On the wine table, you often encounter the situation that "you will lose face if you don't drink". What should you do?

From 2003 to 20 12, I was often drunk in recent ten years. Among them, I drank with a brother. When drinking, he often hangs on his mouth. Just two words:

1, without me, there would be no you today. You should be good to me. Or I'll tell you to fuck off one day.

2, don't drink, just don't give me face, happy, drunk!

Deeply poisoned by him and wine, I still remember it. The first sentence is because I was in an office with him when I graduated and always took care of me. Two years later, he introduced me to me through his ex-wife (at that time, his wife was the human resources director of my current unit), and now I am in the unit. Therefore, he helped me a lot. While drinking, he made that remark.

The second sentence: if you don't drink, you won't give me face. If you drink, you will enjoy it and get drunk. It can be said that during the period of 10 (June to September 20, 200312), I was drunk twice a month, 20 times a year, and two thirds of them were drunk with him and his friends.

Because I don't drink and lose face, I get drunk every time. And I have no self-control, get drunk, break the film, and often do something ridiculous afterwards.

20 12, September 17, I got drunk once, had a big fight with my daughter-in-law, almost lost my marriage, and wrote a letter of guarantee to save my marriage, but I understand that if this continues, my life will be completely ruined and I can't go on. I want to live for myself once.

I was wide awake, so I decided not to drink. Every time he asked me to go, I could go, but I didn't drink. I decided not to drink. I said, I'm not ashamed. I've made it clear that saving face is not about getting drunk and making a fool of yourself. I just don't drink anyway.

20 14 when I had children, one day, he called me and asked me to come over. I didn't go because my parents came to take care of the children and the family got together. Later, I always invited some friends to dinner, and they all asked me to pay the bill. One-time payment 1000 yuan. This time, I decided not to go. I want to stay with my parents. He drank too much. On the phone, he said loudly that if I don't go, let me get out of the office.

Hearing this, my father was very unhappy and said, who is so powerful that he can let you go? This time, I completely hurt my bottom line and stopped seeing each other.

Later, he called me several times, but I didn't answer, so I ignored him again. Last March, about four years later, I ate in a restaurant and met a buddy who used to have a good relationship with him. He said, Brother X (a word in his name) passed away, you know? I was surprised to hear such news after four years of breaking off the relationship. Very uncomfortable.

After understanding, I realized that later, he divorced his wife and went back to his hometown to find another one. Liver cancer was detected at the beginning of last year, only 40 days later, and I left.

Last August, his ashes were transported back to this city for burial (his father and sister are both in this city). I went to attend, saw the young photos on the tombstone, smiled and burst into tears in an instant. Ah, life is like this, going back and forth, walking and walking, infinitely sad. I intend to visit him in Tomb-Sweeping Day this year.

Speaking of drinking, it's really a lot.

I once met a person, a table of more than a dozen people. This man is a little older than me, but he is not familiar with it. He tried to persuade people to drink one after another. I refused to drink because I was taking medicine for stomach bleeding at that time, and explained the situation of taking medicine. He still insisted on asking my buddy if he was enough, so I had to say something, but he said that since my buddy was enough, don't talk about alcohol, even dichlorvos should be brought. Tell the waiter to bring me two dichlorvos. I am very interested in this big brother, so I want to drink dichlorvos. The waiter turned pale with fear and repeatedly said sorry, there was no dichlorvos in the store. I told this man that I was interested, but there was no dichlorvos in the store, so it was not my fault.

This guy has no electricity. ...

Don't be too busy persuading people to drink. I remember Ding Lianshan, played by Zhao Benshan, said in "A Generation of Masters": "In this world, some people live with their faces, while others live with their sons." If you want a lining, you have to lose face. If you want to save face, you have to lose the lining.

I am allergic to alcohol. The doctor says you can't touch a drop of wine in your life. Even if you take a sip, you have to be hospitalized. You have to go to the gastroenterology department for gastric lavage first, then to the hepatobiliary department for detoxification, and finally to the neurology department for recuperation after brain injury.

I asked the doctor, how long will it take for this hospital to leave the hospital? The doctor has a glass in his hand. Yes, it is as big as the glass in your hand today. A glass of wine, at least three months, maybe not a year. The medical expenses are 500,000.

If you drink today, you have to be hospitalized at night. You want me to drink this cup, but if I don't, I won't give you face. I will do it. Fuck, it's to give you face I gave you face, but lost my lining. Here, please fill it up and level it.

(bite to death)

My bank card number is xxxx, and WeChat Alipay will do.

I used to encounter this problem on the wine table. Let me talk about my experience and views for the reference of the majority of drinkers.

Twenty years ago, this sentence was often heard on the wine table, which was divided into several situations.

First, some old classmates haven't seen each other for a long time. People raised their glasses to me, and said in front of a table of classmates that they would not give him face if they didn't drink it. I can't help it Drink it. With the first one, there is the second one. All the same. You have to give face. After a lap, I basically fainted. At that time, the big environment on the wine table was to see who had the ability to take down who. I was honest. I really drank it. Fortunately, I can tolerate alcohol.

Secondly, a friend I know in society, younger than me, was called by a brother, which made me feel very comfortable, and then a drink made me face. An older brother said that I was more capable than him and would give me a toast to save face. I can't help it Drink it.

The third is the leader's toast. Don't you dare not drink if he doesn't give him face? I remember that I was transferred to the superior department to help for half a year, and it's time to go back to my original unit. The leader of the superior department said that everyone would give you a farewell dinner tonight. I drank a lot on the wine table, and the leader finally raised a glass to me. I really can't drink. The leader said this sentence, it is not my face to drink it! What else is there to say? Drink it! I'm drunk, and it's not bad to hear from the leader. I have a chance to transfer you up in the future.

I want to beat them, too, but let's see who can win. Later, a senior drinker taught me a method. Drink first, but don't swallow. Pretending that I can't stand wiping my mouth with my clothes sleeves, I took the opportunity to spit wine on my sleeves. Most people don't notice. I tried it several times and found that the effect was good, which not only gave the toasts enough face, but also reduced their drinking.

In recent years, the atmosphere on the wine table has been much better, and there are fewer people toasting. Don't just drink, drink as much as you can, and rarely drink too much. The most important thing is that people's health concept has changed, and everyone pays great attention to their health, especially middle-aged people. They are fighting for the whole family and can't lose their health.

Let's drink in a healthy and civilized way!

I don't have a capacity for alcohol. I get drunk when I drink it, about two cups (100g). Later, everyone basically knew about it and gradually stopped persuading me to drink. When some close friends are together, they don't let me drink at all because I don't drink enough. Before they knew it, I was already on my desk because I was in the way. But in the end, it was contracted for decades and drove a person away.

Pay attention to a lot on the wine table, and often can't help but drink too much. Unless you don't go, as long as everyone is drinking at the wine table, you won't drink alone. It is unreasonable to say that you would rather hurt your liver than your feelings.

Tell me a story. Twenty-five years ago, I worked at the grassroots level. I couldn't drink at that time, and I didn't drink at ordinary times. Once during the Spring Festival, colleagues in the unit got together to chat. When chatting, they talked about drinking, saying that someone had a large capacity for drinking and could drink a bottle. Whoever had a poor capacity for drinking climbed down after two glasses of wine. After a while, I remembered. They asked me if I could drink. I said no, they took turns to provoke me and made me sit still. He was young and courageous at that time. I told you, what are you doing? How much can you drink? I don't believe you're drunk and capable. Now let's find a place to try. A colleague invited everyone to his home and paid a New Year call to him.

In this way, everyone will go to this colleague's house to pay a New Year call. This colleague is actually the one who jumped the highest just now, and his drinking capacity is one of the best in the unit. When he arrived at his colleague's house, his wife brought a large plate of pickled cabbage to the table and then went to stir-fry and his colleague brought a box of Ili Tequ, which was a big bag at that time, a box of 12 bottles (500g wine bottles). I thought at that time, one bottle each, blowing into the bottle together, and continuing to the next bottle after drinking one bottle, which is more fair. I can't believe they are drunk.

After the rules, I let them drink together first. I'm afraid they won't drink if I get drunk first. I supervise them to drink first, and then they watch me drink. At this time, someone suggested drinking in a bowl. Xinjiang people drank a big bowl of milk tea, and a bottle of wine just filled a bowl. There were twelve of us, and our colleagues brought twelve big bowls. After drinking all the wine, they all drank it clean. When I saw these guys, they were all expressionless and flushed. I think it's over. At this point, I have no choice but to drink. I picked up this bowl of wine and poured it into my stomach. At first, my mouth smelled of wine. Finally, my mouth and tongue feel nothing, just like drinking cold water. After drinking the last sip, my body slipped limply from the stool under the table, my face and lips were numb, my glasses could not be closed and I couldn't say anything, but I knew I was drunk.

This is the difference in alcohol consumption. People who can drink a bottle will not get drunk. I just can't live without alcohol. The same bowl of wine, my colleagues drank nothing, and I immediately turned into a pile of mud.

It's best not to persuade others to drink on the wine table. If the person who is persuaded to quit can't escape and can't drink, he can only find a reason to leave the wine table. They advise people not to go back after drinking, and maybe they will be stiff, so they can't drink or don't want to drink, and it's best not to go at all.

Personal experience.

I haven't drunk for many years. It is precisely because there are many such situations that I decided to "quit the rivers and lakes." Besides, there are physical reasons. I have internal injuries.

Many years ago, because I loved to play, I met a mixed bag of people on the wine table and said I would lose face. I can't remember how many times I have seen them.

To put it bluntly, I'm embarrassed:

A close friend may have drunk too much, and his consciousness is a little vague, so his father doesn't even know him. Never mind whether he says this or not. I said: I can only drink so much. If I am drunk, how can I play with you! Then the other person suddenly wakes up, so do something appropriate.

Another time, I met an unknown person posing as the boss on the wine table and stole the show. I said directly that I drink according to people, and not everyone will drink my health, so I am confident that I will not give up drinking.

Tell me why I am so embarrassed. Many people think I can't make friends, but I think it's useless to have so many friends. You are brothers on the wine table. When you are awake, you know exactly how the other person feels. Of course, some people drink to express their feelings, but it is really "congenial". And two people have a lot in common, and both are willing to drink by themselves. If you pretend to drink with others, first of all, you are insincere. Is it necessary?

Sometimes when you are drunk, the other person may have no intention, but just want to persuade you to drink, which may require some people with high emotional intelligence to fight back.

At a class reunion, a former close buddy drank too much to persuade him to drink, and several people who could not refuse drank too much with him. As a result, no one can drive. I said half jokingly that you are still as warm and friendly to everyone as before. This has not changed. I should propose a toast to you, and then I look at the others. So they said, yes, thanks to you, I'll propose a toast to you tonight. Several people stepped forward one after another, and this buddy changed in an instant. If everyone had a drink, he would immediately get down and feel empty.

To sum up, it's called standing in line, praising each other first, then letting others praise them again, and then letting them fall. At first, he couldn't bear to imagine that he would get drunk soon, and so would others. A man with a little conscience should be polite. Don't be too polite when they are in that kind of trouble. What should they do?

Be brave to be yourself, why should you let others' unreasonable demands threaten your health? Drink as much as you can. In life, on the wine table, be true to yourself and treat others with heart. No business can't be solved without drinking. It needs drinking to solve it. This kind of cooperation is irrational for both ourselves and each other.

Personal experience is for reference only and may not be suitable for everyone. But I think being yourself is the most important thing.

We Shandong people are heavy drinkers, and we are not afraid of others' toasts. We are afraid that drinking alone without toasting is boring.

I remember when Jiangsu Bank was founded, I was in Lianyungang Commercial Bank, and the president was from Guanyun County. He invited my classmate, who is also a colleague of the mayor, to drink with me. That day, I offered a glass of sky blue (two ounces for each glass of red wine) at Table 5, and then I drank foreign wine. I have never said that you will lose face if you don't drink, and no one dares to say that you will lose face if you don't drink.

Generally speaking, old classmates, old colleagues and good friends all know each other's drinking capacity, and I often help my boss change the wine. Those who say they don't drink are people who have no face. They should not be classmates, colleagues, friends, but first met, met in business or at the wine table, with low education, or made a fortune as contractors. If he dares to say that he doesn't drink when he meets me, he will lose face. I will say, I don't know you, why should I give you face? If he sticks to his guns, drink him down after two glasses of wine. I can take a beer glass, four or two Zhuang, and drink two cups in a row.

In this case, I suggest ignoring him. Such people are not worth making friends with.

In fact, the 52-degree liquor basically put me down. The most terrible thing is that I am a sommelier and they don't believe that I can't drink it.

So generally speaking, I have two ways to persuade wine. The first one, recognizing cowardice, is really useful. I was scared as soon as I came up, and I kept sending it to the end. In addition, the sommelier is also a very useful signboard. I have to protect my taste buds, so I can't drink. Actually, it's the same. I never drink when tasting wine, which means I won't swallow it. After tasting wine, they will spit out the white wine. Because after a long time, it will really affect my taste buds, which is a fatal blow to me. This will ruin my career.

The other method is simpler. First, I drank a pot directly, then I was dumped, saying that others, who want to persuade wine, drink a pot first, and we will drink pot by pot! Generally speaking, everyone is relaxed, because you overwhelm them in momentum and frighten them into not drinking with you.

Therefore, I think these two methods are both good ways to protect yourself.

Although I am a brewer, I sincerely advise you to drink moderately and healthily until you are 99 years old!

15 years, I once participated in a competition organized by the group. Our leader said that I won the prize, and it was his treat. I didn't win the prize. I said okay. After the game came back, I won the third prize, and the leader didn't talk or ask. One of our old comrades said, leader, I don't mean that you treat someone who wins the prize. Hearing this, the leader asked me to get the certificate. He looked at it and said, I left in the evening (at that time in niujie). Our chief engineer always said that I don't drink, so I brought up the old scores. I just sat next to him that night and drank with him that day. Yanjing (commonly known as Daqing Stick), I usually have at most three. That night, with the mentality of going to the hospital for gastric lavage, I drank ten in a row with our chief engineer. Later, he gave up drinking. Later, he never mentioned that I didn't drink. He is still capsizing in the gutter, which is too much.

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Eat fish and cats

Three minutes ago

I tried to ask for the bill, but the other party stayed for two years and didn't say no. I can't help flying there myself. When we talked about this problem during the dinner, the other party was very frank. He said that since he was here, he would clean it up for me today. I didn't expect my heart to be so smooth, and I kept saying that thousands of Xie Wan thanked me. After a while, he asked people to take out 35 beer glasses and 25 bottles of bamboo leaves, and then filled them all. I can drink as much as I can. Here are 35 cups, totaling 3.5 million, and I'm still short of 365,438+10,000. The extra 400 thousand gave me interest, and I was shocked for half an hour How is that possible? I didn't promise, and I tried my best to fight for it. Finally, the other party agreed to give it to both of us. There is no way out. One is that people come to the property, and the other is that the money will definitely go back. The first three cups were ok, but they soon went down, and then they were very painful. They cried and swallowed. They didn't know how to get back to the hotel after drinking, and they threw up before returning to 265438+ 10,000. This is the most painful and expensive glass of wine I have ever drunk. Now I want to cry when I think about it, and now I hate Shanxi people.