What are the customs of betrothal in Liuzhou?

(1) proposing marriage: firstly, you need to hire two married men and women who are eloquent and articulate (never divorced, never dead spouse, never dead children). Propose marriage by two matchmakers with two packs of brown sugar and two bottles of wine to the woman's house to propose marriage. If the woman's family doesn't know the man, they will use the excuse of not asking the girl or family, or ask the matchmaker to lead the blind date to meet him, so as to gain time. If you already know the situation about the man, but don't agree with this marriage, you will politely refuse: "My girl is still very young, so don't talk about marriage for three to five years, please don't come again." If you already know the man and like him, you will say, "My girl is stupid, and she can neither weave nor embroider brocade. If you marry in the past, you are joking and not worthy to be your daughter-in-law", and so on. In this case, you will accept the gift. Stir-fried soybeans, peanuts and other foods by the fireplace warmly entertained the matchmaker, indicating that this marriage has hope. Kinship of the woman. This is what Zhuang people call eating wine.

the Zhuang nationality in Longqing township, the Heisha nationality, is called "root fishing for the elderly", which means eating big wine. Before sitting, the future son-in-law should light a lamp, offer incense, kowtow, offer heaven and earth and offer sacrifices at the woman's house. The banquet should be rich and generous, and we dare not neglect the guests. The woman is only responsible for cooking and vegetarian dishes. If there is not enough wine and meat, the guests tease the "son-in-law tied with straw rope" and embarrass him. In the banquet room, please ask the woman's aunt to sing wine songs and wish the marriage luck and happiness. And please "hold the motorcycle" to remove the head and feet of the chicken. If you get the auspicious divination, you will be jubilant and full of praise. On that day, the man will prepare eight chickens and eight bottles of wine to formally beg the girl's birthdates from the woman (strong custom: when the girl is born for three days, please "hold Mo" to convert her birthday into heavenly stems and earthly branches and write it on red and green cloth for her parents to collect), and the woman will copy the girl's birthdates on red paper and give it to the man. During the dinner, the bride price and wedding date will be agreed, and the specific date will be decided by "hold Mo" to inform the woman's family so that the woman can prepare the dowry. The traditional dowry of Zhuang nationality includes self-woven blue mosquito net, plaid mat, quilt cover, red lacquer wood cabinet, wooden box and silver jewelry. After drinking a little wine, it is binding on both men and women and the third party who tries to intervene. If the man takes the initiative to break off the marriage and the woman refuses to quit, the bride price will not be refunded; If the woman takes the initiative to break off the marriage, she should pay back all the bride price of the man. If a third party leads the girl away, the third party should double the compensation.

(3) Bride-taking: On the first day of the wedding, the man should prepare according to the bride price agreed when eating a small wine-8 kilograms of pork, 4 to 5 kilograms of white wine, and more than 5 kilograms of bait pieces in 2 yuan, and the matchmaker will lead the beautiful girls dressed in costumes and carrying crispy meat to the woman's house to take the bride-taking. The bride's family will invite menstruation and aunt of the bride to propose a toast to the bride-in-law. When the bride-in-law drinks wine, she will give the toaster "milk money", and the money mantissa will also bring six.

(4) seeing off relatives: seeing off relatives requires a pair of accompanying mothers. The condition of accompanying a mother is that she is beautiful in appearance and has many brothers and sisters. If she is married, she must be divorced and not pregnant. The bride's companion should choose a good singer. The more new people you attend, the better, usually 8-1. The bride's dress varies according to the branch. The bride of Baisha nationality in Wulong and Gaoliang is dressed in indigo and other colors, and the jewelry she wears, such as earrings, necklaces and bracelets, is silver-white. The bride of Heisha ethnic group wears a coat with silver inlay worth more than 4 yuan, a pleated skirt and a silver waistcoat. The chaperone also needs to dress like the bride. The bride can't cry when she goes out, and crying will suffer for life.

On the way to see the bride off, every time the bride crosses a ditch and a bridge, the bride-to-be-seen must ask the bride-to-be for "winning money". When you arrive at Xinlang's house, you have to "enter the door". The amount of money can be a few cents, but the mantissa still needs to be six. Give "walking money" and "entrance money", and the newly married life of the bride and groom is as smooth as crossing the ditch and entering the door.

(5) Marrying: First of all, when Shizong Zhuang people hold a wedding, they should choose an auspicious day. When the auspicious day arrives, suona will play in unison and firecrackers will explode. The man's house is decorated with lanterns and colorful couplets, and the wedding couplets are plastered all over the doorframe. The hall is full of greetings from relatives and friends. Cigarettes are all around, and the guests are full. The bride is accompanied by her mother, a pair of pro-smiles send light (girls) leads the way, and eight or ten pairs of smiles send light to see the bridegroom off. When entering the gate, the man's house welcomes him with artillery, and gives the bride a hoe and a gourd to take into the new house. Giving a hoe means hard work and getting rich, and a gourd means being blessed and rich, and growing old together. On the same day, I went to the bridal chamber, but after three nights of marriage, the groom could not sleep with the bride-,and the girl who accompanied and sent off the bride and the bride-* * *.

When the bride comes in, the bride's dowry will be displayed one by one by the sender, counted in front of relatives and friends, and even the dowry box will be weighed to show the wealth of the bride's family and the exquisite craftsmanship of the bride. After lunch, the man's later relatives hung red on the groom's left arm and the woman's later relatives hung red on the groom's right arm. When hanging red, "Hug Mo" congratulated the male and female's later relatives respectively: "Today, I like red, and generations are happy, and future generations are especially happy. A foot of happiness is long and long. Today, I used it to tie the groom. On the left, I wrapped it for three times to give birth to a noble son, and on the right, I wrapped it for three times to become the champion lang. "

pay homage at noon the next day. Cigarettes were wrapped around the table, four tables of banquets were set in the hall, and the family relatives and post-relatives took their seats. Accompanied by Lang and Niang, accompanied by the bride and groom dressed in costumes, they kowtowed together, and were called by "Hug Mo". First, they worshipped heaven and earth, the kitchen king and the gods, and then they visited their parents, parents and men and women. The main idea of the "Hug Mo" ceremony is: "On this auspicious occasion, there is a beautiful banquet, with high music and melodious musical instruments, and weddings is full of vigor and vitality. I like to see the jade swallows in the world in pairs, and a couple of new people worship Huatang, earnestly praying for mercy and blessing." Later relatives gave a message: "Today, I worship the church for a long time, one worships the sun, the moon and the light, the second worships the treasures of gold and silver, the third worships the bumper harvest of grain, the fourth worships the cattle and sheep, the fifth worships the descendants of generations to enter Kejia, the sixth worships the prosperity of six animals, the seventh worships the seven sisters to greet the bride, the eighth worships the Eight Immortals to cross the sea, the ninth worships Xuan Nv for nine days, and the tenth worships the descendants of generations to be rich and prosperous." When visiting the church, you need to kneel three times and knock nine times for each ceremony.

After the ceremony, the guests took their seats. Accompanied by Lang and Niang, the bride of Xinlang made a toast to her relatives, first to the sugar water, then to the wedding banquet. Family members and guests give the bride and groom gift money, usually 5-1 yuan, and the gift money given by the bride's family goes to the bride.

(6) Back to the door: On the third day of the wedding, the bride gets up early to pick well water and pour it into the kitchen water tank, and holds a banquet, inviting close relatives of the family, village elders and chefs to the table. The bride leads the relatives to toast the guests one by one to thank them. In addition, the mother-in-law brought Baba, crispy meat and other things to the bride and sent them back to her family for her relatives and the family.

(7) Wedding etiquette: Before liberation, the Zhuang nationality prevailed the habit of "not sitting at home" after marriage, that is, returning to her mother's house on the third day after marriage, only busy at home, and being taken back by her mother-in-law or her husband's younger sister-in-law for holidays. Return to your mother's house after the busy farming. After marriage, the groom still sleeps in the crib before marriage, and the couple can share the bed for a few days when the bride comes home. The wife is at her mother's house, and the husband visits her daughter-in-law with gifts every once in a while, staying for one or two nights, without the custom of being with her. The woman won't go back to the man's house until she is pregnant.

After liberation, especially in recent years, the bride's custom of "not sitting at home" has gradually decreased. Some places have broken the custom of "not sitting at home".