What is more terrible than betrayal is actually this kind of marriage.

What is more terrible than betrayal is actually this kind of marriage.

I. Introduction

1997, 36-year-old Song Dandan ended her marriage with Ying Da 10. Later, facing the camera of the media, she frankly said the reason for the divorce: "I filed for divorce because I had the only extramarital affair in ten years." "I'm so lonely, I need love so much." Marriage, in the final analysis, is immersed in trivial matters such as daily necessities. Ying Da, pampered, slowly took Song Dandan's contribution for granted.

When his wife was overworked, he had sex with Song Dandan's good friend and screenwriter Liang Huan. In the face of Song Dandan's questioning, Ying Da coldly denied it, but did not stop being ambiguous. Song Dandan filed for divorce for the first time, which was strongly opposed by her elders. After that, Ying Da stayed out at night, and the cold violence intensified. After endless suspicions and quarrels, Song Dandan fell in love with a man.

On the third day of extramarital affairs, Ying Da readily agreed to divorce. This seemingly complete marriage is actually nothing but betrayal. At the end of the video, Song Dandan said, "Each of us has walked along our own track for ten years, and each of us has a different life. We don't know each other at all. We haven't met for ten years. " .

Second, the nanny wife.

I wrote in the first half of my life: Because life is hard, I need someone to help me in the same boat. But now more and more marriages are normal, and wives are fighting alone. Fortunately, they are still in love. Tong Zhi and Wen Li in the TV series "Golden Wedding" were originally a pair that everyone envied. No matter how willful Wen Li is and how she can't live, Tong Zhi still holds her in the palm of his hand and is considerate. But gradually, they became strangers to each other.

Tong Zhi, a middle-aged man, became a shopkeeper of cutting with a clear conscience, while Wen Li took care of her four children and her elderly mother-in-law, running all the housework and being as busy as a top all day. Not being understood, not being seen, guarding the cold room all day, and rumors of Tong Zhi's derailment came out. In the face of doubt, Tong Zhi became angry with Wen Li, thinking that she would always complain and accuse. But now, he has never seen his wife's hard work, and he has said thank you.

There is such a line in "Tian Yan": "Many husbands only regard their wives as refrigerators, and feel that as long as they open the door, they can have food at any time. It is obviously inconvenient to break down, but it is never maintained. " But one person's efforts can't support two people's marriage. When a wife gives everything to her family, she can't get back a word of care and consideration.

The more sacrifices a wife makes, the more she takes for granted and forgets her responsibilities as a husband and father. Finally, feelings can only be killed alive by an enemy named "fate".

Third, widowed children.

Read a joke. The teacher asked the child, what is "a father loves a mountain"? The child replied: "Dad loves mountains, that is, no matter how busy his mother is, his father is motionless on the sofa, as steady as Mount Tai." Although it is a joke, it tells the helplessness of many wives. I once read a young mother's self-report: when the child was born, she was worried that her husband's poor rest would affect her work, and she shouldered the responsibility of taking care of the child alone.

One day, the child cried her eyes out because of illness, and she took care of it from late at night until early morning. The husband was exhausted and never came out to have a look. Her husband got up in the morning and asked, "Did you hear the child cry all night yesterday?" "hmm." "Don't you have anything to say to me when you hear that I am so tired?" "What, are you trying to kidnap me morally?" In order to understand each other, she would rather take all the responsibility and pressure on herself.

But I didn't expect that my own efforts made the other party break away from the role of father and husband and feel at ease as an outsider. I thought I was sensible, but where can I say it's her fault? Romain rolland once said, "In marriage, everyone must give and take back something. This is the law of supply and demand. " No one can always keep the passion that is not cherished, lose the feelings of understanding and sharing, and will only fall apart in the end.

Fourth, there is no indifference that can't be cured, only a heart that doesn't want to be cured.

In the Law of Happy Marriage, Wenger Julie said: "Even the happiest marriage in the world will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangulation." There has never been a natural partner in this world. Who doesn't want to enter marriage because of the word "love"?

Only at that time, the passion was erased, and two people who once loved each other didn't want to fall in love and share. Finally, let the contradictions pile up into mountains, make the heart cold into an ice room, and look at each other in disgust. A short film called "Silence" cried countless people before: in the fifteen-minute video, the husband and wife only exchanged nine sentences. She was overwhelmed by housework, and he was tired from work.

They stopped talking well and forgot how to love each other. After the conflict broke out, they typed hurtful words again and again, but sighed again and again and pressed the delete button. In fact, nobody is wrong. It's just that the triviality of life makes people breathless, but no one shares their pressure and has no time to understand each other's difficulties. Fortunately, they are still in love.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) conclusion

That's what couples do. One second, they are still angry, and the next, maybe all the resentment will disappear instantly because of a concern. After breaking through tears, who will bow their heads first and bravely take a step of shaking hands? You see, there has never been an incurable contradiction and indifference in this world, only a heart that doesn't want to be cured. Love each other and form a family. Holding hands with each other can warm a home. If you think love is gone, you might as well stand up bravely and leave early.

Some hearts are not hot, and loveless marriages only have endless torture, which is enough to make people wish they were dead. Get out of the absurd marriage one day earlier, and you can rush to a better future. If you still love each other and are willing to make changes, you might as well sit down and talk sometime. Don't be stingy with sharing, don't be afraid to communicate, life can depend on each other, and there is hope in the future. What is marriage? Maybe I had the idea of 100 divorce, but I chose you for the first time10/0.