Because life is too hard, I must give you a piece of candy

I saw a video on Weibo where a boy confessed his love to a girl with a microphone. What moved me was one sentence in it.

The girl asked "Why?"

The boy said: "Because life is too hard, I must add your piece of candy."

Yes. Ah, life is really hard. Sometimes we feel that what we have encountered is already hard enough, but it turns out that others are even harder than us.

In high school, I had a friend who was about to take the college entrance examination. Her father was in a coma due to a car accident, and her mother kept it secret from her until the college entrance examination was over.

But her father ended up having his leg amputated. She was going to college at the beginning of school, and she had a young brother to take care of. Her mother had no job, and her father was the only one who made money at home. As a result, the sky fell.

I went to the hospital to see her and her father. How should I say, I am very grateful to the school and other students around me. At the last stage of leaving school, I gathered all the students in the school to donate a sum of money to her.

There is a video about post-graduation students, in which a person said, "My most miserable period was when I made steamed buns and pickled mustard every day for a week.

I didn't dare to tell my mother. , I don’t have the confidence, I was fine when I was in school, I could still ask for pocket money, but now that I have graduated, I can’t let them continue to spend money on me.”

What I’m most afraid of is not the encounter. A painful thing, it seems to be over if you endure it.

But there are many, many painful things put together, and those things can even make you lose confidence in life.

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If you haven’t seen it with your own eyes, you would never know that for some people, just living is a struggle.

87-year-old Li Zhongquan originally had a happy family, with two promising sons and a wife who loved each other.

Life played a joke on him. His eldest son and his second son studying in the United States had accidents one after another.

The eldest son was paralyzed and unable to take care of himself. The younger son Hao Qi returned to his parents in an unconscious state...

From then on, what they have to do every day The thing is to wait for him to wake up, and this wait will last 24 years.

"Even if there is a glimmer of hope, there is hope, so I persist until now." He said.

When life gives you a critical blow, it will always give you a bigger critical blow. Eight years ago, his wife also fell ill and suffered from angina pectoris and Alzheimer's disease. Life can only be borne by him alone.

Four years ago, Li Zhongquan, who was getting older, had no choice but to send his wife to a nursing home. After taking care of his son, he went to take care of his wife, even though his wife no longer recognized him.

As he gets older, he can’t help but think about his child’s future. He touches his son’s face and whispers, “When dad leaves this world, you can come with me.” ~”

I can’t describe the despair and sadness, who would have thought of it~

There are many such things in life, and sometimes even the people around me, every time I see them in my heart All sour.

Many friends have left messages behind the scenes, telling their own stories and talking about the difficulties they are facing now.

Someone told me that he fell out of love today and didn’t know if his current relationship could last.

Some people also said that he borrowed hundreds of thousands of dollars for his boyfriend and needed to pay it back.

Some people also messaged me privately, saying that my father was ill and the cost of treatment was overwhelming him.

I have read 90% of every message in the background, some have been replied to, and some have not been.

Probably I don’t know how to give you more positive energy. After all, I feel quite depressed sometimes.

Most of the time, I can only watch and give you a hug. In fact, it is really insignificant.

But I also hope that you can remember that there is still warmth and that there is always someone who loves you.

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One day I suddenly discovered that many people living alone have become miserable:

Often alone in a strange city, in the end Can't even pay the rent for the house.

In order to live a better life, we are accustomed to leaving, and we will leave with just a phone call.

After getting used to working overtime, I return to a person’s home when the lights are bright.

I can bear the feeling of being alone.

You can take two boxes and eat two portions of ice cream.

Know how to check the weather forecast in advance and prepare a medicine box at home, and no one will find out that they are sick.

When you are sick, you have to go to the hospital alone.

I also stocked up on instant noodles and snacks.

Phone calls from takeaway and courier guys account for more than half of the communication records.

I miss the food cooked by my mother at home.

In the dark night, only the lamp on the table was still on.

Work overtime, work overtime, always work overtime.

When I don’t work overtime, I just sleep until I wake up naturally, holding my mobile phone and ordering takeout. It seems to be dark again.

I don’t know what TV series are popular now. It seems like I haven’t watched TV for a long time.

I wanted to go on a trip, so I packed my bags with great interest, but the friend I made an appointment with also had something to do and left.

On Chinese Valentine’s Day, even watching a movie makes me laugh at being single. I booked a ticket with only myself in the last row and watched a movie called "A Good Show".

But this doesn’t seem to be too hard. There are also those middle-aged people who dare not bend their arms to protect their families from the wind and rain.

Behind him are his wife and children who need protection, and he cannot fall. Even though he was scarred, he never dared to stop.

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A netizen said: "The collapse of modern people is a silent collapse. It seems normal. They can laugh, joke, and socialize. On the surface, he is calm, but in fact, his troubles have accumulated to a certain extent.

He will not slam doors or smash things, shed tears or become hysterical, but he may suddenly accumulate to the extreme in one second, and he will not speak. , I don’t really collapse, I don’t want to live, and I don’t dare to die.”

The older you get, the more things you have to carry, and the less willing you are to let others see your vulnerability. If you can carry it yourself, carry it yourself.

When we were young, we just had to be ourselves, and we could give ourselves some subsidies from time to time to live a cool life.

As I grow older, I have too many different identities, each of which represents certain responsibilities.

There are even times when we want to escape and prefer to live alone.

Some even exclude others from entering their territory, and are separated from the people around them by many units.

But there are still moments when I envy those who are in love or the old people who hold hands and walk under the sunset.

I also want someone to talk to me at any time, share my joys and sorrows, help carry my luggage, and rush to someone's arms like a little swallow when I leave the station.

I also want to hold you in my arms and whisper to you,

talk about your favorite music with you,

make a happy meal Meals,

There are even interesting toys on the street that I want to share with you.

I always tell others, "I really want to find someone to have a super sweet, super sweet relationship."

But, I'm a coward~

Dare to say no If you dare to do it, you should be cautious even if you try it. As long as the person is a little impatient, he will take his hand back reflexively.

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Why do so many people not want to fall in love nowadays?

It’s not that I don’t want to, but I want to have a real relationship.

Don’t fall in love because you are old enough, and don’t get married because your parents urge you to get married.

Not because I am too lonely to live alone, and I want to find someone to accompany me and make life together.

Just because I saw you in the crowd, I was sure that if I wanted to get married, it would be with you.

It can only be you, nothing else.

So even if social activities are so popular, very few people get married in the end.

Not everyone has the courage to taste the result. What if it is bitter~

"Hey, when are you coming to pick me up? The other children have been "Picked me up"

"Don't worry, look back, I'm not far from you"

Zheng Yongtao, who works in Beijing, went to Suzhou on a business trip to repair switches for a specialty store. When Gong Lijuan, a fellow villager who worked as a shopping guide in the store, fell in love with the girl at first sight.

A stack of old Beijing-Suzhou tickets witnessed the beauty and difficulty between them. Zheng Yongtao took many photos of the girls and arranged them in the shape of a heart. They also met to go see the sea together. , stepping on the soft beach, holding hands for a walk under the sunset...

Just like the story of his friend and Jiajia in Dabing's book, their love was opposed by the girl's parents. , practical reasons forced them to compromise.

Life gave them the opportunity to meet, but it also gave them hardships. The girl suffered from "acute myeloid leukemia."

Zheng Yongtao came to the girl’s side the day after he learned the news. He spent all his savings to treat the girl’s illness, accompanied her during chemotherapy, and cooked her favorite meals. Tell her jokes and make jokes with her.

Fortunately, the girl’s brother is a half-match of her bone marrow type and can provide her with hematopoietic stem cells.

"When I get better, Xiaotao said that he will take me to see movies and go shopping; he will also go to Dali and the grasslands to see the scenery that he has never seen before"

Yes. , life is very hard, you don’t know when and where you will fall.

But, with you by my side, I don’t feel the pain.

"Before I met you, I never thought about getting married. When I met you, I never thought about getting married with anyone else."

This is what Mr. Qian Zhongshu said to his wife Yang A word Jiang said.

I also read Wang Xiaobo's book "Loving You Like Loving Life". He said to Li Yinhe: "Every three or two days, I will come to you to say something I don't want to say to others."

He also said: "I have been thinking all day, let's get over it today. The faster the days go by, the sooner Li Yinhe will come back. Don't think these words are disgusting, the truth is not disgusting."

Wang Xiaobo in front of Li Yinhe, loves her to the point of being cautious and childish,

"Li Yinhe, I am not bad now, my conscience is you, really. ”

After encountering such painful things in life, we still refuse to give up and believe that there is true love.

That love is like a piece of sugar in our lives. When it is bitter, if you taste it, you will forget the bitterness of life and only be left with sweetness.

87-year-old Li Zhongquan still insists on riding the tram to see his wife every day, even though she no longer recognizes him and beats him and scolds him.

"I like it when she scolds me, so I can feed her more food."

No matter how many hardships I encounter, I can persevere with you by my side. Go down.

"Before I fall, I will try my best to take good care of Hao Qi and the child's mother. This persistence will not change..."

Even if time flies, But some things never change, and that's love.

You are the sugar in my life, indispensable.

In this already difficult life, when more and more people choose to live alone, would you like to come with me to show love and make me believe that love really exists.

I hope that I can meet you sooner. When I cross over everything that is sinking and fight for eternity, you are my military flag.