is dispensable.

When I grow up, I sometimes talk to my mother about the past and laugh at how she never forgets to take revenge all her life.

Mother said, "I can remember the hatred of the moon all my life, but I won't hate it all my life." It doesn't make sense to care about this with a dead man. " But I won't read her, because there is nothing to say between me and her. These are all in the past, and I don't hate your mother. It's over. "

My mother suffered a lot when she was young and never enjoyed the happiness that women should enjoy during pregnancy. When pregnant, it is common to cook by yourself, do farm work in the fields and take care of the children. Even the mother who is confinement touches cold water, cooks and takes care of the children. Women in those days really suffered too much, and they all "survived" in marriage.

Many men may not understand why women can remember the hatred in the moon all their lives. Men always think this is a trivial matter, and there is nothing to haggle over. I want to say, because you haven't experienced it, you don't know how difficult it is for your wife.

If you have suffered a serious physical injury and haven't recovered, and your wife ignores you when you need her care, will you be chilling?

We often say that relatives should help each other, but what makes you sad is that sometimes relatives are worse than strangers.

"I never wanted to expect your grandmother to do everything by herself, but I can't treat her like a good person. If I can't, don't persuade me to be generous. "

Why can the hatred of the moon be remembered for a lifetime? I interviewed nine women who had given birth and listened to their experiences.

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@ Ms. Yao "I won't forget those pains."

I told my husband that I couldn't fucking walk anymore, so I would cook at most and not wait on her. She wouldn't let my husband sign it because I had a caesarean section. In the end, it was really bad. I signed it myself. On the night of caesarean section, it was originally that she and her husband took turns to take care of the children, but she didn't like being a daughter, making the children cry or feeding them to coax them. I got up and coaxed the child into not withdrawing anesthesia, and opened the wound and sewed it up again.

I can't forget the pain I experienced.

@ Ms. Wang "I have a fever and my mother-in-law hates me for not cooking."

Mother-in-law didn't come to take care of the child for a day, and her mother-in-law was embarrassed to come for half a month. The nanny I found at home, I still have a fever for half a day and I have an infusion at night. My mother-in-law says I don't cook for her son in the morning. Since then, I have been chilling. After all, it's not that my mother doesn't know that she loves me.

@ Ms. Chen "I gave birth to a second child, and my mother-in-law is now looking for gas."

My first child is a daughter and my second child is a son. Originally, both children were happy, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be a poor master. My eldest daughter is spoiled by her mother-in-law. She is too arrogant to listen. When I was a child, my eldest daughter cried for two hours in the middle of the night every day, and I couldn't rest at all.

My mother-in-law can't cook. I made her wash diapers all day. She always procrastinates and especially likes to go out for a walk.

Such a mother-in-law is not looking for gas. My mother is very angry and asked me to take her home, so I can take it myself.

@ Ms. Zhang "The pain of distant marriage, bitter water to swallow in the stomach."

My mother-in-law didn't go to the hospital when I was married far away and gave birth to a child. On the third day of caesarean section, before getting out of bed, my mother-in-law said to me, "I will go home in half a month." I asked her to tell her son that my husband wouldn't let her go back, and as a result, she did everything, lying down and watching TV, not buying food or cooking. I really couldn't stand it, and finally let my husband send her away.

My son is three years old, but he still remembers it clearly. He just feels that he can't get through his heart. He didn't want to go back on holidays, and his heart was jammed.

@ Ms. Yang "I regard her as my family, and she treats me as an outsider."

When I first got married, I treated my mother-in-law better than my parents, but people thought you flattered them and wanted to humiliate you. My mother-in-law and I are "old and dead." If my mother-in-law had not died early, I might have divorced my father.

@ Ms. Qin "You haven't experienced it, don't persuade me to be generous."

I need to take care of myself when I am weakest, and it is also awkward for that woman named mother-in-law to cook in the month. Ask what to eat every day. If I have a baby, I know I have a moon meal. Let her throw it back even if she doesn't take it away. Can we not hold grudges?

@ Zhao Nvshi, "Thank you for meeting a good mother-in-law."

My mother-in-law is very nice. When I was hospitalized by caesarean section, she scrubbed my body and did whatever she wanted me to do. When there is no milk, she tries to help me take care of the children. I don't want her to take care of it herself. She was so used to babies that she went back to her parents' house.

Three months later, she still didn't want to go to work and resigned. Her mother-in-law went on working and gave me two thousand yuan a month.

Thank you for meeting a good mother-in-law I took good care of her when she was ill. People's hearts are long. You are good to me, and I will be good to you.

@ Ms. Lu "My child divorced at the age of one."

I am a one-year-old nanny. To tell the truth, I want children but I don't want a husband. If you don't get married like this, there may not be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and between husband and wife. Husband has an affair, it is better not to be such a man. My mother-in-law prefers boys to girls, and she doesn't care about things at home, just throw them to me.

When a man loses humanity and has no bottom line, it will only bring endless pain to the baby! What's the use of him? Of course, I will remember the revenge of the moon all my life!

@ Ms. Lan "I am a mother-in-law, and I won't let my daughter-in-law suffer what I have suffered."

I don't understand why my mother-in-law always wants to bully her daughter-in-law! When I was a daughter-in-law, my mother-in-law made me suffer a lot, but as a mother-in-law, I will not pass this pain on to my children. Mother-in-law has no obligation to take care of her daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law has no obligation to take care of her mother-in-law, but what relatives say is mutual affection!

Don't lose your feelings, old man. If you don't take care of your daughter-in-law in the next month, her daughter-in-law will have a bad opinion of you. Don't blame others for being cruel.

03.

Seriously, I wrote this article to remind married men to be kind to their wives, and not to make them too chilling. A series of pains about children should not be borne by a woman alone. As a man, you should take responsibility and take good care of your wife, not let her suffer too much injustice.

At the same time, I also reminded some mother-in-law: "Everyone is a woman. Why do women bother women? You also come from your daughter-in-law. You have experienced "the pain of having children, the hatred of the moon, and the fatigue of bringing children". Since you have experienced it, don't let your daughter-in-law be too chilling. There is no obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is affection. Don't hurt mutual affection.

This should be a family that faces the wind and rain together, and don't be enemies.

The hatred of the moon may be unforgettable, but if you want to live your life well, don't torture yourself with this so-called hatred.

I still hope that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in harmony, with less malice and more kindness.