Two stubborn people are destined to miss it

001 ///

Since August last year, Gu Man has been on blind dates almost every day. A quick calculation showed that all the boys she had gone on a blind date with could be lined up from the east of the city to the west of the city. But after so many interviews, none of them were successful. This made Gu Man's mother so anxious that whenever she came home every day, she would grab her and brainwash her.

This brainwashing is nothing more than criticizing, educating, and complaining, and then complaining, criticizing, and educating again.

Gu Man said that as soon as she stepped into the house, her mother started talking about her and liked to follow her around. This going in and out, back and forth, over and over again, was simply more powerful than Tang Xuanzang's curse, and it made her panic all day long.

As for why Gu Man has not found the right one after so many kisses, it is actually her own problem.

She admitted that she had met a few people whom she had a good impression of. Their family background, appearance, conversation, and temperament were all very good, and their parents were also very satisfied. But she always felt that something was wrong, so she started playing guessing games with others and doing Tai Chi with her family members. In short, she fell into trouble one by one.

Naturally, her mother couldn't understand and was very worried. He asked her face to face why she kept pushing and blocking her, saying this is not good, that is not good, or else she should remain silent. Why are you so picky, why are you so impatient?

Gu Man said that he had no feelings for them.

As a result, her mother became angry, saying that she hated the fact that today's young people mentioned the word "feeling". She also said that feelings can be cultivated slowly, and that such an insubstantial thing as feeling is a way to escape. excuse.

Gu Man was left speechless by her mother several times, and then she was forcibly arranged to go on a blind date.

002 ///

One day Gu Man met Mr. A. It is said that his family background is particularly good. He is the son of a real estate developer. He has just returned from studying abroad and has been single for many years.

Gu Man actually refused at first. She felt that returning overseas was just a gimmick, and she was afraid that it would be as empty as an embroidered pillow. But then I thought about it, it's not a solution to push it all the time. Mom can't do the work, and then she will have to nag around him, which is not a problem. Anyway, I have nothing to do, so let’s talk to him.

So Gu Man accidentally added Mr. A’s QQ account, and the two began to chat casually. From entertainment and gossip to astronomy and geography, from poetry to philosophy of life. Unexpectedly, we actually developed a good relationship while chatting, and we just had to watch the stars and the moon together.

Gu Man said that she feels very in tune with Mr. A. It’s like if you say something that is difficult for others to understand, he can always understand it. If you say something that interests you but is relatively unpopular, he can always pick up the topic. . He will never misinterpret your words. He understands everything you say, and you understand what he says. Communication is effortless.

At that time, Gu Man told us that she was in love, and we were all dumbfounded. No one expected that this girl who had never been interested in love before and was extremely repelled by blind dates would fall in love all of a sudden.

During that time, they talked about everything, hated each other so late, and walked on the street with their fingers intertwined. Gu Man changed her past image of a tomboy and transformed into the obedient cat under Mr. A's arm in minutes.

We all thought that Mr. A would be Gu Man’s single terminator, but something happened later that surprised everyone.

003 ///

After dating for a few months, they made an appointment to travel together. Gu Man collected various travel notes and guides on the Internet based on his previous travel habits, and compiled them into a Show the detailed "itinerary" to Mr. A. He glanced at her briefly, then laughed at her and said, "Don't be so penny-pinching. I'll cover all the expenses this time, so you don't have to help me save money."

These words were like a bucket of cold water to her at the time. The water was thoroughly poured out. She found that Mr. A didn’t understand why he had to spend so much effort to research the route, and ignored the ready-made products of the travel agency, insisting on contacting the hotel himself. He thought she was doing it to save money, but that was not the case. He seemed completely incapable of understanding her pleasure in "self-torture."

Later, they decided to go hiking.

Since it had just snowed the day before going up the mountain, the surroundings were covered in snow.

It should be a good time for couples to enjoy the snow scenery, but Mr. A is like a repeater with the "automatic complaint" mode turned on, complaining: "I told you to go to the hot springs today. It would be great. Why?" "Suffer this kind of punishment."

Gu Man's heart skipped a beat, but she didn't say anything because of her face.

The ground that had snowed that day was very slippery. Gu Man was walking in front carrying a heavy backpack. Mr. A followed behind like an aggrieved little daughter-in-law. Gu Man almost fell down on the way. But he didn't step forward to help her.

After climbing up the mountain, they prepared to find a place to live, but the conditions on the mountain were poor. Because the two people had different opinions during the reservation, which delayed too much time, all the standard rooms were booked, and they could only stay in mixed large rooms. This is where the problem comes. Gu Man felt that just for one night, it wasn't a big deal. Living with people you didn't know would help you make more friends. But Mr. A was determined not to do it. He said that this kind of environment was simply a "pig pen". How could anyone live in it?

Gu Man tried to persuade her nicely at first, but Mr. A refused to compromise. Finally, his words, "You have to live on your own, but I can't live there anyway." completely angered her, so the two of them started to fight. There was a quarrel about this.

Two people in a quarrel are often very irrational. He said a lot of things about her, and she was also unreasonable and unforgiving. They all forgot about their previous "similarity" and began to criticize each other.

Later, Mr. A reluctantly stayed in a large mixed room for one night. The next day, he claimed that the company had something to do and took a taxi to leave.

Gu Man smiled bitterly, she understood what his actions meant.

She packed her luggage and went down the mountain alone, calling me while going down the mountain. I picked up the phone and asked her, but she didn't respond. I fed again, but she still didn't respond. Finally, I became anxious and said, "Gu Man, is something wrong with you?"

Gu Man's hoarse voice came from the other end of the phone. She said: "It's over, I'm done with him."

004 ///

After this incident, Gu Man was depressed for a while.

We made an appointment to have dinner together that day. While we were eating, she suddenly poured herself wine. I quickly stepped forward to stop her. I said don't drink, what are you doing fooling around with your drinking capacity? She didn't listen to my advice and just took the bottle from my hand and drank a few big gulps.

She said do you know? Sometimes I really hate myself.

I was frightened by her incomprehensible words and asked her if she was drunk and talking nonsense. She shook her head and took another swig.

"I remember the year I broke up with Youran, it was also the twelfth lunar month of winter." She looked at the empty wine bottle on the table and was stunned. "Do you think two stubborn people are destined to miss it?"

I don't know how to answer. I said, "Gu Man, what's wrong with you?"

She sighed and told me the story of her and Youran.

005 ///

Gu Man was very familiar with the counselor when he was a freshman. He met Youran by chance. It was the first time he saw him at that time. He's a fat boy.

Since both of them worked in the student union, people around them began to make fun of them after getting along for a long time. At that time, Youran's roommate also encouraged him and told him to quickly take down Gu Man. So one day, he called her and confessed his love.

On March 27, 2009, they officially became a couple.

Gu Man said that she actually agreed inexplicably at the time. She had always thought that she was a beauty-controller and was particularly concerned about a man's height and body shape, but she didn't know why You Ran was obviously a fat man, but she didn't care about it at all. Not disgusted either.

They eat together, go to class together, go shopping together, play games together, and even sleep together. Friends around me said that they were like Siamese twins, they were always together wherever they went.

Gu Man calls You Ran a fat guy, and You Ran calls Gu Man a naughty boy.

She is a Sagittarius, free and fun-loving. As a Leo, he is domineering and has a good face. But they have one thing in common: stubbornness.

Once the two of them had a very fierce quarrel. They had a cold war for a week without making a single phone call to each other. A friend advised Gu Man: Let's forget about being cute and coquettish. But Gu Man wouldn't listen. As long as it was something she believed in, no one could talk to her. Even if she knew she was wrong first, she never bowed her head.

006 ///

A few days later at a friend's gathering, Gu Man received a text message from Youran: Let's come out and talk.

Gu Man drank too much at that time and turned off his phone after reading the text message. You Ran made more than a dozen calls but no one answered, so he had to call Gu Man's friend. In the end, it was Gu Man's friend who answered the phone and told him that she was drunk.

Twenty minutes later, Youran appeared in front of Gu Man. He reached out to hug her, and she bared her teeth and claws. He helped her walk out, and she pushed him hard. She pretended to be unconscious, but in fact, she knew everything.

Youran obviously saw through all this. He pulled her to the grove by the river and asked her, "Have you had enough trouble?"

Gu Man did not expect that he would speak first.

"Yes, I just haven't made enough trouble. What's wrong? Why are you still coming to me?"

"Look how drunk you are!" You Ran was angry Don't hit any place. "Look what time it is now? Do you know that it is dangerous for a girl to go crazy outside so late?"

"Am I going crazy outside?" Gu Man said with a half-smile: "I became Isn’t this your fault?”

“I’m doing this for your own good!”

“You don’t have to worry about me!”

“Why? Are you still so stubborn at this time?" Youran suddenly raised his voice. "You know? People around me say that we are not suitable for each other. I don't want to quarrel, but in my memory we quarrel every day. I often wonder why we are like this. I really want to go back to the place where I just met you. At that time, as long as you smiled at me, my whole world would be quiet."

"Not suitable? Yes, they are right, we are not the one you met at the beginning! Gu Man, I'm not gentle, I'm not quiet, I'm unreasonable! Now you see clearly, that's what I am!"

With the help of Jiu Jin, Gu Man looked at You Ran. There was a moment of hysteria. Youran didn't say a word, and the surroundings were eerily quiet.

After a long time, Youran said seven words.

"Let's break up."

He turned and walked away, leaving Gu Man alone in a daze.

There was a "boom" in Gu Man's head. She wanted to rush up to hug him and tell him not to leave, but her feet felt like they were filled with lead and couldn't move. She was anxious and confused, and her vision began to blur. She watched his back getting further and further away, and she said in her heart: Goodbye, goodbye... Youran, we can't break up. But what she said was "Okay! Let's divide!"

The late night wind blew by, chilling her whole body, and she shivered with cold. Suddenly he remembered that every time she said she was cold, he would help her rub her hands while sighing, and then put her hands into his jacket pockets. She still remembered his body temperature, but in an instant, that warmth was gone.

She felt a heartbreaking pain in her chest. She knew that she had completely lost him.

007 ///

After listening to the story, I felt a little heavy. Suddenly it occurred to me that Leo and Sagittarius seem to be a perfect match? So I opened Baidu and searched, hey, it’s true. The first thing that jumps out to me is that the matching score of Leo and Sagittarius is: 100. Love index: five stars. Everlasting Index: Five Stars.

Get out of here! Horoscope matching and everything else are a lie!

"Am I being pretentious?" Gu Man suddenly asked me.

When I was young, who didn’t do it?

She smiled.

"I admit that I am very domineering. Maybe because of this, gradually, everything has changed. I don't know whether it is because I do something for him, or because I do it because he has changed. I I felt less and less safe with him, so my heart became more and more unbalanced, I made more and more demands, and quarreled more and more, and our relationship became weaker and weaker in front of others. We pretend to be in love, but we all know in our hearts that we can't last long."

After a pause, she added: "I feel very much like Huang Xiaoxian in "Love Is Not Blind", and he also looks very much like her. I will not compromise when encountering problems, I will only attack. Our love is like a line in a movie. At the beginning, we really fell in love with each other, and at the end, we really hated each other. The other party. I won’t hide it, I hate him so much that I gnash my teeth.

"

"Then do you still hate him now? "I asked.

"It's been so many years, how can there be any hatred left. It was just the back of Mr. A when he left that day that reminded me of him.

Gu Man looked out the window, rubbed his eyes and continued: "I finally understand that some love is not lost to betrayal, not to distance, not to material things, and not to love." He lost to mistress, but lost to willful. Two stubborn people are destined to miss it. ”

008 ///

After the dinner that day, Gu Man rejected all blind dates.

She wanted to be alone. She said.

I wanted to calm down before starting.

I didn’t say anything, just gave her a thumbs up.

Two months later, Mr. A got married. . He posted his wedding photos on Weibo. In the photos, the bride looked very much like Gu Man. She was holding his hand and leaning on his shoulder, with a sweet smile on her face. Fresh and elegant, it makes the whole world feel quiet.

I flipped through the comments below and saw a bunch of congratulations and blessings. When I turned to the second page, I saw someone asking: Why isn’t the bride? Your previous girlfriend? Mr. A replied to him: "Actually, I quite like her and we get along very well." Probably because our personalities didn’t get along, we didn’t make it to the end. ”

I didn’t tell Gu Man that Mr. A was married, and I didn’t tell her that he actually liked her, because after the breakup, Gu Man blocked all of Mr. A’s contact information and unfollowed her on Weibo. , I think she doesn’t really want to know anything about him.

Some people desperately want to escape when you are with him, and you always feel that someone will be better than him in the future. After separation, you realize that you have lost the person you love most. You start to panic. You know that the lost thing cannot be found, and the same is true for the lost person, so you can only look for his shadow in others. , so everyone you love is like him.

Many years later, you finally understand that the words "our personalities don't get along" that the other party said when breaking up may not be an excuse, but a fact. People treat each other as opponents and fight to the death. In the end, no one wins. The result is that everyone suffers and both sides suffer. If you laugh at your own stupidity, you will miss each other at the wrong time.

You finally want to change yourself, get rid of your stubbornness and willfulness, get rid of your arrogance and stubbornness, and get rid of everything that scares away people.

009 ///

I still remember watching a Hong Kong TVB TV series when I was a kid, and the line that impressed me the most was: You can’t force feelings. Unfortunately, I was still young and didn’t understand the meaning of this sentence until I grew up. I finally understood that in this world. The thing that cannot be forced is love. If you meet the right person at the wrong time or the wrong person at the right time, you will miss it and you will not be happy even if you force it together.

Love should never be searched for deliberately. How can love have so many rules and regulations? It is funny to find a lover according to the listed conditions. When your heart is ready, when your work and life status are all right. Once you stabilize, when you want to find true love from the bottom of your heart, people who have the same passion as you will naturally appear.

Every relationship is growth, and every partner has been. Your teachers. They are like a mirror that allows you to see yourself clearly and make you more clear about what you want.

Let the past go. Every encounter is fate, just as I believe, every fate is destined. Those experiences will eventually become a polishing machine for you, throwing away your sharpness, grinding away your edges, and making you a different person. Be tactful and gentle, so that you can learn to let go and be calm.

One day, you will say goodbye to the willful, stubborn, and ignorant self of the past. One day, you will be willing to let go of your stubbornness and pride. /p>

You still believe in love, but you no longer know how to cherish it as before.

I hope you can meet the person who is truly suitable for you. You can take advantage of it and never miss it again