How to please future mother-in-law

The first trick: praise method I have said in many courses. Everyone likes to hear good things. If you want to please someone, you have to praise them hard! I want to please my future mother-in-law when I meet her for the first time: 1, praise her! Some people say that my future mother-in-law is not good-looking, and I say that she is beautiful. Will this make people think I'm fake? Of course not! No one is unwilling to believe that they are good and beautiful! Attention! Compliment in detail, or people will think you are fake. For example: Aunt, your hair is really beautiful, black and supple (she has a bad face, maybe her hair is good). Another example: Aunt, your teeth are so white. How do you maintain them? She lost her hair. Maybe her teeth are beautiful? 2. Praise her son! Every mother will think that her son is the best in the world! Trust me! Even if her son looks like Rainbow Bao Qiang, her mother will think her son is as handsome as Daniel Wu! You can look at her son affectionately in front of her and say, "No wonder you are so handsome, so aunt is so beautiful!" " "Or:" No wonder you are so smart. So you inherited such a high-quality gene from your aunt! " "In the future, my mother-in-law will think that if you admire her son so much, you can be good to her son in the future. 3. Praise her family: For example, when we meet for the first time, you can say that we had a good time eating with our uncles and aunts today. Aunt is gentle and virtuous, cooking is delicious, and uncle is humorous. I am so happy to have dinner with you! These are basic compliments. If you do this, some easy-going future mother-in-law will have a good impression on you. The second trick: ask for advice. My mother-in-law has been a hostess in her husband's family for half her life. Suddenly, a new person entered the room, trying to take the place of her hostess, and took her hard-earned son as her own. Generally speaking, her future mother-in-law will think that the fruits of victory will be stolen. To make your future mother-in-law accept you and like you with a smile, first of all, let her think that you don't want to usurp the throne! You are Bai Lianhua, and you should be her close friend. First of all, ask for advice and let her put down her guard for you. How to use the method of asking for advice: kitchen. The kitchen is a place where women show their sovereignty, so don't try to show your talents in the kitchen in the first few meetings, leave the kitchen to her. You can say politely, "Aunt, can I help you?" Out of politeness, the other party generally won't let you really help at this time, so you can ask for advice according to the situation. As I said before, there should be details in praise and details in asking for advice! For example: "Auntie, why is this fish soup cooked as white as milk? Teach me quickly! " "Aunt, what should ducks put to fishy? Teach me the secret recipe. " Play the fool, try to play the fool, let her give full play to her strengths in you, and she will easily feel satisfied. You can use it with Zan! For example: Auntie, you cook every day, and your skin can still be maintained so well. How enviable! Teach me how to maintain it quickly! The third measure: gifts are also very particular, otherwise it will be bad to spend money. One of my female students thinks that no one will give gifts. The old man pays more attention to health, so she gave skin care products to her future mother-in-law for the first time, but her future mother-in-law was not very happy. Female students are particularly depressed. Why doesn't she like melatonin, health products, Taitai oral liquid and beauty treatment? I said, sending these is equivalent to telling your future mother-in-law that you are old and need to support! How can she be happy? So, what can I send to please her and make her happy? Sure-yo yo, a set of skin care cosmetics! But buying skin care products and cosmetics is also exquisite! As I said before, I want to get along with my future mother-in-law like girlfriends, so I want to give cosmetics to young ladies, such as powder cake, BB cream and lip gloss. If the future mother-in-law says, "This is all for you young people, is it inappropriate for me to use it?" At this time, you must match the sentence that high emotional intelligence hits her heart: "Auntie, you are so well maintained and so young, how can you not be suitable?" We are walking in the street, maybe others think we are sisters! " This kind of gift needs to be sent more, and you can also swipe the male ticket card! After going back and forth several times like this, your feelings will gradually have a foundation, and soon you can dress up together and talk about skin care and maintenance together. Remember! You can't let your future mother-in-law know that you spend her son's money so much, and she will be very distressed by her son's money. You can say, "Auntie, this repair peptide is free radical resistant. I try to use it very well. Do you think my skin has improved a lot recently? " I brought you one by the way. "Then I have to show a picture: We are close friends, so I will share it with you! The way it looks. First, emphasize that this is your money, not her son's money; Secondly, this kind of gift-giving is natural, it is shared between girlfriends, and there is no deliberately pleasing component. In short, how do you usually get along with your girlfriends and your mother-in-law? For example, take selfies together, repair photos together, go shopping together, soak in hot springs together, have afternoon tea together, and even talk about gossip. However, we must avoid some minefields! How to please the future mother-in-law's raiders 2 understand her mother-in-law's taboos. How much do you know as a wife? Everyone has his own principles and pays attention to his words and deeds at ordinary times. Naturally, the temper of a young lady should be collected in front of her mother-in-law, so don't challenge her mother-in-law's bottom line. Learn to be sweet, call your mother-in-law more when you have nothing to do on weekdays, and educate your children to be polite to their mother-in-law. When a child accidentally bumps into her mother-in-law, or bumps her mother-in-law's foot with a bicycle, she should be taught to apologize to her mother-in-law immediately. Don't expect too high a standard. First of all, we must recognize that the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law. After all, she is not a mother, and her daughter-in-law is not a daughter. Mother-in-law will not understand your various living habits and tolerate your various shortcomings like mother. Nowadays, many young people want their mother-in-law to help take care of their children and families, but at the same time they don't want their mother-in-law to tell them what to do with their lives. Mother-in-law is not selfless to you, so if sometimes her mother-in-law doesn't want to help you, there is no need to complain and blame too much. Even relatives should draw a clear line, let alone mother-in-law. The wife should understand her role and function, and the mother-in-law should also know what role she should play in the family. Both sides have their own duties and don't interfere too much. To learn to be a good daughter-in-law, you must first learn to listen. Being a silent audience in front of her mother-in-law is the most important key. Old people always talk a lot and always choose to nag when eating. Let her speak freely. When she is very happy, you can also express your happiness, so that your mother-in-law can feel that you respect her words and are a "civilized and polite" daughter-in-law. It will be more pleasing to my mother-in-law to buy some clothes for her mother-in-law when she learns to laugh. But my mother-in-law doesn't like me to buy her clothes. Once she bought some clothes and thought she needed to wear them. But she handed it to me without looking at it, saying that the size didn't suit her and the style was too fashionable. I was a little angry at that time, but I kept silent afterwards and put away my clothes with a smile and said, "It doesn't matter!" " "Respect, but unyielding respect is essential. Mother-in-law is an elder and a sign of respect for her husband. We can also try to ask our mother-in-law for advice when making some decisions. Of course, respect does not mean giving in to everything. When the mother-in-law makes some unreasonable demands, we should measure whether it is within our own principles. If it exceeds the bottom line, you can transfer it through your husband. There is no need to do anything against one's will in order to show respect and filial piety to the elderly. These grievances are likely to erupt in the end, which may be even more unfavorable to the relationship between husband and wife. Tips: If a prospective daughter-in-law wants to integrate into a new family and become a good daughter-in-law, she must learn to listen and think from her mother-in-law's point of view, so that her mother-in-law can recognize you more.