Such a low-level joke between husband and wife will be more lethal than a quarrel. What kind of joke?

Introduction: Jokes between husband and wife can adjust the atmosphere and enhance each other's feelings, except for vulgar jokes. Stripping off the coat of so-called jokes is even more disrespectful to each other, which often becomes the fuse of quarreling between husband and wife.

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Couples or lovers, because they are extremely close, become familiar as part of themselves after a long time. No matter what they do or say, they are almost undisguised in front of each other, and they are happy when they are angry.

We strive for perfection when others are impolite.

No matter how good a partner is, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions and quarrels, but it is also often said that the bedside is noisy at the end of the bed.

But more quarrels will always affect the feelings between two people and cause indelible cracks. The more noisy, the more disheartened.

In fact, it is not only hurting people when quarreling, sometimes even a common sentence or even a joke will become the origin of quarreling.

Jokes are to enliven the atmosphere and enhance feelings, or some people like to make jokes on themselves. But some people's jokes are worse than quarreling. It doesn't feel good in my ears.

My cousin has been depressed for several days recently because of her brother-in-law's jokes.

In fact, she can't tell whether this is a joke or something else, but she thinks that what he said is too much, even if it is a joke, she can't accept it.

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That night, two people watched TV together, which was their time. The atmosphere is good, and it is rare to get along like this.

Brother-in-law asked cousin to pour her a cup of tea. Cousin was addicted to the TV plot and didn't get up and said, "Go by yourself. Later, she said that it was not appropriate to drink too much tea. "

My brother-in-law didn't go either, so they were grinding stones in Los Angeles.

Brother-in-law smiled and said, "Women just want to wait on their husbands. You still watch family dramas every day, and you can't learn well. Listen to your husband and give you a tip later. "

Cousin thinks it's treating her like a waiter, let alone leaving. Brother-in-law said: "You also live in the present. In ancient times, you would never get married. "

Most of the housework is usually done by my cousin, and my brother-in-law is a little male chauvinist, which is neither good nor bad for her. After several years of marriage, I seldom give my cousin a gift, even without saying a good word, but I think my cousin should.

I feel a little wronged about my cousin's thoughts on weekdays. He is diligent enough to treat her like a big momma, thinking of chilling.

Even if he is joking, why can't he tell jokes to coax her? He always belittles her. She can't be angry yet, or she will be called stingy again, because he is joking.

My cousin asked, "What would happen if I went back to ancient times?"

Brother-in-law smiled and said, "A talented person like me needs three wives and four concubines."

Cousin also smiled and said, "Why didn't you say" Three palaces and Six hospitals "? Others may be three wives and four concubines, and you, who have no skills, just want to be a grandfather and don't want to be a bachelor. "

Although it's a joke, the more I talk about my cousin, the angrier I get. But my brother-in-law clearly saw her angry and didn't know how to restrain himself, but he still said it there.

The subtext is that if I have the conditions, I have to find a better and younger one. My cousin thinks that if you really get rich, the first thing to do is not to change your wife.

At the end of this joke, there is a smell of gunpowder.

Cousin said, I really want to have a big fight with him, because she always has doubts in her heart that he doesn't love her enough, and his jokes in a few words may not be true.

Finally, my brother-in-law said that she was puzzling and joking. She was so narrow-minded. I really don't understand.

My cousin said to me, "Do you think I am stingy?" Shouldn't I be angry? Why are you always so inconsiderate of other people's feelings? If I joke casually, I can also say that he can't make money. What kind of man is he? Did I mention that? No, because I feel hurt when I think about it, and I can't say it, even if it's a joke. "

I said, "You're not stingy, you care. And he is bottomless and doesn't care. If you don't stop it, he will go too far next time. "

As a wife, she devoted herself to this family and this man, but what she got was neither appreciation nor love. She can only look for traces of love from his words and deeds, and she will probably feel sorry for his unintentional or intentional jokes.

Even between husband and wife, jokes are not made casually, but on the premise of mutual respect.

Otherwise, a joke may be more lethal than a quarrel.

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In fact, whether it's a joke or a quarrel, it's just a symptom. Whether two people's feelings are good or not can only be reflected in every detail if they understand each other's hearts.

If two people love each other very much, although there will inevitably be friction in daily life, they will all pass quickly, just an episode in a happy life, and they will not be suspicious and leave a shadow in their hearts.

Friend Xiaohong and her husband often joke, and she is often "hurt", but they are as sweet as ever. Why?

Xiaohong is petite and exquisite. After she got married, her weight soared, and she liked pink and princess dresses in the third grade.

In this regard, her husband is also unambiguous, and joked that my little red is really beautiful. From a distance, she looks like 18 years old, but from a close look, she looks like an old girl, like ... often before he finishes speaking, she is punched out of the water by a powder punch, screaming for mercy.

But he really has no long memory. In the face of Xiaohong's braised meatballs, he was full of praise and said it was the best in the world.

Xiaohong is beautiful, but her words suddenly changed. "This meatball, I have become its old acquaintance. Because of Xiaohong, you are more and more like a meatball. It looks delicious. "

Well, isn't this a turn to say that Xiaohong is fat, so that Xiaohong is afraid of his jokes and knows that he has no good words.

But despite this, the relationship between the two has always been very good.

Although her husband teased Xiaohong, he didn't dislike her at all. On Xiaohong's birthday, she was still given pink roses and a cheongsam embroidered with small pink flowers on the gray background to satisfy her girlish dream as much as possible.

Xiaohong tried on that cheongsam, but it was young but had a mature taste. She has to admire her husband's aesthetics, which is more satisfying than her own choice.

Although my husband always says little red fat, he still says it's his own credit. What should I do at this rate? But never forced her to lose weight.

Xiaohong also knows that she still wants to leave the most beautiful side to her husband, so she starts running for an hour every morning. Husband also accompanied her to get up, insisted on exercising, and ran around the community several times a day.

Xiaohong told him not to follow, but he smiled and said, "I don't want meat buns to hit dogs." In fact, he is afraid that Xiaohong can't persist alone, and they don't feel bored or hard.

Xiaohong's husband loves to joke, and sometimes he makes Xiaohong laugh and cry. But from daily life, Xiaohong feels more about his deep love.

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Jokes, sometimes satire. Saying you are ugly may mean admiring you, saying you hate you, or maybe you like you.

Jokes can also reflect a person's true thoughts. When a person, even your husband, can wash away your shortcomings casually, whether you can accept it or not, or even disapprove of your anger, then his words are really no joke.

Chen Sicheng once admitted in the program that the cigarette in his hand burned Tong Liya. He played it down as if it was just a trivial matter, an episode of life, which could be used as a joke, so to speak.

He doesn't care whether the other person will get hurt, whether in life or emotionally.

Too many jokes, or too low-level, will only hurt each other and make it hard to let go.

Couples with high emotional intelligence, even joking, should be based on mutual respect, not hurting people.

For example, belittle each other in jokes and belittle each other's parents. You think it doesn't matter, just kidding, but what's on your mind? Are you disgusted? Especially some already fragile relationships.

What makes a woman suspicious and angry is by no means a joke blurted out, but her intuition, which is unloved and uncared for.

A glimpse of the whole leopard, even if it is just a joke. It can not only add romance to life, but also become the fuse of quarrel, and even make each other sad and bear grudges.

Speaking is an art, even for two close people.

But what is more touching than words is always sincerity. It's not hard to explain. Sometimes a hug and a kiss can solve all obstacles.