Why do children like to snitch?

It is common for children to snitch in life. The common reasons may be being bullied, feeling that they have been treated unfairly, not liking other people's behavior or just wanting to see other people's jokes, lest the world be chaotic. What is the reason behind this for children who often report? What should I do? Let's have a look. Children like to snitch. Why do children like to snitch? What if children love to report?

The reasons for children's complaints are roughly as follows:

1, I hope teachers will affirm and praise their own judgments.

I hope that because of their report, the teacher will pay attention to and praise them, and then gloat that the reported students have been criticized by the teacher and feel that they are very capable.

2, _ Find a way to deal with this problem

Children will be at a loss when they encounter some achievements that they can't handle. They should use "complaining" to ask adults to help them deal with the problem.

3, want to escape responsibility

Some children are afraid of being criticized and scolded by adults for doing something wrong, so they use "complaining" to gain the initiative or divert their purpose, so as to avoid responsibility and criticism and punishment. Such children are often very smart and like to play with a little "mind's eye".

4. Raise yourself by complaining.

Children will be jealous when they see that others are better than themselves in some ways. If they find that others have made a little mistake, they will try to belittle others and raise themselves by complaining.

What should parents do?

1, listen carefully and give feedback.

Under normal circumstances, when children complain, parents and teachers can't be perfunctory at will. Parents should listen patiently and respect and understand their children from their perspective.

2. Guide children and find out the facts.

After listening to the child's story, the next step is to find out the facts and help the child find a way to deal with it. Parents can comfort their children appropriately, but don't completely believe their children's words without standards, let alone argue with other children's parents. Instead, they should encourage their children to tell what happened.

3. Teach children to deal with contradictions.

Seeing this topic, Bian Xiao couldn't help thinking of many things he did at school. He quarreled with his deskmate, "complained" to the teacher, forgot to do his homework and wrote down his name mercilessly. All these "stupid things" that destroy interpersonal relationships have been done, which is really a bit shameful by comparison. But then again, even if the performance is so "poor", by the time of graduation, everyone has no grudges, and at most they just regard these things as fun at the party.

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First, grasp the reasons for children's informers and understand the essence of informers.

In the face of children's small reports, teachers and parents must first find out the reasons for children's reports, so as to prescribe the right medicine. The phenomenon of children's "complaining" can be said to be endless. Some children are "bullied" and come to the teacher for protection, which is the embodiment of the teacher's trust; Some children complain to the teacher when they see what he thinks is "unfair", which is the performance of children's "being brave"; The other children just want to get the teacher's attention.

In normal times, children will hear the teacher say, "you can't run in the classroom;" Don't fight; No swearing, etc. Children will tell the teacher immediately when they find bad phenomena. In this case, I will give them appropriate guidance. For example, in the area, children play with handicrafts, and some children come to tell me when they see other children throwing waste paper on the ground. I didn't ask them to pick it up right away, but said to the children who reported it: Did they do the right thing? Also told him that you should let them pick up the paper and let them know that littering is wrong. As a teacher, we should treat these small reports correctly and guide children to learn to use their brains to solve problems when they encounter problems.

Second, be good at handling all kinds of petty reports.

1, which plays an exemplary role.

When children are active, there will always be various problems. There are even children who violate the rules of the game or do not follow the teacher's requirements. At this time, don't blindly blame the children who are at fault, but look for excellent and serious children. When commenting, give appropriate praise, so that the negligent child can find that his practice is wrong and has not been recognized by the teacher. Set an example in front of them and let them have a reference to imitate. Especially when playing with toys, there will always be a phenomenon of grabbing toys. Don't criticize them at once, but tell them a modest story and let them make their own decisions. Such an example method can not only give them a reference for imitation, but also draw closer the friendly relationship between children. It can also cultivate children's good qualities such as mutual humility and independent thinking, reduce friction between children, and reduce children's gossiping behavior.

2. Guide children to learn to solve problems by themselves.

As parents or teachers, we should first guide our children to learn to solve problems by themselves. After listening to the children's report, we should analyze it with the children and let them learn their own solutions. They can discuss it collectively or communicate separately. For example, a child accidentally touched it, which was caused by accident. Don't take it to heart. You can handle it yourself. You don't have to snitch. It is found that some children are not serious in class and speak seriously, so they should report to the teacher without affecting the normal teaching order. These are all things that you can learn to solve by yourself. Teachers should take children's small reports seriously as educational opportunities. Slowly let the children solve it themselves, and there will be fewer and fewer small reports, and only the good news of the children will be heard.

It is normal for children to report the situation to teachers and parents, which is the sense of responsibility that children need in their growth. It depends on how to look at this matter and how to deal with it. Be good at grasping a certain feature and giving appropriate help to children.