What do people who divorce for their lovers get in the end?

Mr. Wang (pseudonym) came to Weiqing for help. Due to his cheating, the entire family was torn apart, and he wanted to win back his wife.

“I am 12 years older than Xiaoran (pseudonym of the third party), and I am her direct supervisor.

From the moment she entered the company, I felt that this girl looked good. She's quite pretty, and that's all I think of her.

I have a wife and children, and my wife is my first love. We were campus lovers for four years in college, and we got married after graduation. , I have never thought about separation from my wife in my life.

When Xiao Ran first came to the company, he was inexperienced and careless. When negotiating cooperation with Party A, he almost got into trouble because of a wrong decimal point. It was a big mistake, but fortunately I corrected it in time without causing any major damage.

Since then, she has been extremely grateful to me and always invites me to have dinner and coffee alone from time to time. The reason is always the same. It was very simple, just thanking me for helping her.

When she was in the company, she called me Manager Wang. When we were alone, she called me Brother Wang. I never thought about having a relationship with her. What kind of relationship did it have? But as we were alone together again and again, the ambiguous atmosphere became more and more serious. In the end, I couldn't control myself and had sex with her.

Every time I was alone, she would always follow me. Act coquettishly, lean on my shoulder, and say that I am like a protective umbrella. As long as I am here, she will not be afraid of anything. When a man hears these words, he will become confident and feel that he is a 'big hero', protecting his beloved. In short, I felt that I was fascinated by her.

In order to win her favor, I taught her how to do projects, found clients for her, negotiated orders for her, and helped her pay the rent. Giving her pocket money is more generous than my wife, and she is even more considerate to me.

I have never thought about marrying her, I just want to be nice to her, and what I want is a heartbeat. She was also very sensible and never thought of me mentioning the word "status". After we were together for a year and a half, I found out that she had betrayed me.

I was flirting with one of Party A's project partners. When I found out, I felt that my man's self-esteem was shattered. She asked me with a sneer, "Aren't I the same kind of person as those people?" If she’s not my wife, why are you making demands on her?

I was speechless by her, but I couldn’t swallow it.

I made a decision and replied. I confessed to my wife that I was cheating on her. After hearing this, my wife became furious and said she wanted a divorce. I happened to comply with her wishes.

When I placed the divorce certificate in front of Xiaoran, I told her that I When it was time to marry her, she called me crazy. She didn't want to marry me, she was just playing with me. How could she, a girl in her twenties, marry me, a divorced man who was almost forty years old? It's a joke!

We had a fierce quarrel. I forced her to break up with the project partner, but she refused to say anything and told me to mind my own business.

Me. In anger, I reported her to the company, saying that she had an improper relationship with a project partner and was damaging to the company's image! After investigation, she was directly fired because I was distracted and did not think carefully about the investigation. When the incident happened, my affair with her was also found out.

The company, considering my many years of contribution to the company, allowed me to resign on my own initiative and preserved my reputation in the industry. Xiaoran found me and said that I was mentally ill and deserved it!

This extramarital affair has caused me to lose my family, my job, and I deserved to be scolded by a third party. I still can’t accept this fact.

I asked my wife to give me a chance for the sake of my children. My wife told me to get out, saying that a person like me is not worthy of raising children...

Teacher, I admit my fault. I was obsessed with it for a while. I want to make up for it now, is it still too late? ”

Extramarital affairs may appear to be new, passionate, and exciting on the surface, but in fact they are very dangerous. People always think that it is good to be happy with a third party, and nothing else It’s not important, and I won’t even consider how much impact it will have on me after the extramarital affair is exposed.

From your description, the third party was profitable from the beginning. You are the leader of the company. Her getting close to you is nothing more than using your relationship to help her "climb" faster in the company.

She doesn’t ask for status from you, and you still think she is sensible and you owe her, but in fact she is just using you. If it is what you think and she is in love with you without any reservation, that’s fine. You won't engage in ambiguity with others. From beginning to end, you overestimated your extramarital relationship.

For the so-called dignity of a man, you divorced your wife regardless of the consequences. Now, you have suffered a loss and want to get your wife's forgiveness, I'm afraid it will take a lot of effort. In this marriage, you are the one at fault. If you want to save it, you must have a correct attitude.

First: You must have a correct attitude when admitting your mistakes and have enough patience.

When a person makes a mistake, he should admit it sincerely and proactively. This is the attitude he should have to admit his mistakes. No matter what attitude your wife gives you, you must accept it. You must have enough patience and be inspired by your behavior. If you don't touch her, you won't have a chance to talk about getting back together with her.

Second: Reflect on your own behavior and see what areas need improvement.

When there are problems in marriage, there must be a reason. Find the root of the problem, reflect on your own behavior, and correct it. Give your wife the right to choose and give her time to calm down to re-judge your relationship.

Third: Rebuilding trust and the relationship between husband and wife.

When men want to return to their families, as wives, they are too deeply hurt, lingering in the lingering shadow of cheating, and unable to trust each other. This kind of pain is a kind of torture. It cannot open up the inner knot, and it is unrealistic to want to get back together.

As a man, you must give your wife enough security and trust. You can buy gifts, show your attentiveness, etc. to let your wife see your changes, help her get out of the psychological shadow of cheating, and impress her with practical actions. Only by rebuilding the relationship between husband and wife can she let go of her worries and slowly accept you.

Finally, I would like to give a warm reminder to people who are involved in extramarital affairs. When entering marriage, you must choose to keep your peace. People who like the novelty of extramarital affairs will not get a good ending in the end, at the expense of a family. , in exchange for the short-term pleasure of extramarital affairs, it is not cost-effective!

It is not easy for every marriage to recover after being hurt. Therefore, don’t trample on your marriage casually, cherish it. Hope *** mian.