How can I make my ex-boyfriend willing to get back together (the correct way to make my ex-boyfriend take the initiative to save)

Because you dreamed that he left, you woke up crying from your sleep. He has drifted away, and you are still crying secretly with memories.

Zhang Xiaoxian wrote a passage about our feelings when we broke up: "If I don't love you, I won't miss you, I won't be jealous of the opposite sex around you, I won't lose self-confidence and fighting spirit, and I won't suffer. If only I could not love you."

the pain of breaking up is that we have devoted time and energy and our true feelings. When there is a crisis in feelings, our youth and feelings are sunk costs, which are gone forever.

When we are with him, we are single-minded, and we have already cut our own path and lost other opportunities to find happiness. This is the opportunity cost.

since I have paid such a big price and finally got happiness, how can I give up easily? If you don't recover, don't fight for love, and easily give the fruits of your efforts to others, who wants to!

After breaking up, you are more and more aware of his weight in your heart and the extraordinary significance of this relationship to you.

Today, I will share with you how to correctly determine the relationship with my ex.

in the process of redemption, many students will think of peace for the first time, and then they will be entangled with each other, and then they will have to be blacked out by the other side. Some students are still attractive at first.

However, most of them were too anxious, and they started the SMS bombing. Companies and families block each other and create pressure on each other. Finally, the other party had to delete their contact information or simply ignore them.

seeking reconciliation is the last step of recovery. Redemption is like playing cards. What you need is the order of the cards, not the king when you come up. You let others know your cards, which will give them a feeling of eating you.

Many girls have a lot of ideas at this time. I don't propose reconciliation, and I don't expose my sense of need. So how do we determine the relationship with our ex-boyfriend? I don't take the initiative, how can I let the other person know that I still love him? I don't care about him. How can his things impress him?

We have a student, Yaya (a pseudonym), who is very fragile and sensitive. She is usually a generous and lovely girl who is at a loss in front of her boyfriend.

As long as her boyfriend planned to break up with her, she couldn't speak for no reason, so she squatted on the ground and began to cry. We know her situation, give her targeted psychological counseling and teach her to establish a framework. She is serious and has achieved good results in her studies.

When she got back together with her boyfriend again, she was generous, kind and natural. The teacher helped her choose clothes and styles, which made her boyfriend shine. Her boyfriend regards her as a strange old friend. He is curious about how she has changed so much recently. What a surprise!

According to the teacher's instructions, Ya Ya didn't stay too long, didn't have physical contact, and didn't show the feeling of need when they first met. Her boyfriend asked her to go to the movies next weekend.

You can think of it this way: when you get along with boys, everything is natural, from strangeness to familiarity to ambiguity, to intimacy, to invitation to date, and even to falling in love.

Think about it. Before establishing a good relationship, it's not better to do what couples should do first, then use a series of skills to guide each other to invest actively, and then go to the other side to make peace actively.

Then you have a deep confession, saying that the past is good and your own change is now, and then you plan the future to create a sense of comfort for each other. The above operation is like a sedative, which can go deep into each other's hearts and make them more sure that they want to be with you.

this is the real redemption, and recombination is based on attraction.

So don't make meaningless pestering. These are useless jobs. Pay attention to yourself, not each other.

Maybe in this process, you just received a sentence from the other party, "I think you are a nice person, and you will meet better ones in the future", "Will you leave me alone?" Or the other party simply didn't respond.

we should now consider how to save it, instead of pestering each other and creating pressure on each other. In the end, we can only let the other side stop. So we need to stop loss in time and start to build comfort. We are divided into three stages.

1. Build a sense of comfort

Many times, when you try to meet each other and exchange birthday topics, you will not respond to convenience. That's because the comfort between you has not been established.

Maybe you are having a good time on WeChat SMS chat, and the other person will occasionally take the initiative or even praise you, but only if you really invite you can you see if the other person is in a mixed state of mind.

It's not enough for you to communicate your comfort only by social software. After all, there is a screen, so be sure to invite you out as much as possible. Maybe your relationship on WeChat is already ambiguous, and the second attraction is enough.

But when you meet suddenly and don't know how to communicate, it makes the other person feel that you haven't changed, and you are still the same as before. It will remind the boys of the unhappiness and stress you have caused. The next meeting may be difficult. So you need to drive the whole chat atmosphere and relax the whole atmosphere during the dating process.

how to create comfort?

the only way is to chat. You can start from the topic you talked about before, or you can share a joke and a stalk. It is best to slowly enter the atmosphere of your WeChat chat. Therefore, in reality, chatting requires more skills and skills than WeChat chatting.

If your language skills are not good, there will be no emoji and copy-and-paste speech skills in reality, and you will not be able to express yourself. At this time, you need to express yourself with body language. After doing this, the other person will come back and can take the initiative to chat with you, but it will warm up the atmosphere between you.

2. Build a sense of connection

When you build a sense of comfort together, the other person will communicate with you comfortably. There is still a certain distance from success. So after establishing comfort, we need to establish a sense of connection at this time.

the sense of connection is that after your invitation, the other party still misses you, and even reminds the other party of you occasionally, and starts to feel a little reluctant.

the purpose of building a sense of connection is to make the relationship stronger. Once you establish a sense of connection, you two can basically settle down. You only owe Dongfeng. In this state, you can invite more times to cultivate a sense of mutual understanding.

For example, it is ok to go out for some entertainment activities. Even we can implant these small details in the chat, so that the other party feels that they have a lot of experience with each other, and then the other party will gradually be attracted to you over time. At this time, we began to enter the next stage.

3. Implant expectations and imply chasing

At this time, the sense of connection is established. At this time, we need to implant expectations and start to make each other look forward to meeting us. At this time, we can use push-pull skills to hint that the other party is chasing us, continue to describe each other's love, and continue to implant each other. It's great to be with us.

then pull into reality. This process is a repeated process, which is divided into three stages: refutation period, default period and active recognition period.

when your relationship involves active recognition, our relationship will develop at this time, and even lead the other party to pursue it again and let nature take its course.

in the long process of staying together, each of us is trying to make love come to the end in our own way.

I have tried, paid, compromised and tolerated. Don't forget the original intention, I hope words can help you get lost.

The article is selected from my WeChat official account, Fu Yi's Emotional Theory.

I'm Fu Yi. Love is too complicated. I'll help you sort it out.