Rereading "Little Peas by the Window", I envy young peas very much, but after reading it, it is more important to connect young people.

Who doesn't like Ba Xueyuan and who doesn't like President

Rereading "Little Peas by the Window", I envy young peas very much, but after reading it, it is more important to connect young people.

Who doesn't like Ba Xueyuan and who doesn't like President Sousaku Kobayashi after reading Little Peas by the Window? However, students enter the first grade every year, but the Ba Academy is not common. This is a fact, and it is also the sorrow of education in the big environment. As parents, in the absence of Ba Xueyuan, how should we prevent children from becoming "problem students" who do not abide by classroom discipline?

The answer is simple, do a good job of connecting young people in advance.

Generally speaking, the connection between young and old refers to the process of children's smooth transition from kindergarten to primary school, which is an important stage in the process of children's growth. In this critical period of children's growth, parents should make preparations for their children in advance, so that their children can get exercise in psychology, physiology, self-care ability, living habits, study habits and so on, so that their children can smoothly adapt to the learning life in primary schools.

If there is no good connection between the young and the young, children will have all kinds of problems about study and life after they go to primary school, just like the little peas who talk loudly, make small moves and interfere with the classroom order in class.

In order to avoid this situation, our parents should correctly realize that kindergarten education and primary education are completely different. The core difference between them is that kindergartens mainly focus on self-cultivation and pay attention to the cultivation of personality and habits, while primary schools focus on learning, and mainly focus on academic performance in assessing and evaluating children.

In order to make children adapt to the study life in primary schools smoothly, parents should prepare for their children's future study life from two aspects: living habits and study habits.

After knowing what young convergence is and when to start preparing for young convergence, parents should also understand one question: What is young convergence?

For young children, some parents think that it is enough to let their children go to young children's classes to learn pinyin, literacy and arithmetic. In fact, this idea is wrong. What young people want is connectivity, not knowledge.

In "Little Doudou by the Window", the former school teacher said to Xiao Doudou's mother, "Your little daughter goes to school here, and the whole class will be disturbed. Would you please send her to another school? "

Is Xiao Doudou dissuaded by the teacher because of his poor academic performance?

This is what the book says:

Finally, the teacher excitedly said to Xiao Doudou's mother, "If you can count' and', you don't have to let her transfer." In class, make the desk make noise frequently, speak loudly and destroy the desk. From the teacher's complaints, we can know that Xiao Doudou was dismissed not because of academic problems, but because of classroom discipline, that is, study habits.

On the first day of every year, teachers will report that individual students lack awareness of classroom discipline, and they can speak and make small moves, which seriously interferes with the normal classroom order. Imagine that Xiao Doudou is in her child's class and the teacher is giving a lecture. She kept banging on the table and stood by the window when she finished. When someone comes over, she says hello loudly. As a parent and teacher, will she think this is the "black sheep" among children? Think again, if Xiao Doudou is his own child, is he very anxious and upset as a parent?

Actually, the connection of ability is more important than the connection of knowledge.

Parents can mainly start from two aspects: living habits and study habits when helping their children to connect young.

First, living habits

To guide children's living habits in the early stage, we can start from three aspects: eating habits, work and rest habits and self-care ability.

1, eating habits

When children go to kindergarten, they usually have three meals in kindergarten, and the breakfast time is usually at 8 o'clock. However, after children go to primary school, generally speaking, the school stipulates that children need to arrive at school before 7: 50, which requires children's breakfast time to be around 7: 00, one hour earlier than the breakfast time in kindergarten. This requires parents to train their children to eat early every day through a step-by-step method during the summer vacation.

In addition, parents need to keep a light diet and balanced nutrition, and try to let their children eat less at dinner, so as not to increase the burden on the stomach.

2. Work and rest habits

The work and rest in kindergartens are very different from those in primary schools, which requires parents to help their children adapt to the work and rest habits in primary schools 2-3 months in advance.

Children need to get up early in primary school and there is no special lunch break. In order to ensure adequate sleep, parents need to let their children fall asleep early. Generally speaking, children will have a sleepy period around 8 pm, so that they can prepare to wash and sleep at this time, or do a sleep ceremony with their children.

3. Self-care ability

Parents can encourage their children in advance and tell them, "You are a big boy, you can do your own thing." Like putting on and taking off clothes, washing clothes, eating, sorting schoolbags and so on. Parents can consciously let their children do their own things gradually when they go to kindergarten. If children have strong self-care ability in kindergarten, they will adapt to the new study life more quickly after attending primary school.

Second, study habits

Study habit refers to the behavior tendency that children gradually develop in the long-term learning process. Children's study habits can be cultivated from four aspects: listening habits, expressing habits, feedback habits and rule awareness. In addition, the quality of study habits can directly affect children's learning ability, that is, academic performance.

In The Little Doudou by the Window, Doudou doesn't pay attention to the lecture in class, and when he often deserts, it involves two aspects: the habit of attending classes and the awareness of rules.

1, listening habits

In "Little Doudou by the Window", after listening to what Doudou said for four hours in a row, President Kobayashi said with emotion, "It would be nice to be with this person forever." Tetsuko Kuroyanagi wrote this dialogue:

After children go to primary school, the transfer of knowledge is mainly accomplished by listening to the teacher. In this process, children's listening is very important. But in the eyes of children aged 6 or 7, the world is novel and interesting. When they are interested in something, they tend to forget others and immerse themselves in their own world. If the parents talk to their children at this time, the children don't respond, and the parents don't pursue it, then after a long time, the children will develop the habit of not listening and not responding.

In order to let children develop good listening habits, we can use some tips:

1, asking children to look into each other's eyes when listening to others;

2. When a child hears someone calling his name, he should respond;

Don't interrupt others casually, let alone interrupt when others are talking.

Step 2 express habits

After three and a half years old, children will have a strong desire to express themselves. The process of children's listening and expressing is the process of enriching vocabulary. But sometimes children's "gossip" attribute will annoy their parents and be criticized by their parents, which will further dampen their desire to express. Actually, this is not right. As parents, we should respect our children's wishes to express themselves, especially when they don't know how to express themselves in words.

1, parents learn to use guided expressions.

In Little Doudou by the Window, Xiao Doudou can talk for four hours in one breath because President Kobayashi guides his expression, such as: What happened later? Is it gone? What else is there to say? Is it gone?

Parents should learn to ask open questions.

A common way to guide children to express themselves is to ask some open-ended questions, such as "God, why is it raining?" "Leaves, why are they green?" Wait, open questions can not only guide expression, but also let children learn to think.

After children go to primary school, interpersonal relationships will be more complicated than in kindergarten, and children will have conflicts with classmates. When teachers and parents ask questions, how to express them clearly and accurately determines whether adults can understand and provide correct solutions.

3. Learn to ask questions.

Children will become "100,000 whys" when they are 6 or 7 years old, and there are many interesting questions, such as "Is our family rich?" At this time, we can understand why children ask this question by asking questions. "Why do you ask?"

The above three expressions can not only cultivate children's expressive ability, but also enable children to learn how to talk to people in a subtle way.

Third, feedback habits

While listening to the teacher, the teacher asked, "Do you understand?" The students answered "yes", but the teacher found that the students didn't understand when doing the problem, which was caused by poor feedback ability.

The most important thing to cultivate feedback ability is to describe your own understanding and confirm it to others after listening to them. When parents explain their children's affairs, they can ask their children, "Tell me, what did I just say?" When the child explains the problem to the parents, the parents can say, "Did you just say ...? "

Fourth, the awareness of rules

As the saying goes, "Fiona Fang can't be made without rules", it is very important to cultivate children's awareness of rules, which includes observing classroom discipline, completing homework on time, reviewing in time and so on. How can children have a sense of rules?

1, remind children

When sending children to school every day, remind them to observe certain classroom disciplines, such as no talking, no fighting, and no moving desks and benches all the time. When picking up the children from school, I asked: What homework did the teacher assign and where should I review in advance? You can also make a study schedule with your child and post it in a conspicuous place at home.

2. Learn to let children bear the natural consequences.

Usually, children should be taught to bear natural consequences, such as not completing homework on time, and teachers will punish them; If you don't eat on time, you can only wait until the next meal. When children make mistakes, don't take the consequences for them, don't help them pass the buck, and don't be their umbrella.

3, timely encouragement

In "Little Doudou by the Window", "Whenever the headmaster sees Little Doudou, he will say," You are really a good boy. "So Xiao Doudou also feels that he is really a good boy."

When the headmaster hears the complaints from teachers and parents about Xiao Doudou, he always seizes every opportunity to say to Xiao Doudou, "You are really a good boy." Hearing this, Xiao Doudou began to demand himself according to the standards of a good boy. This is what Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, said: "Sometimes the moral shock brought by tolerance is stronger than punishment."

It is said that the sales volume of the simplified Chinese version of Little Doudou by the Window is as high as 1 1 10,000 copies, and almost every reader who has seen it is shocked by the Ba Xue Garden in the story. However, in our existing educational environment, "problem students" are common, but Ba Xueyuan is not. In order to make children adapt to primary school life smoothly, we can't send our feelings to Ba Xueyuan. We should help our children establish good relationships in advance.