Humor in chat skills, how to make your speech more humorous?

Verbal humor is like icing on the cake for women, and it is one of the most attractive verbal arts.

Women also need humor. Humor can make you more popular. A woman who speaks humorously shows that she is confident enough to show humor. In particular, as we said before, if we can learn to laugh at ourselves in humor, we can not only solve the problems in life through teasing, but also add some color to the plain words.

Only by knowing humor can we release humor and become the comfortable and valuable person in the crowd. Imagine, if you lack a certain sense of humor, what comes out of your mouth is unremarkable and it is difficult to arouse others' interest. This is not the most important thing, but it is also difficult for you to "get" other people's humor and understand the burden shaken out of other people's words, which will cause communication difficulties.

A person who doesn't understand other people's jokes and humor is often in an awkward position in chatting-others laugh and he doesn't know why. So people will find chatting with you a bit boring. Think about it, right?

Ms. L I know is a young teacher. Because you are obsessed with your studies, you will inevitably ignore some interpersonal things. She has never opened a circle of friends, nor has she the habit of "brushing Weibo" or "seeing a circle of friends". She doesn't understand social hot topics, and she doesn't understand the popular vocabulary of young people. Although young, she is more like an "old pedant" than other older colleagues in the office. Sometimes it's easy to talk to her.

It happened a long time ago. Ms. L told a joke while chatting with a female colleague. The female colleague smiled and said, "Forget it, don't continue, it's really killing the baby."

She used a popular online hot word "Xiaowa" at that time, just to say that Ms. L's joke was very interesting and almost killed herself. Almost everyone knows this online hot word, but Ms. L didn't understand its meaning. Instead, she got excited and asked, "Are you laughing your baby to death?" Do you have any kids？ When did this happen? "

At that time, the female colleague was stunned and thought that Ms. L had told a cold joke, and then she realized that she didn't know the meaning. The female colleague said in distress situation: "It's just an online vocabulary, why don't you know!"

This little thing didn't have much impact, but Ms. L realized that she seemed to be a little out of touch with everyone. In the long run, this is not a good thing.

We don't need to be a person who always knows fashion hot words, but at least we should understand the humor in most people's words and give back appropriately. A humorous woman should not only be able to say humorous words, but also understand the humor of others. Only by combining the two can people feel attractive and attractive.

When you create humorous words with witty remarks, you can make people around you feel happy and relaxed; When others show their humor, you can make people feel satisfied by smiling and supporting them. The combination of the two is a sharp weapon to attract anyone. Beautiful women will be sought after by the opposite sex, but humorous women will be close to everyone.

So, we can show our humor like this:

1. Learn to listen before you speak.

Listening is not easy for people who don't know much about humor. Because they may be able to communicate with others and listen to others, but it is difficult to "connect with others." When others show humor, they often show indifference and are embarrassed because they don't realize the interesting things at all.

Therefore, in order to cultivate a humorous way of speaking, we must first learn to listen, find out the real humorous points in people's words, and just "join in". Sometimes it doesn't have to be too funny. As long as you can be a knowledgeable audience, you can leave a good impression.

Of course, there are also some people who are always making cold jokes, lack humor cells, and stick to a humorous style, which really makes the audience embarrassed. At this point, to maintain their face, as long as they are not too enthusiastic, giving them a few appropriate responses is enough to satisfy them and enough is enough.

2. Humorous words make people feel fresh.

If you want to speak humorously, you can learn to leave some unexpected turning points in your words. The other party will feel fresh because of "unexpected" and can't help laughing. You can make some preparations first, let the other party guess the development behind, and then suddenly the conversation turns, which is very humorous. Actually, humor is just talking, which always makes people feel fresh.

For example, two people are discussing the problem of "private money". A man stressed: "I have never been afraid of my wife." I only pay half of my salary, and the other half can be spent casually. She has no control at all. "

Another man said, "That sister-in-law is very strict. In our family, if I don't pay a penny, I will save it all in my card. "

"So good?"

"Yes, it's a little imperfect. Stick with my wife. "

In such a passage, men have laid the groundwork for how much private money they have and have great autonomy in wages, so when there is a turning point behind "stuck in my wife's place", people will immediately be surprised, which is the humor brought by the turning point. This way can actually make people feel interesting, which is quite interesting.

3. The essence of verbal humor lies in vivid description.

Humor in a speech lies not only in the content of your speech, but also in the tone and rhythm of your speech. A person who always tells "cold jokes" and is often silent may not be that the content of his speech is not funny, but that his speech attitude is too dull and boring.

Therefore, the humor of a speech is closely related to proper sentence breaking and vivid tone. A "gasping" sentence break can sometimes make ordinary words have a sense of humor.