What should I do if I meet the wicked?

The biggest feature of the wicked is that they always seek benefits from others: they either fire guns or secretly take them.

Benefits, not necessarily money, may be an opportunity, or a "publicity" to prove that you are better than you.

In short, you are a tool in the eyes of the wicked, and the other party uses you to prove his greatness, and through your humility, proves that his life is outstanding.

Of course, the wicked are not really better than you, and even a considerable number of wicked people's lives are actually a mess.

Therefore, it is a simple and effective way to learn to refuse the other party's request.

Then how to refuse? There are many methods, among which we emphasize simplicity and effectiveness again, so we should add two words before refusing:

Smile.

Rejecting with a smile won't scare the other person off. The real villain won't give up until he takes advantage, but the significance of smiling and refusing is to clearly state the premise of not letting the other person succeed, so that people around him know that your mentality is stable.

In the face of contradictions, people are often impatient as soon as they come up. The calmer they are, the more they express themselves with smiles.

The same is true of refusal.

Your smile represents stability, a clear understanding of your choice, and a kind of strength, not to defeat anyone, but to protect yourself.

Second, reasonable disregard.

In addition to refusing, you should learn to ignore it.

This kind of disregard is not that you don't respond to what the other person says or does. Remember, the way to treat the wicked is not to confront each other, but to let them treat you.

The result of confrontation is that both sides will lose, and others will see your jokes (in the cold age, don't expect others to help you because of your kindness, it is best for someone to help you, and don't be disappointed if no one helps you)

Then what is reasonable indifference? The focus is on three places.

First, the other party responds to your request, but you don't agree to unreasonable conditions. Simply put, you don't refuse anything that should be solved reasonably, and you ignore anything that is unreasonable or obviously takes advantage of you.

If the other person is firm and continues to smile, this condition is not to delay serious business, nor to let the other person take advantage.

Second, there is a rhythm where you should participate. This means that you shouldn't do what the wicked arrange. You have to do what you want to do, but you have to say what you want to say, but you have to express your attitude and emphasize your interest, not follow the wishes of those wicked people.

Third, don't ask about places that are not involved. There are some things you don't know, but the wicked will lead you into them. To put it bluntly, it is to drag you into the water and frame you. For these things, what you have to do is nothing to do with you. Don't touch any great benefits. Do your own thing. If you can't see clearly, you'd rather not touch them than try the water easily.

The three key points of reasonable disregard are to always stand at a point that you can choose according to your own wishes and act at the right time instead of being bound or tempted.

The biggest premise of reasonable disregard is that you have the ability to ignore it, but you also have the conditions to ignore it. Sometimes once you are dragged into the water, you can only save yourself, so it is very important to correct your attitude and behavior.

Third, don't be afraid to turn your face.

Don't be afraid to turn your face, it doesn't mean you have to turn your face. Don't always be in a passive position if you are not afraid of turning your face;

It is not good to turn your face, for example, it is easy to be laughed at by people around you, which will make others have bad ideas about you, and so on. But if you are afraid of turning your face, then your mentality will naturally feel inferior.

Don't be afraid to turn your face, but put the contradiction on the table. If the wicked want to occupy your interests, they must see your interests. If they want to use you, you must be used. So you should emphasize these things that can't be used by the wicked and tell everyone that these are your bottom line.

Clear the bottom line, and then emphasize the bottom line, so that even if the wicked really trample on your bottom line, you, including people around you, can clearly realize that it is not that you have a problem, but that the wicked bully others too much, which also provides the most favorable prerequisite for your possible outbreak.