Men hide private money, why do men hide private money?

In China, many men start this day after they get married.

The day when they turn in all their salary cards and receive pocket money from their wives every month.

Should men save private money?

Financial transparency between couples can indeed reflect the basis of their relationship, but it is not a necessary condition.

Husbands and wives also need to leave a certain amount of space for personal consumption.

But how to grasp this degree, I think the husband and wife still need to be knowledgeable.

"Private money" is essentially tax evasion on the joint finances of both parties. If the wife does not understand and is angry about it, it is actually understandable.

Sometimes, private money is used for emergencies, and not all of them have evil intentions.

For example, send money to your parents, support your brothers, communicate with colleagues, buy flowers or give gifts to your wife, or have an unexpected surprise.

For example, for example, I have forgotten the reason, and I always feel that I have some money and feel at ease.

Let’s look at a paragraph first:

My wife bought a pair of new shoes and said to me: “Husband, do you think these shoes are beautiful?”

Husband Said: "It's very beautiful."

Wife: "Hey, I bought it with your private money."

The husband said: "Ah? You can hide it so secretly. Did you find it?"

My wife smiled evilly: "Haha, I do have some private money, please hand it over quickly!"

It is an open secret that men hide their private money.

It can be said that many female friends do not handle this issue very well. Some are afraid that their husbands’ wallets will be full and they go out to have a good time, so they often check the men’s wallets;

Some are just stingy. She is stingy and reluctant to give her husband pocket money, so she keeps a close eye on her husband's wallet.

This has led to repeated prohibitions on men's private money.

Women often think of marriage from love. Material things can give her a sense of security and are also the key to whether she can stay with you for a long time.

The things that best reflect material security are: money, house, and car.

Perhaps in the minds of many women, men are very strong and tough on the inside, but in fact, men sometimes feel insecure. Even men who look very strong on the outside, They will also have a fragile side, and their hearts also need care from others. There are many reasons why men lack a sense of security.

Private money: the initial sense of security

In a sense, money is the prerequisite for a person to gain independence and security.

Private money was originally prepared for women so that they could meet unexpected needs or temporarily overcome crises when they encountered marital misfortune.

Keep a small private treasury so that they can be free from their partner’s control and spend money like a single man.

The reason why women hide private money is that most of them lack a sense of security, and the same goes for men.

The behavior of hiding private money has been around since the beginning of a relationship. The reason why people do this is because they lack a sense of security and are afraid that their partner will leave.

In addition, money has long been defined as a symbol of sovereignty between partners.

Keeping your own private treasury can give you a sense of control, especially for the lower-income partner.

What kind of psychology is being satisfied by the person who saves private money?

The freedom to control your own money.

Having a sum of money that you can control at hand can make you happy when you want to spend it.

If you are in a good mood, you can give the other person a surprise, but this kind of surprise comes from your feeling that I have used my own power to surprise you. In fact, I am also quite happy.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a difficult problem since ancient times, so some men will use the method of saving private money to quietly deal with some problems and needs of their parents' family, so that both parties can be balanced, and they can also keep their ears open quiet.

Of course, this is also a helpless move. Originally, loving each other's family is also part of the love between men and women, but the reality is that it is always difficult to love because of love.

When shopping for groceries, I have seen many couples whose husbands do this...

For men, it is not difficult not to save private money for a period of time. , what is difficult is not to save private money for a lifetime, and what is even more difficult is to save private money for a lifetime and use it secretly without "exploiting".

Saving private money is not purely a technical job, it also requires careful planning. If you are not careful, all your efforts may be wasted.

Other reasons for hiding private money

He learned from his native family that in his own family of origin, one or both parents save private money, so he thinks this way Of course.

The spouse is too controlling and feels that money is not free

He lacks a sense of security and often has a lot of anxiety about the future, but his spouse cannot recognize his anxiety, so he has to save money for private use. Reduce anxiety.

In fact, in addition to the above three more general reasons, there are actually many more personalized reasons.

However, many couples who quarrel over private money often attribute all these to "trust" issues

Marriage must be something that can only be done by two adults. It is not a simple matter. It is an adult in a legal sense, but an adult in a psychological sense.

Unlike the law, psychological maturity varies from person to person. Some people are still a child at thirty years old. This is not an exaggeration at all.

The meaning of adulthood includes being financially independent, spiritually self-reliant, knowing how to behave peacefully, and also knowing how to maintain inner boundaries, having stable inner spiritual boundaries, having stable values, and knowing how to enjoy freedom while understanding Be self-disciplined, know how to be tolerant of others, and reject people and things you hate in an appropriate and decent way. For the things you love, know that you have to work hard to get them instead of asking others to pay for them.

It wouldn’t be too bad for two people like this to be together.

Money in marriage is a symbol.

It is the first hurdle for couples to enter an intimate relationship. If you cannot pass this hurdle, you will never be able to enter a farther and deeper intimate relationship.

A healthy emotional relationship does not need to be maintained through finances. A good marriage is never a bondage, but two people growing together in their relationship.

Finally, I hope that people who read this article will not fight each other for money, and can live the best life in marriage and love.

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