A mother with low emotional intelligence just keeps reasoning with her children. What are the consequences of this?

In many people's impression, the mother seems to be nagging, perhaps considerate words, perhaps reluctant persuasion, perhaps past experiences, no matter which way, which are full of selfless love for the mother, but sometimes the power is too great, and constantly reasoning with the child may hurt the child invisibly, so the mother must pay attention. Children also need to face unreasonable reasoning, blaming, shouting, beating and scolding children. If their mothers always tell the truth when their children make mistakes and criticize them without telling them what is right, they will feel inferior and useless and constantly deny themselves. If the mother educates her child in the same tone and in the same way every time, it will make the child have a stress reaction. At the same time, her personality will be more extreme, impulsive and irritable, or she always likes to look at other people's faces.

Some parents think that this is too indirect, and children can't feel it. They think the most direct way to educate children is to tell them that it is wrong to do so. Parents say that no matter how old they are, it is best for their children to experience and try. The child didn't know this road was impassable until he tried. Most parents dare not make such an attempt for fear that their children will hurt themselves in the process. So they often preach to children and even prevent them from doing so. But have you ever thought that the more you tell your child not to do anything, the more he wants to try, which makes him more rebellious.

What children see is actually different from what adults see. When parents reason with their children, they will look at the problem from the perspective of adults. The child is too incomprehensible. Only when parents hold their children's hands and let them know the truth can children understand the truth from their own perspective. At this time, they will understand what their parents say better. In children's eyes, parents are the guides of children's behavior imitation, and their words and deeds can set an example for children. When a child makes a mistake, the way parents handle it has a great influence on the formation of the child's attitude and character. Parents should not try to make their children understand the profound connotation by reasoning. It is better to let the children stay inside, which feels more realistic. Parents can make their children realize their mistakes and risks through scenario simulation, and then gradually correct their behavior.

When children learn to draw with colored pencils for the first time, everything seems to be full of freshness and stimulate their creativity. Therefore, their snow-white walls and smooth floors may also become their testing ground. Elder Guang said, Why not draw? You can draw pictures. We should try to clean it up. Only after experiencing the corresponding pain can children know the improper practices.