The topic of chatting with strangers

Chatting with strangers, has this ever happened to you? Obviously, Kan Kan can talk in front of acquaintances, but he will be silent in front of strangers and don't know what to say. Then let's look at the topic of chatting with strangers.

Chatting with strangers 1 Chatting with strangers 1, weather topic.

This topic is basically universal regardless of age. I remember when I was in English class, the teacher said that what Londoners love to talk about is the weather. It seems that the whole world is a routine with nothing to say.

It's getting hot/cold, windy, rainy, snowy, hail, and so on.

With the talk about the weather, some more natural and harmless topics are gradually introduced. This method is very simple and convenient.

Talk to strangers. Talking about childhood.

It is also a good choice to recall interesting things in the past. This is a good opportunity for the other party to know themselves, and you can also find similarities between the two people through this topic. When I mentioned my past, I believe most people have endless topics. I used to be so cute, immature and interesting. Looking back now, it's really a lot of fun and I feel like I've really grown up.

Chatting with strangers Topics about interests and hobbies

If the other person is a man, we can talk about sports. If the other person is a woman, you can talk about beauty entertainment and generally get a good response.

There is a little trick: if you encounter a topic that you are not sure about and don't know if the other person is interested, don't ask questions directly.

If you ask at the beginning, "What sports do you like?" In case the other person doesn't like sports, he is likely to talk to death.

It's better to say, "Do you like football?" Or "Do you like such a star?" This kind of expression, even if the other party doesn't like it, usually won't be rejected directly, but will add some topic information, such as "I don't like football very much, I usually play tennis more ..."

Chatting with strangers Related topics.

Associative topics will certainly enrich the dialogue. For example, asking about places you want to go, places you have been to, interesting things that happened during your trip, and interesting people you met ... these are all topics about each other. The other party will certainly talk endlessly and express many different ideas and values. Your interaction will increase your familiarity.

Skills of chatting with strangers

1. Defines the scope of the topic to be discussed. One view is that some things are extraordinary. There is also a view that it is necessary to be elegant and knowledgeable. In fact, both views are wrong. If you pay attention, you will find that what you say most is actually the ordinary little things in daily life.

2, know more about others, pay attention to what the other person is interested in, what to say, how to say it, and how effective it is. Some people talk a lot when talking to others, but they can't arouse others' interest precisely because they don't understand others.

3. Find a suitable topic. There are many things to talk about, such as food, clothes, furniture, sports, mobile phones, computers, movies, news and so on. You can tell some anecdotes and talk about your new ideas and ideas.

4. Actively seek new topics and refine new content. Don't mention old news Maybe others have heard about it for a long time and can't arouse each other's interest. Generally speaking, they should look for those new hot things.

5, full of confidence and courage, don't feel how bad your expression is, expression can be improved through your own continuous efforts, the key is that you should always have that awareness and do better every time.

6. Don't say some things, for example, don't say the shortcomings of your relatives and friends in front of others, and don't say people or things that the other person doesn't like.

The topic of chatting with strangers 2 How does WeChat chat with strangers?

1, learn to praise each other

We look at each other's heads, and if the other party sends beautiful pictures of beautiful women, we can praise them; If the other person likes dogs, and the photo album is full of pictures of dogs, you can praise the other person for being very caring; If the other person puts a photo of his baby, you can praise the other person's baby, which is very attractive ... Generally speaking, praising the other person first can make the other person feel happy and willing to talk to you.

2. Start with the other person's WeChat name.

"Your WeChat name is very poetic. I feel that you are a person with high aesthetic ability and good at discovering the beauty of life, so I want to be friends with you. I wonder if it is possible? "

Step 3 give each other a sense of security

How to give each other a sense of security in the first conversation? Don't ask each other any personal information yet, show yourself first. Imagine, are you willing to reveal your privacy to someone you don't know? Of course not.

Therefore, if you want to make the other person feel safe in the process of communication, you must first learn to show yourself and let the other person know about you. If a person thinks he knows you better, he will become familiar with you and feel a sense of security from the heart.

4. Pay attention to guiding the topic

In the process of chatting, the most taboo answer is firm, there is no room for association, it is easy to interrupt the topic, and I don't know how to continue chatting next. Therefore, when communicating with each other, we should pay attention to open answers or answer with ambiguous answers.

Let the other person associate and let the other person lead to the next topic. Or you can throw the next topic as soon as possible when answering the other person, so that the chat is not easily interrupted.

5. Know what the other person likes

I believe that most people are willing to talk about their favorite things with others, so when communicating with strangers, you should first find ways to understand each other's preferences, and then start your chat in turn from this. Even people who are taciturn and can't express themselves can open their hearts once they touch on their favorite topics.

When talking with many people, we should choose events that people are interested in as topics to stimulate their desire to talk. Because this topic is what we want to talk about, love to talk about, and can talk about. Everyone has something to say and can express their views and opinions. Topics can naturally continue, making many people's comments and speeches produce * * * sounds, which in turn produce * * * sounds.

In addition, in the topic selection, you need to adopt different skills according to your different scenes and the changes of the other party's state in order to maximize your interests. If you always use the same trick repeatedly, there will be a situation that the method is not equal to the position of people and scenes, which is easy to make mistakes.

So in this case, you can ask each other's hobbies, usual entertainment activities and so on. Remember, from the perspective of human nature, everyone will be willing to talk about what they like and pursue self-satisfaction.

6. Show yourself and reduce your opponent's vigilance.

Usually many people may not know the existence of "rejection psychology". In fact, even the most sociable people, those who are popular in people's eyes. They also have rejection psychology in their hearts, but the degree of rejection to different groups of people is different.

In interpersonal communication, only by learning to understand the rejection psychology of others can we skillfully resolve each other's rejection psychology, narrow their psychological distance and skillfully handle interpersonal relationships at the right time. Otherwise, we will also encounter interpersonal problems.

If you express your harmless opinion about the advantages of others or what they have, the conversation will go smoothly.

Of course, don't say what you saw. After all, we are all more or less wary of others. It's best not to let the other person hold oriental things, but ask others to be very careful.

Otherwise, it will not only make the other party very tired, but also bring embarrassment to yourself. Don't mention which pot doesn't open, but learn to ask questions so that you can speak at your own pace.

7. Play freely according to the scene

When chatting with others, skillfully using your environment and related events around you as topics, even the scenery and weather at that time, can be used as a bridge for your communication. And because this sense of belonging happens around us, everyone shares the event, and the other party will be more likely to accept the conversation of strangers.

You can also compliment each other according to their clothes. In life, everyone needs the praise and affirmation of others. Praise is actually a melting agent in interpersonal communication. Praise can make the impossible possible and stop the impossible. Praise others will not belittle themselves, but improve themselves. Think about it, is there anything in life that praises others and makes others look down upon it?

Of course, praise should be moderate and not excessive. If it goes too far, it will become hypocritical. Not only will it not win the trust of others, but it will also make people feel flattered and unreliable.