How to chase a girl with slow fever? How to change from ambiguous stage to lover?

Let's talk about the relationship between warming up today.

Getting along with a girl, from a stranger to a friend to an affair, everything goes well. But then I couldn't go on, and I stayed in the state of unsatisfied lover above friendship. This is really a kind of torture.

But I believe that few people will choose to give up at this time, no matter how difficult it is, they must bite their teeth.

Just sometimes I can't help but collapse and touch some minefields.

For example, I heard a girlfriend say that a man chased her. After seeing her for three or four times, I lost patience. I hugged her and asked her what she really thought, which frightened my friend.

This kind of mistake should not be made.

I can tell you responsibly that as long as you don't fall in love with love rat and she is willing to have an affair with you, there is no reason why you can't take it off, but you need to master some skills in this process.

First of all, you should understand why girls always seem to be slow to heat up and don't take the initiative to warm up with you.

Women who have experienced a lot have long been familiar with the laws of feelings and know that feelings come and go quickly.

They are always worried that you may be attentive to her because of a crush, and you won't like her or even fall in love with her for a long time.

In order to buy yourself more time to test you, it is inevitable to play a little trick when considering whether to accept you or not.

The most slippery thing about women is to play hard to get, keep your appetite but not give you a clear answer, so that you can't stop.

That feeling is like giving you a big red cherry. It will not be placed on the horizon so that you have no motivation to chase it, nor will it be placed in front of you so that you can eat it and throw it away. Instead, I will put it in a place where you can see and do your best to make you fight for it.

She just watches the game, grades you, and enjoys the feeling that someone is desperate to get herself.

If your performance meets her expectations, she will be frustrated by the lack of surprises.

If your performance is too unexpected for her, she will be discouraged by the comparison.

Don't focus on how to behave to her liking, it's impossible, go and grab the initiative.

She has the vanity of longing for ambiguity, so satisfy her, but you should end the ambiguity in time at the right time and don't give her a chance to leave.

Next, from three aspects: "How to change from the ambiguous stage to the lover relationship?"

1. How long is the ambiguous period enough? ?

(2) ambiguous minefield taboo! ?

3. The method of "turning positive" in ambiguous period!

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Before it's too late, get down to business.

How long is the ambiguous period enough?

Many people say that the sweetest thing about love is not love, but the ambiguity before the official start.

I don't deny that this period is indeed the period with the highest happiness index for men and women, and the feeling of being determined to win is always full of expectations.

But there are many exceptions. Not every ambiguity can naturally develop into love, and there are always a few ambiguities that will fade away inexplicably.

The reason for this situation is often that it is not over when it is time to end the ambiguity, and it has been dragged on until the feelings are boring.

So how long is the ambiguous period appropriate?

Three to six months is enough.

I know everything I need to know, and I have enough time and basis to judge each other's thoughts.

Ambiguity for more than half a year is easy to deteriorate, passion is almost exhausted, patience is gradually worn away, and it is difficult to develop into a lover because of lack of love.

There is only a sufficient distance between ambiguity and true love, which can be broken with a poke without much effort.

The key is whether you have maintained the ambiguous atmosphere, let the ambiguity escalate gradually, and seize the window signal released by her to pierce this enough paper.

Many people are hesitant, and always feel that girls don't like themselves clearly, which shows that they will be embarrassed in their hearts.

But I have heard many girls complain that boys are not active enough and straightforward enough.

If you have been waiting for the girl to give a clear answer, what is the difference between it and the girl's first confession?

You can define the relationship between you as ambiguous, which means that your likes are mutual.

People who like it enough are definitely not willing to be ambiguous for too long. She will also be afraid that you will be taken away by others and will want to trample you to death.

So she will deliberately release the signal, and more than once, you must feel different from her, but you didn't give yourself enough courage to pursue it.

Remember, 3~6 months of ambiguity is enough. During this time, she will release the window signal more than once. Don't miss it again and again and waste opportunities.

The minefield taboo in ambiguous period!

The reason why I encourage everyone to take the initiative to confess after the ambiguous period has developed to a certain period is because the longer the battle line drags on, the easier it is to think, and it is easy to touch the minefield when the mind is confused.

These mines may be alert to everyone on weekdays, but they have long been ambiguous. Obviously, it is easy to act on impulse when there should be progress but there is no progress.

Here, I have summarized five minefields that are most likely to be mistakenly entered during the ambiguous period, focusing on reminding everyone.

1. Various gifts and tantrums

You think you have a good relationship, so giving her all kinds of gifts regardless of the occasion is equivalent to giving her a difficult problem.

Does she accept it or not? Should she give you a gift in return?

Everyone knows that being soft on others and accepting too many gifts from you for no reason will increase her psychological burden.

Not only are you showing your love for her, but you are also a little embarrassed, which shows that you are very inconsiderate.

You think you know each other well, so you don't have to be so restrained when you speak. You can even joke about some colors, just open your mouth to tease.

What do you want her to think of you?

She may like you funny, humorous and provocative, but she will never like you talking all the time.

Intentional or unintentional teasing can irritate her, and endless subconscious teasing will only make her feel that you are greasy and even naive.

(2). There is no reason for it.

Sometimes if you are ambiguous for a long time, you will have a strong sense of self-superiority, feel that your position in her heart is not general, and you can be less "polite" when you talk and do things.

This kind of official courtesy is unnecessary, but it should be properly limited.

Some boys always think that girls have their own time except serious things, which makes no sense.

She is not yours yet. Even if she is, she has the right to decide what to do in her spare time.

She doesn't have to say yes to every invitation, especially when you have nothing important to do. It is normal for her to refuse.

You shouldn't be angry about it, it will expose your dependence on her.

Because she refused your invitation many times and didn't leave you time, you collapsed, repeatedly asked, and went crazy, which only made her feel that you were empty.

In this way, you will not be a close opponent, and the fun of having an affair with you will be gone.

(3) Try to find out the news.

In order to get an extremely certain answer, many people go to make friends with girls' girlfriends and relatives and make innuendo.

Can they know what girls really think?

Generally, the answers given by these people are their own guesses, which are not as accurate as your feelings.

These days, many people don't care much about things. The advice given to you may be a bad idea. Don't rush to see a doctor.

Without a gatekeeper in her mouth, the story of chasing her may spread, and it may even be embellished.

Don't worry about it, but it will probably affect her.

Maybe she is ready to let go, just because of these rumors and because of face, she has to change her mind.

She will probably get angry and think that you don't understand her at all.

"I'm playing with you. Do you like you or not? Can't you read it yourself? "

If you really can't see it at all, she will be quite lost and even suspect that she is romantic.

Pretend calm and don't care

I often encounter such a situation that a boy and a girl flirt for a long time without getting a response and become very cold and indifferent. As a result, when the girl retired, he went crazy himself.

I need to remind you that the so-called "the colder you are to women, the more excited they are" is not conducive to the development of intimate relationships at all.

You were enthusiastic about chasing her before, but now your indifference can only send her a message that you gave up.

Since you are the first to quit, she will naturally walk more smartly than you.

If you want to develop from an affair to a real lover, not a familiar stranger, then don't be deliberately cold.

There should be independence, but not indifference.

You can calm down and don't rely too much on her. There are still many things to do without her, and you can live well.

But don't deliberately alienate her, play hard to get and hang her, which will only make you feel good.

5. Open your mouth.

The reason why she is still having an affair with you is probably that she is really not ready, or that she wants to enjoy having enough paper.

If you break this enough paper too early, she will turn and run away in shock.

If you want her to accept the fact that the enough paper has been punctured as soon as possible, you can give some hints euphemistically, instead of confessing casually.

She must know that you like her, but whether she likes you or not, she needs to say it at the right time.

If you say I miss you as soon as you meet, every word you say will bring the question of whether she likes you or not, and she will feel offended.

Marriage proposal and confession are the two most important occasions in a woman's life. Love can be expressed at any time, but confession must not be casual.

She can't even let go of her ambiguous feelings. How can she not ask for such a romantic thing?

In fact, it is not difficult to notice that these taboos should not be committed in the process of chasing girls in the above five minefields.

In the final analysis, these are all related to proper limit. When you are just chasing girls, you will have more self-restraint because you are unfamiliar, but once you step into ambiguity, people will easily get confused and jump into the thunder pool instead.

Remind yourself not to make the lowest mistakes at the best time.

The method of "turning positive" in ambiguous period!

After talking about minefields, let's talk about the problem of "turning positive".

In fact, this is not difficult. Just find a good time to set off the atmosphere, and coax her to promise you while she is madly in love.

As mentioned earlier, the window signal she released was actually shaken in her heart under the ambiguous warming environment.

That feeling may come from a casual touch, a heavy blow, or just a look.

Through her expression, you can feel that she was a little different at that time, but you may not catch her in time.

It doesn't matter, if your ambiguous time is coming, you can also take the initiative to create an environment that will warm up ambiguity.

There are many ways to choose from.

For example, travel, remember that it must be a sparsely populated place with good scenery.

The vast territory and sparse population are conducive to being alone and not being influenced by others.

Good scenery, good mood, good mood to talk about feelings.

It is this kind of exploring unknown memories together, and in the process, you are likely to inadvertently touch her loose heart.

Another example is "* * * cohabitation".

Hear me out. Don't dream yet.

I mean to find a hotel with a good environment and spend a few days together.

Nothing special, just cooking, cleaning, walking the dog and watching movies on the sofa. ...

This simulation, which is similar to the life of a young couple, easily touches her heart.

Or play some exciting projects, bungee jumping and skydiving are all good.

The premise is that she is a bold girl who likes sports and adventure on weekdays.

This kind of activity can stimulate people's excitement, and many things that can't be said on weekdays are not so hard to say once you have a mood.

But her heart was pounding because of strenuous exercise, and she couldn't tell whether it was caused by exercise or love.

Or two people learn something together, or spell Lego.

The main thing is to create an atmosphere in which both of them learn and progress, and create an illusion that she will get better and better with you.

It is best to really finish some small works, which will help to sort out that kind of happiness.

There are really too many such activities, which are endless anyway.

With so many examples, I'm sure you can understand what it feels like.

In a word, remember that the moment when two people are intimate and achieve each other in a quiet and undisturbed environment is the time when she is most likely to release the window signal.

This time is the best time to upgrade ambiguity and become a true lover.

Don't hesitate, just do it

The feeling of ambiguous period is only out of print for the two of you. You have the same secret and many things that others don't know.

Don't be too eager to become a full member. Once the affair is over, you can never come back. Enjoy when you should, and don't hesitate when it's over.

In this short time, there are countless exciting moments.

As long as you don't touch the taboo, as long as you can seize that moment, you can jump out of the ambiguous period and become her unique lover.

I'm Li, a retired person and an active emotional counselor.

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