There is a saying in the countryside that "people who are poor talk little, and people who have no money don't care".

Seeing the rural saying that "people are poor and talk little, and they have no money to take care of three things" reminds people of a wider folk saying: "People are poor and don't talk, and people are mean and don't advise others", which has a similar meaning. It's just that the previous proverb is more specific.

In the old society, in the countryside, people lived in groups or groups. Whether people with the same surname live together or people with different surnames live together, people in a village have close contacts. Sometimes, when people have a rest after work, they will get together and chat. Sometimes, there are some public affairs in the village, and people in the village should be called together to discuss them. Sometimes, there are some small contradictions and disputes between neighbors that need to be solved by someone; Sometimes, there are contradictions and disputes between families and people need to persuade them. And so on.

The countryside is a small society, and the economic base determines the superstructure. In the social structure of the village, there is also a relative "superstructure", which is the village. With different family economic strength, family members' right to speak in the village will be different, and their influence on public affairs in the village will be different.

In the old society, rich children spoke very heavily in the village, so people should weigh what they said on any occasion. On the contrary, the family is very poor, and the weight of speech is very light, sometimes negligible, which means that no one takes such people's words seriously, and they may even be insulted and laughed at, which is often self-defeating. Therefore, in rural areas, "people are poor and don't talk" or "people are poor and talk less" to avoid being laughed at by others.

In ancient Chinese, the word "three" in "people are poor and talk little, have no money, and manage three things little" is mostly an approximate number, meaning "many" In this proverb, many people separate "word" from "thing". In fact, "say less three sentences" and "care less about three things" are both from the mouth and the same thing. It is necessary to control what you say, although you have to talk. In fact, most rural people understand it this way.

In the old countryside, people thought that a poor man should talk as little as possible and take care of things on various occasions to avoid being humiliated and boring. As the saying goes, "illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth." Because people are poor, they are afraid that no one will listen to good words, but some words of right and wrong have been infinitely expanded, causing unnecessary troubles and becoming scapegoats for some people. Therefore, in the old society, rural people thought that it was a way of doing things to talk as little as possible or not to talk when people were poor.

If you insist on piecing together "three words" and "three things", stop gossiping in the following occasions and mind your own business.

1, where we chat in the village, talk less jokes and mind your own business. When people are poor, what they say on formal occasions may not be taken seriously by villagers. As they talked, a breeze blew without leaving a trace, and they couldn't afford to lift big waves in the pool, and they didn't spit out the confidence that it was a nail. But when chatting, there will be a situation that "the speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional".

It's also a joke on one person, maybe rich people are joking. This man thinks rich people look up to him, so he plays a joke on him. So he doesn't care at all, and treats the words of rich people as jokes. However, if you make fun of this person when he is poor, this person will think it is not a joke, but a mockery. He thinks you are too poor to laugh at me. In other words, he thinks you are poor and is scolding him in another way. If this person wants to be serious, he should either bow his head and admit his mistake, or carry it through to the end, and then either quarrel or fight.

Usually, in the process of interpersonal communication, because chatting is a joke, disputes and even serious consequences often occur.

2, people are poor and do not enter the public, and words are light and do not persuade people. This is an old saying that tells the true meaning of being a man at ordinary times. You should fully understand your own situation and then make actions that suit you.

In the past, the countryside was a small-scale peasant economy era, and most of them worked in the village, with many people. Many people have many contradictions and frequent disputes. There are village neighbor disputes, village neighbor disputes, family disputes, economic disputes and so on. If there is a dispute, someone needs to mediate.

In the past, in rural areas, except for some major civil disputes, most minor disputes, such as family disputes and neighborhood disputes, were generally mediated by some "respected" people in the village, that is, people in charge. When people are poor, they are certainly not "respected". If you try to convince them, not only will no one listen, but they will also be laughed at. Maybe they will put themselves in the whirlpool of right and wrong and ask for trouble.

3. Talk less at the party.

In the countryside, people always attend every wedding, funeral and celebration, no matter in the past or now. This is an inherent custom in rural areas. This kind of worldly wisdom, in most cases, has little to do with the rich and the poor, and is a normal communication in the village.

Seats at banquets can often reflect a person's social and economic status in the village, and also show that people are warm and cold, and the world is cold. There is an old saying: "If you don't believe it, you will have it. If you watch a banquet, you should persuade the rich first." Because my family is poor, in order to prevent my self-confidence from being hit or humiliated by others, I want to find my place, talk less, be less in charge and leave after dinner.

In a word, different people have different understandings of this proverb. In the old society, it was generally understood that if people were poor, they would talk less and manage less to avoid being humiliated by others in front of everyone. Now some young people understand that there is nothing wrong with inspiring when they are poor. The connotation of proverbs should develop with the development of the times and make them more positive.

People are not poor. 1. Don't say discouraged words, summon up courage, find out the causes of poverty, cure headaches and pains, and catch up, and you will have a rich day; 2. Don't talk big. What you can do is to change the current poverty, tailor your clothes to prevent others from gossiping and hinder the road to wealth. Don't talk about private poverty, there will be many people who laugh at poverty rather than prostitution, lest they become more rampant.

Just because of poverty, lack of money and lack of confidence, 1. Don't worry about other people's business, the rabbit has to go to court to break the money, which makes it worse; Regardless of other people's feelings, you can't adjust your own feelings for others. If you talk too much, you will lose, and creating contradictions is a matter of breaking money; 3. No matter what is outside the responsibility, what is within the responsibility must be done well, and what is outside the responsibility can't be managed, so as not to get into trouble. This proverb tells us the rules of being a man, and we should manage our lives calmly.

What are the "three words" and "three things" in the rural proverb "People are poor and talk little, and there is no money to manage three things"? What are these three things?

"Three words" means: First, don't say anything discouraging. Second, don't talk big. Third, don't say poor.

As the saying goes, "people can't be poor." As long as the poor have ambition, choose a good development path, work hard, work hard and do things in a down-to-earth manner, they will certainly change the face of poverty and backwardness.

However, if you are always complaining and sighing about your discouragement, not only will others despise you, but you will also lose your ambition in discouragement.

Therefore, "people are poor and don't say that they are discouraged."

People often say: "Rich in money", on the other hand, it means "poor in gas". Money can support people's waists, raise their heads, increase their popularity and strengthen their voices. Because the poor have no financial backing, they naturally appear grovelling and grovelling. Talking empty words and big words makes you feel that this person is hypocritical, boastful and boring. Others don't want to get along with him. Help him.

Therefore, the poor should be modest and sincere in speaking and doing things, and never brag.

The rich and poor at home will know for a long time, and others will know if you don't tell them. You should help your friends and relatives. If you don't lend a helping hand, you will cry again and others won't help you. If the poor want to be angry and change the status quo of poverty, crying about poverty will only make people discouraged and difficult to sympathize with.

Therefore, the poor should not talk about poverty.

"Three things": First, mind your feelings. Second, we don't pay much attention to security. Third, less attention is paid to decision-making matters.

"Honest officials can't break housework", the emotional things in the family are the most complicated, and it is difficult for outsiders to know and solve them. Even those who are educated, powerful, rich and weighty find it difficult to sort out and solve other people's emotional affairs, not to mention those poor people who talk lightly and are despised.

Therefore, the poor should be less involved in emotional affairs.

Guarantees are generally borne by powerful, influential, rich and powerful people. They either use power, or use power, or use money, property, etc. Guarantee for others. What do the poor take as security? Even if credit is used as a guarantee, once the guarantee is gone, it is poor and difficult to turn over. In addition, you will be entangled in lawsuits and jailed.

Therefore, the poor do not guarantee things.

Some decisions in rural areas are made by powerful, wealthy and prestigious people in the village. It is difficult for the poor to have a say. Even if you speak, how heavy can your words be? How many people can listen? What a poor man!

In fact, the poor can hardly participate in decision-making.

Of course, the above are all poor people in the old society. Today is a civilized and progressive new society, which advocates equality for all, and some relatively "poor people" can participate in any affairs. But to improve the weight of words and deeds, we must improve our economic status, knowledge level and moral cultivation.

Money can't replace truth.