5 fallacies

1. Individuals can only be changed by reality.

If you become strong enough, others can't refuse you. If you can command yourself, difficulties can't stop you. Only by changing yourself first can you change your world and your life.

2. why am I always the one who is incompetent?

There are no people who don't know how to sell themselves. The truth is that you are not good enough and don't work hard enough.

3. Everything will be easy to succeed if you get along with others.

you have to rely on yourself in life. Depend on your own understanding, your own will, and your own pursuit. Life is a one-way ticket, which never comes back. All we can do is keep working hard, and all we can rely on is ourselves.

4. whatever you do, leave yourself more leeway.

To give yourself a cliff with no retreat is to give yourself an opportunity to charge for the highland of life, and also to give yourself an outstanding admission ticket.

5. Versatile and demanding all-round development.

In today's knowledge explosion, it is impossible for anyone to be an all-rounder with knowledge, but only an expert with a certain knowledge or skill. Therefore, in real life, versatile people often can't compete with the experts who are unique.

6. Bad boys who don't listen can't succeed.

There are never perfect people and things in the world. Children who never make mistakes will grow up to be mediocre people or make big mistakes sooner or later. Therefore, we should moderately lower our expectations and requirements for children, encourage them to truly face their own shortcomings and mistakes, encourage them not to be afraid of making mistakes in their attempts, pay attention to the experience and gains of the process, and take off the mask of being a good child.

7. Don't think it too simple.

avenue to Jane. Classics are simple, truth is simple, and the most useful things are also relatively simple things. Complexity will cause waste, while efficiency comes from simplicity. Finding the key parts and removing the redundant ones, success is not so complicated.

8. everything should be answered to the bottom.

There are some things that you have to figure out, which may make you very tired, and the result is often not what you think. Therefore, there is no need to get to the bottom of everything.

9. My physical shortcomings make me feel ashamed.

what's wrong with a little bad? Small rot can make oranges sweeter, small faults can make men cuter, and small moles can make a beauty's face more charming. Some defects are gifts from God. Be kind to them and you will get something unexpected.

1. it's not a gentleman not to pay back the enmity.

As the ancients said, those who keep their anger are better than the brave, and those who cultivate their own mind are better than those who attack the city. In life, tolerance can reduce the gap between people, and make everyone communicate better and be more considerate and caring to each other.

11. Why do I always fail?

The grindstone is the friend of a sharp knife, the grassland is the friend of a fine horse, the obstacle is the friend of will, and the difficulty is the friend of victory. Destiny is not predestined by heaven. Destiny is determined by the degree of struggle and by people themselves.

12. You can't lie.

No one wants to deal with people who are always hypocritical and smooth, but being honest blindly can also hurt people. Therefore, people should pay attention to great honesty and say the right things to the right people at the right time. Everyone has little chance to tell the truth. If frankness is a kind of harm, please choose a white lie.

13. It's hard to get rid of yesterday's regrets.

To be a happy and successful person, the most important thing is to remember to close the door behind you, learn to forget all past mistakes, don't indulge in regret, and keep looking forward. Time is gone forever, and tomorrow is another day. Don't let the mistakes of the past become the burden of tomorrow.

14. Poverty is predestined and cannot be changed.

Poverty is not terrible. What is terrible is the lack of self-reliance and self-reliance. Poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is to retreat or be willing to be mediocre. The most terrible thing is that poverty leads to lasting poverty. Compromising poverty in will will lead to giving up on changing poverty in behavior, which will eventually make poverty accompany you all your life.

15. Only when you eat bitterness can you be a master.

Modern people sum up several elements of success: correct thinking, unremitting action, great personality, skillful skills, godsend opportunities and precious health. If you want to succeed, you should not only suffer from hardships, but also support from relevant conditions. Those who only know how to suffer hardships, those who have suffered hardships that are not worth eating, and those who regard suffering as a magic weapon to solve all problems, I am afraid that they can only continue to wander in the strange circle of suffering.

16. Everyone is born to do great things.

the sea doesn't choose a trickle, so it can become big, and the mountains don't refuse fine soil, so it can be high. The work we are doing now may be too dull or trivial, but this is work, this is life, and it is an indispensable foundation for achieving personnel. For dedicated people, nothing is trivial, and simplicity does not mean easy.

17. There is plenty of time, so don't rush it.

the tree wants to be quiet, but the wind will not stop. The only constant in this world is change. Do anything you think of, and never wait or delay. No one can retrace the road of life. Today is not the best, but it is the beginning of hard work. Time is changing, and the key is to grasp the present.

18. Here comes the problem. Learn from the ostrich and bury your head in the sand.

When encountering problems and difficulties, some people learn from ostriches and bury their heads in the sand, while others learn from tigers and face up. But in real life, most people are the former, while the latter are few and far between. Life will inevitably fall into a trough. At this time, you should dare to stand up and be the source that affects everyone, so that you can seize the opportunity to stand out.

19. Do a lot of things at the same time and distract yourself.

Goethe said that a person can't ride two horses, and if he rides one horse, he will lose the other. A smart person will ignore all demands for distraction. Human life and energy are limited. We should learn to be like a condenser, eliminate all the distractions, and focus all the information and energy enthusiastically on your goal. In this way, it is difficult for you not to succeed.

2. Never take dreams seriously.

Humans are magical because of their dreams, but have you ever found that your dreams are drifting away from you with the growth of age until they finally disappear? Only then do you realize that your dream has been stolen, and you have no courage and ability to find it again.

21. Neglect to change bad habits.

little success is nature, and habit is nature. Bad habits are the heart lock that we can't open, the bend that we can't turn, and the obstacle that we can't see. Good habits should be maintained, bad habits should be corrected, and never let bad habits influence our future.

22. Refuse to try for fear of making mistakes.

No one likes to make mistakes, but some people say that making mistakes is the best way to learn. This is the truth. It may not be a good thing if we look at our mistakes from another angle. Because we can learn from our mistakes and drive us to make progress.

23. Insist blindly.

to give up moderately is to be open-minded, to be confident, to surpass oneself, to let go of the heavy burden and to give yourself a relaxation. There is no absolute despair in life. When there is no way out, calm down and give up, and a new hope will appear before your eyes.

24. Being too ostentatious.

The reason why the sea can accommodate thousands of rivers and streams is because it always puts itself very low, so it becomes broad and profound. The same is true of being a man. You should always put your position in a low position and be a modest person. Only in this way can you learn from others and conclude good wishes.

25. Lack of courage to start all over again.

failure is not terrible, but failure for no reason. Be good at summing up the lessons of failure, analyzing the reasons of failure and gaining rare experience. Failure can become more precious wealth than money, which is the new starting point and the post station of success.

26. You can't go wrong by following the crowd.

Be your own master, have your own thoughts, control your words and deeds, and cherish your emotions. Because I dominate myself, I can understand myself more deeply. Because I accept myself, I like myself more, and then show my best side.

27. Just keep the status quo in life.

If heaven is going to send a great mission to Sri Lanka, we must first suffer from its mind, strain its bones and muscles, and starve its body and skin. This is actually telling us to stay away from the comfort zone and constantly put ourselves in an uncomfortable state before we can make great achievements.

28. Never be a fool who is laughed at.

a person can learn to skate only after going through the stage of staggering and making himself look like a fool. It is true that in anything, he can make progress only by bravely making himself a fool.

29. Too much intimacy in interpersonal communication.

the beauty of distance is the beauty of intimacy. Looking at the moon in the water, watching flowers in the fog, watching beauty through the curtain and exploring treasures in the mountains, all the charming charm lies in the magical distance effect. Keeping a distance sometimes gives people a kind of hope and confidence, and feels such a faint warmth and fragrance.

3. I can't cross the mountain, nor can I.

when the difficult mountains don't take the initiative to move, we should take the initiative to walk into them in the face of difficulties. Instead of waiting for the momentum, it is better to take advantage of it immediately. When we can't make the mountain close to us, the best way we can take is to approach the mountain actively.

31. What others say.

other people's comments may make you sad. But don't forget since heaven gave the talent, let it be employed!. Don't be too superstitious about what others say, and don't measure your value by other people's goals. Learn to accept yourself, don't underestimate yourself, and always believe that one day you will have your own stage.

32. You can't go wrong with your eyes.

Tagore said that we misread the world and said that the world deceived us. The world doesn't work in the way you imagine. The fundamental reason why we misread the world is not the illusion of life, but because our intuition is deceiving us.

33. Blame others too much, but don't reflect on yourself.

It's always easier for people to see problems outside than their own, and it's easier to blame others for mistakes than to review themselves. Therefore, cynical people, from young and angry to old, squint for a long time, see nothing pleasing to the eye. Life and death, don't seek outside, but know yourself. Only when we have a more comprehensive understanding of ourselves can we find a breakthrough point to solve contradictions.

34. The past is too heavy and unforgettable to let go.

The reason why many people are difficult to be happy is because they can't let go of their hatred for others. They don't know that hatred is actually a double-edged sword, hurting people and hurting themselves.

35. Do whatever is right and wrong.

There is nothing wrong with being kind, but we should also distinguish right from wrong. Kindness regardless of principle is foolish, just like Mr. Dong Guo. Therefore, before you know whether something is worth doing, you should dare to say no, don't be used by others, and don't accidentally become a scapegoat for others.

36. Why do people always give me a hard time?

thank the person who hurt you, because he honed your mind, thanked the person who cheated you, because he enhanced your wisdom, and thanked the person who slandered you, because he honed your will. Thank all the people who make you grow up, because with him, you will make continuous progress.

37. People who always criticize others are the most annoying.

people who can criticize and accuse us of our shortcomings and mistakes are our rare friends.

38. Always feel sorry for your own setbacks.

You should feel lucky when you encounter setbacks, because it proves that you will face greater problems and challenges, which also proves that you still have room for improvement.

39. Be an excuse for failure, but don't find a way for success.

beautiful excuses will only make you lose your will and confidence. As long as we learn to try our best and try our best, there will be no big problems in the world, only failures and regrets caused by insufficient efforts.

4. You are only in a hurry and don't know how to give yourself a holiday.

as the saying goes, we don't have to hurry to steal for half a day, but we are very tired. When frustration and hesitation burn every nerve of us, when helpless melancholy comes, we need to give our mood a holiday, because living is not just for the sake of moving on.

41. Happiness is always somewhere else.

The most pitiful thing about human nature is that we always dream of a wonderful rose garden on the horizon, instead of enjoying the roses that are opening in our window today.

42. Without others' encouragement, there is no motivation.

it is better for others to respect themselves than for themselves. On the road of life, we should learn to give ourselves a smile. With enough oil and gas, what difficulties can't be overcome?

43. There is no time to pause when you are busy.

In life, we are often stretched by an invisible line, so you struggle and try your best, but the result is tantamount to suicide. Sometimes you take a break and take a nap, but you will get unexpected results. Because, pause is to refuel your life journey, in order to get back on the road better.

44. You have to be patient to live your life.

when you are angry, you can't control your anger, which makes the partners around you flinch. When depressed, indulge your depression and waste many fleeting opportunities. On the road to success, the biggest enemy is not lack of opportunities or junior qualifications, but lack of control over one's emotions.

45. Measure and demand others by your own standards.

Many times people do bad things with good intentions. Because we mistake our own preferences for those of others and ask others according to our own preferences.

46. Being mean makes it difficult to tolerate others.

A tolerant person is like a spring breeze full of vitality, which makes people close. A mean person is like a murderous autumn wind, which alienates people. Generally speaking, tolerance is better than meanness.

47. There is no guard against saboteurs.

In our work and life, there are always some people who gossip everywhere and are annoying. They are truly rotten apples in their circles. What we need to do is to draw a clear line with them, or keep a safe distance from them to avoid being infected by them.

48. Always giving yourself a hard time.

Many troubles are much ado about nothing. You should learn to cut yourself some slack. There are no unhappy people in the world, only those who refuse to make themselves happy.

49. Worried, always worried about bad things.

Facts have proved that most of the things people are anxious and worried about have never happened. Don't be overwhelmed by unnecessary burdens, and learn to smile calmly at life.

5. There is nothing wrong with being mediocre.

we can't fly, but we can fly our dreams. The difference between an outstanding person and a mediocre person lies in letting the goshawk in the spiritual world soar in the air.