Fatality of speech

As the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June!" " "I used to be young, and I didn't think talking was so lethal.

So sometimes you don't know if it's because you offended people. I thought this was a joke. As the saying goes, the speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional.

Therefore, it was evaluated by the students as: speaking occupies a special position! One of their dialects here, as I understand it, has some harsh and vicious meanings.

At school, I lost my scholarship because of a joke. Although it was started by a willing heart, I think this joke can only be harmless from now on.

It was a class get-together, and the head teacher was there. The head teacher was a 35-year-old unmarried woman. Then a competitor of scholarship suddenly smiled and asked me, "Do you know what bachelor means?"

Because my surname is Wang, and I rank fifth in the dormitory, everyone kindly calls me a bachelor, and sometimes I call myself a bachelor.

So I didn't think deeply and replied, "Doesn't that mean being single or being single?" I am! "

I didn't react until I answered. I looked very pale when I went to see Ban Ren. She thinks I mean something! So my scholarship for that semester fell through.

"It took us a year to learn to speak, but it took us a lifetime to learn to shut up!" Since then, I have learned to be cautious and less talkative. Even if you are joking, you can only laugh at yourself. I'm afraid many people care too much.

After graduation, I lived in a house shared by a classmate and an alumnus because my job was temporarily unavailable.

I was embarrassed to rely on others. I try to help them clean the house every day, thinking about repaying them when my work is stable. Just as I was sitting at the window to help them wash their work clothes, I heard a conversation between alumni and classmates.

"The landlord said to raise the rent! We spent one more time in vain! " Alumni said.

"She can make ten and a half days, how is it possible! I will come out with her share! " This classmate said.

God knows the humiliation and sadness at the moment when I heard the words of my alumni. In order not to embarrass my classmates, the next day I went out to look for a house alone and paid the rent, leaving only fifty dollars on me.

I learned the lethality of speaking for the second time, but later I learned that I didn't want to starve to death, didn't want to disturb others, and desperately wanted to own my own house.

After marriage, a colleague Xiao Zhang, it is said that the couple have been together since the age of 19, and they have been going through ups and downs for almost ten years, but they will quarrel every once in a while.

"Where have you been? I don't know if you are back! " Xiao Zhang and her husband spoke in a reproachful tone.

"You are obviously worried about him. Why can't you speak in a softer way? " I advised her to say, "I am very concerned about one sentence. If you express it this way, where are you going without quarreling? "

Xiao Zhang is very thoughtful.

If speech itself is closely related to emotional intelligence, is it necessary to cultivate it the day after tomorrow? It's not just good words.

Sometimes it's hard to accept an empty compliment, just like shouting beautiful women all over the street. Obviously, some people are not very beautiful and may not be as good as you: your hairstyle is really beautiful today! Do something practical.

Take my father-in-law for example. I have learned half the cooking skills. Maybe one day I can't play well, that would be terrible.

But my father-in-law never severely said that rice was too salty or soft. In this case, he would smile and say, "Today's meal is really delicious. It would be better if I added some salt!" "

The way he talks has always been the key to winning my respect.

I can't help thinking of a friend who once ate in a restaurant and asked the boss if he had any salt. The boss said, "Why? Is the dish too light? " The friend said, "No! It's my mouth! "

It seems to be a simple matter, but some people have the ability to make people angry, while others have the ability to make jokes.

Sometimes speaking is really a double-edged sword, hurting people and hurting themselves. Think of others before you speak, and put yourself in the other person's shoes, which may avoid many contradictions.

Oral English is also a kind of practice, and I am constantly learning. Although I can't talk freely yet, I at least ask myself not to hurt anyone!

The eighth day of punching in: 28-day writing growth camp (8) 1300 words.