Never help your daughter take care of the baby. The three reasons given by grandma are very heartbreaking. What are the three reasons?

I remember that there used to be an Aunt Liu in my neighbor’s house. She came from out of town to take care of her daughter’s baby. Since she took Dabao to kindergarten, her daughter gave birth to her second child smoothly. After having a baby, her daughter still went to work as usual, so the heavy responsibility of raising the baby naturally fell on Aunt Liu.

Aunt Liu’s daughter explained: It’s a bit boring for her mother to be alone at home, so she can let her children stay with her when she takes care of them.

However, after 3 or 4 years of raising children, Aunt Liu felt more and more stressed. She began to be unable to sleep all night, had no appetite for anything to eat, and often felt flustered and irritable. I lost almost 10 pounds in a month. I finally went to see a doctor and found out that Aunt Liu was moderately depressed.

As soon as this incident spread, the neighbors in the community criticized Aunt Liu’s daughter. “Old people have no obligation to take care of their children. Now young people are very unconscious. The old people help them take care of their children and even "It's for the benefit of the elderly!"

Of course, there are different opinions that "it's not that young people don't want to take care of children, it's just that they have too much pressure in life and have no choice."

Think about it, For many families, although people are now affluent, they are still under pressure. It is basically impossible for one person to make money to support the family, so they can only ask the elderly to come over and "help".

If the daughters have no time to work and the old man has problems taking care of his children, then the life of the family will be even more difficult.

Is there no solution? In fact, it’s not true. Just like Sister Li, she wanted her mother to help take care of her baby since she gave birth to her second child, but her mother refused directly: “I am your mother, I am not here to take care of your baby. Don’t look for me again in the future.” !"

Normally speaking, mothers love their daughters very much and are afraid that their daughters will suffer from physical problems due to giving birth. However, Sister Li's mother's behavior is somewhat unpredictable. Could it be that Is there any unsolvable knot?

It turns out that Sister Li’s mother used to take care of Sister Li’s children for three full years. During this period, the relationship between her grandson and her grandma was also very good. But then the child's grandmother came, and the grandson became estranged from her, and the child clung to her all day long. After that, Sister Li's mother felt very uncomfortable. She had worked so hard to raise the child, but in the end she was still worse than a grandma who had never raised a child!

Sister Li’s mother also felt that raising a baby was a thankless task for grandma. Just like the older generation has different views than the young ones, disagreements will inevitably occur in the process of raising children. If this continues for a long time, the relationship between mother and daughter will definitely become estranged.

So in order to avoid conflicts, Sister Li’s mother decisively rejected her daughter’s idea of ??raising a second child. At the same time, she also gave three reasons why her grandmother was determined not to raise a child for her daughter. It’s okay to favor boys over girls.

1. Afraid of causing dissatisfaction with the mother-in-law's family

There is a saying: whose mother loves whose child. Although the child was raised by the grandma, every mother knows that the grandma still loves her daughter more, takes better care of her daughter, and is considerate of the other party when encountering problems when speaking. On the other hand, the mother-in-law's family will receive some neglect.

Another point is that while the grandma is taking care of the child, the mother-in-law hardly sees the child. As a member of the in-laws' family, one of the reasons for getting married is to look forward to the arrival of the grandson. But now that she can't see her, it is inevitable that she will feel sad in her heart. Feeling dissatisfied.

2. The son-in-law is ungrateful

I remember seeing such a thing. A Sichuan girl married a young man from other provinces. When the girl was pregnant, she liked spicy food, so she The mother was called to cook for their family and help take care of the baby after the baby was born. Of course, during this period, they also considered that the young man did not like spicy food, so they also had non-spicy meals.

But within a few days, my son-in-law was dissatisfied. Although there were non-spicy ones, they were not to his taste, so he often complained. One time he drank a little too much, and said grandma, grandma, I went home so angry.

3. Easy to be laughed at by neighbors

Generally speaking, children are taken care of by their husband’s family, which means that the children do not have time to take care of the children, so the grandparents have to take on a big responsibility. . If the child is given to the grandma, some people will think that the woman has no status in her husband's family.

Sometimes when grandma hears these gossips, she will inevitably feel uncomfortable in her heart. She is afraid of the neighbors’ jokes and dislikes her daughter’s incompetence.

Actually, there are more than just these situations for grandma to take care of a baby. Many grandmas care for their daughters when they take care of their babies, so they try to help the young couple as much as possible. But in the end, I found that my daughter and I were both working hard, while my son-in-law and her husband's family were getting lazy.

So, I would like to advise everyone here that grandma does not have the responsibility to take care of your children. When they feel sorry for you, they should also learn to be grateful and considerate of their elders. They should not treat them as a hands-off shopkeeper and take care of raising children. Everything is on them. No matter what, whether it is grandma taking care of the baby or grandma taking care of the baby, it is full of kindness to be able to help you.