Bad review of humor communication

This book has been on the shelf for several years. I was attracted by the title when I bought it, thinking that I could learn some humorous communication methods. I was put on the shelf when I came back. I want to clean up my inventory this year, so I read it carefully. But I can't read the second chapter in the middle, and I think this is a poor book in recent years. Later, when I looked at the Douban score of 4.3, it seemed that most people felt that it was not very good. The simple comments here are purely personal.

1, the author Chen Hao has a strong writing ability, and the book is full of humorous quotes, golden sentences are frequent, which are very philosophical, and with many humorous stories, it is not boring to read, which is very suitable for fragmented reading.

The essence of this book is the first chapter. Excerpts from the most enlightening points:

As an art form, humor can be cultivated.

Humor mainly consists of four links, namely suspense, rendering, inversion and mutation. Sometimes individual links may be implied or omitted, but the four links exist objectively.

③ Humor 12 trick

Clever use of exaggeration and humorous analogy, setting suspense, misinterpreting classics, taking them out of context, playing hard to get, returning absurdity to absurdity, stealing the column, pointing fingers at mulberry, punning, using big words sparingly and contradicting themselves.

Here is a special talk about "returning absurdity to absurdity". The answer does not involve positive intentions, and positive intentions are set off by marginal absurdity, which makes people laugh because they are completely speechless. It is often used in intimate interpersonal relationships as a ridicule.

In family life, especially in husband and wife life, tit-for-tat disputes are the most likely to cause adverse consequences, and humor that turns absurdity into absurdity can often alleviate explosive contradictions.

This is very useful. If you don't answer the question directly, you can leave room for the other party, and you can also avoid the risk of confrontation and avoid the intensification of contradictions.

④ How to master the art of humorous speaking? The first section of the first chapter gives the answer. I want to give special praise to that clever editor. If someone tries to read it, the opening paragraph will surely catch him.

The first step is to strengthen study and improve self-cultivation. Knowledge is enriched, self-cultivation is improved, and the ability to understand and analyze problems, judge things and express ideas will also be improved together. At this time, what you say will be more standard, and you can go straight to the point and let others enter your mind.

The second step is to think diligently and sum up comprehensively. I have formed the habit of thinking hard and summing up experience in many ways. I will think carefully when I speak, so that I won't be extreme and hurt others.

The third and most important step is to learn to edit. Humor must be filtered and edited by the brain before it is exported.

I read more than 50 pages on Tuesday morning, which means that after reading the first chapter, I can't see the second chapter in the middle. Why?

1, the whole book is like a collection of jokes, only classified according to the types of jokes. Such as social, workplace, love and so on. But watching too many jokes tastes like chewing wax. Some jokes are really far-fetched and not humorous at all.

For example, the first chapter "The Art of Humor" is a good example. A single-parent family has one student. His father is very ill and needs someone to take care of him, so he is always late for school. The class teacher criticized him many times for this. On this day, he was late again, and the class teacher who had been fed up finally scolded him severely in front of the whole class. In a rage, he even said, "Go home and call your father to explain the situation."

Instead of defending the injustice, the students smiled and said to the class teacher, "Teacher, I am not Nezha. Without hot wheels, I can't get out. "

The author agrees with the student's practice, saying that the student skillfully gave himself and his teacher a step down and eased the tense atmosphere. After that, he explained the special situation of his family to the class teacher carefully and got the teacher's understanding.

I think, because this classmate was late for many times, the class teacher criticized him many times, and this time the class teacher couldn't bear it and became angry. At this time, the students also used this untimely humor to tease, and the teacher was even more angry and threw a box of chalk!

2. Too much pen and ink describes the function of humor, but seldom writes about how to cultivate and use humor. I only read the first chapter, as above.

Just like a person always shows off how good something is, but doesn't tell you how to get it. You lose interest after a long time. What do I care?

3. The knowledge points after the first chapter are scattered, and there is no clear logical connection, and the author has not summarized them. Each chapter is the main point, and there is no dry goods. Generally, it is supported by an opinion and a humorous story. There is no further, fleeting point, which naturally cannot attract readers' interest.