Why should I say it?

"Can you talk?" You must find it ridiculous to ask you this question. Who can't talk as long as they are normal people? Actually, the problem is not that simple.

Let's look at a few examples first. ...

A barber shop was robbed. The next day, the barber went to the client's house to shave his head, with a sad face. The customer asked him why he was worried.

The master replied, "Last night, a robber robbed me of my savings for a year. On second thought, I should only shave my head for a year. " The master got angry and drove it away, and another barber changed. The master asked, "There was a master who served you before. Why did you change to a villain? " The host explained in detail what happened in front of him. The master nodded and said, "A barber who can't talk like this really ruined his job."

At the birthday party, the guests all said the word "longevity". One person said "Longevity in Peng Zu", another said "Longevity is better than Nanshan", and another said "Happiness is like suffering". The guest said, "This is not only unlucky, but also the word" longevity "is not the word" longevity ". It's time to punish wine, and then make an appointment. " After drinking the wine, the man said, "Is it fate to live a long life?" Everyone said angrily, "birthday, birthday, how can you say such unlucky things?" The man said to himself, "Damn it, damn it."

Invite a guest, and three of the four guests arrive first. The man waited anxiously and said to himself, "Alas, what should come has not come yet." A guest was very unhappy: "So, I shouldn't come?" Say goodbye and leave. The master was anxious and said, "What should not be left is left again." Another guest was also unhappy: "Am I the one who should go and stay?" As soon as he got angry, he stood up and left. The host said to the rest of the guests with a wry smile, "They misunderstood, but I didn't mean them …" The last guest left.

Look, is it easy? If we don't behave when we speak, we may hurt others, cause misunderstanding and cause resentment. Pay attention to the occasion, object and atmosphere of speaking, and don't say it casually. For example, someone went to the vegetable market and asked the meat seller, "Master, how much is your meat?" Or the waiter in the restaurant brings a plate of sausages and says, "Sir, this is your intestines." Pay attention to avoid such jokes in life.

Lv Kun of Amin Dynasty believed that speaking was the first difficult thing in life. As mentioned above, it's not too difficult. As long as we pay attention to language cultivation, we will gradually improve the defects and shortcomings of our own speech. It's hard to talk, and the most deadly thing is that it's too difficult to tell the truth. For example, Zhao Gao of the Qin Dynasty was good at politics and wanted to usurp the Qin Dynasty, but he was afraid that someone would not accept it. So he pulled a deer on the field today and said to Qin Ershi, "I'll give your majesty a horse." The younger generation smiled and said, "Is there anything wrong with the Prime Minister? How can a deer call a horse? " Zhao Gao asked the DPRK minister to comment on who was right and who was wrong between him and II. Some are silent, some say horses meet Zhao Gao, and some say deer. Later, he said that he was a deer, and Zhao Gao set him up in secret. Listen, is this hard to say? Sometimes it is closely related to personal life!

CCTV opened a program "Tell the truth", and Cui Yongyuan, the host, talked about some things encountered in running the program. He said that now the world has changed and the era of "literary inquisition" has become a thing of the past. Telling the truth will no longer lead to great disaster, but "telling the truth from persecution may not be free from harm." "Tell the truth" invited hundreds of guests to talk in Kan Kan, and what was the result? A guest can't evaluate the title because he likes to show his face and doesn't learn business. The other is the deputy director of the institute, because doing the program has delayed the future, on the grounds that "the views in the program prove that this person has a problem with his world outlook." Once a program in which a newspaper reporter participated was broadcast, it immediately felt terrible. People say that he is conspicuous and dares to say anything, which is disgusting. Another radio reporter was censored by the leader after he came back, thinking that he must have taken a lot of money to say this. There is also an elderly woman who sincerely revealed her feelings about life in the program. As a result, many people asked her if she was crazy. ...

Cui Yongyuan said sadly, "So even we sometimes wonder how long this program will last?" He also realized that "speaking is the first difficulty in life."

Speaking is an art.

In our life, some people usually talk like this, and they talk like this when they meet leaders. Obviously, some people say so. I said it just now, and then I turned around and said it again. Not sincere, self-deception, so how tired and boring it is to live. The chameleon written by Russian writer Chekhov just keeps hitting his mouth, but we can't.

Sometimes, we can use wisdom and humor to solve the difficulty of speaking. For example, as a short story says, a lady got on a bus with her dog. She proudly said to the conductor, "Can I buy a ticket for the dog to sit like a man?" To this unreasonable request, the conductor replied, "Yes, but it must put its feet on the ground like a human."

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Zi of Qi often admonished Qi Jinggong. Once, a horse in Qi Jinggong died suddenly. Qi Jinggong was furious and ordered his men to dismember the groom with a knife. At this point, this is beside Qi Jinggong. Seeing the knife and axe coming in with a knife in their hands, they asked Qi Jinggong, "Whose body did Yao Shun dismember?" Qi Jinggong looked around and said, "Start with yourself." So he ordered not to dismember the horse breeder. He heard Yan Zi gently criticizing him. He didn't want to pardon the horse breeder, so he said, "Put him in prison! Yan Zi said, "OK, but let me tell you his crime first so as to convince him." Qi Jinggong said, "Yes." Yan Zi began to list three "crimes" of horse breeders. The monarch asked you to keep a horse, but you kept it dead, which is one of the capital crimes; Death is the monarch's favorite horse, which is the second capital crime; If the monarch is allowed to kill because of a horse, the people will hate the monarch when they hear about it, and the neighboring countries will despise our country when they hear about it. All this is because you killed the horse, so you should die three times. Somebody, put him in jail! Qi Jinggong understood the truth and said, "Let the horse breeder go, so don't hurt my benevolent government. "

Speaking requires some skills, which we need to learn, but this does not mean that we can give up our principles and refer to a deer as a horse. If you speak against your will, the skill becomes evil. Cui Yongyuan put it well: "Maybe one day we will discuss skills. We absorb experience with alcohol. When we proudly appreciate our sophistication, we find that we have lost a lot of things, and these things are very important to us. "

The conductor and Yan Zi are good at talking, but the premise is to stick to principles. We can't sacrifice principle and personality for skill.

Speaking of this matter, children will not find it difficult, just say their own ideas, and only adults think it is a problem. When people know how to look around, think about the past and the future, and know how to weigh and ponder, there are not many words in children's dictionaries. So, what should we do if we really want to say something, but we don't spit it out quickly and don't know how to say it? Cui Yongyuan had an idea: Tell the truth, as German coach schlappner said to China football players: "When you don't know what to do,

When the ball comes, kick it into the opponent's goal! "

This is the ultimate solution to the difficulty of speaking. Maybe we will offend some people and bring some troubles to ourselves because we tell the truth, but we are talking about the peace of conscience and don't have to regret it.