Who says you can't have a life after giving birth?

From the age of 28 to 32, having children for four years makes people feel that their previous lives were in vain.

Pretend to be delicate when you are pregnant and feel the greatness of life.

After the pain of childbirth, looking at the baby, I don't need praise from others. I have been moved to tears by my own strength.

It only took 1 day to give birth. How many days does it take to raise a child?

Self-abandonment when immersed in children's shit-730 days

Xiong Haizi experienced separation anxiety, illness and fever as soon as he entered kindergarten. He cried at the top of his lungs in kindergarten, and I flashed outside in tears-180 days.

Xiong Haizi repeatedly caught a cold and eventually turned into pneumonia, running around with hospitals and units-off and on every month 10 days.

I really appreciate my children. His birth made me really understand that a person can be so powerful, and he gave me infinite power to change myself:

From a mathematical scum to learning to invest and manage money; I know everything from not knowing how to put oil in cooking to frying and roasting.

As soon as the child was born, he knew that he was badly hurt from financial quotient, IQ to EQ. It is the first time for a child to come into this world, and it is also the first time for me to be a mother. Along the way, we supported each other, explored and made many seemingly impossible feats ~

0 1 You can be "thin and beautiful" after giving birth.

After giving birth, almost all women have to face the same problem, that is, their bodies are destroyed. I am no exception. Before giving birth to a baby, the weight was only 100, and the smallest size to wear was S. Generally, M wore elegant clothes. Wearing a short skirt in summer can charm your husband (cover your face).

After giving birth to the baby, the peak weight reached 135 kg. At that time, I felt that eating in a sea bowl could hardly support my strong body. My husband gave me the most comments: Look at you squatting ~

Once again, I will laugh it off as a joke; Twice and three times, I said too much, and this sentence pierced my heart ~

I realize what people say. You think your husband will feel bad when you give birth to a child and sacrifice your body. The reality is that your husband thinks that when you have a baby, you will ignore your image and become a yellow-faced woman.

If you can stand being rejected, you can continue your image of a yellow-faced woman under the excuse of "this is the case after giving birth"; If you can't stand it, you have to force yourself to change. On my child's second birthday, I secretly made up my mind: I don't believe it. Do you have to be fat all your life if you have children? Move it.

That's easy to say. I really want to do it, only to know that every piece of meat on my body has its own temper and doesn't listen at all. I started with the simplest yoga moves, such as cow face, cat and cow … from a few minutes every day, slowly to more than ten minutes, and finally to an hour.

Do you think your family will recognize and encourage you to start fitness? When I bend or stretch my strong body hard every day, on the one hand, monkeys and children are going up and down, and on the other hand, my husband is "distressed and relieved": Look at your bent back, others are straight when practicing yoga, so you'd better stop practicing and don't hurt yourself. ...

Well, I told myself 10 thousand times: the husband chose it himself and the child gave birth to it himself. I'm not angry. So many times fitness is not lost to opponents, but to teammates!

In addition, another major factor that makes it difficult for Ma Bao to keep fit is that for a long time, the effect visible to the naked eye is almost zero.

Stick to it for a week, and your own soul will "feel" the change (this is largely your inner desire. The truth is that a week's exercise will make your body have a sports confrontation mechanism. The body will use inertia to ask you to stop);

Stick to it for a month, and your body will "feel" a change (the body will no longer resist and remind you to give up with pain);

Stick to it for a year, and people around you will "feel" that you have really changed (why do you look so energetic? )。

My son's birthday this year is also the second anniversary of my adherence to yoga. At present, my weight is only 100, and my posture is lighter and straighter than before giving birth to a baby. Now my husband sighs from time to time: How do you feel thin again? Come and hug ~

I will have confidence in myself now. When I see other precious mothers who are dissatisfied with their bucket body but don't take action, I won't agree not to come back after giving birth. Whether you can come back or not depends entirely on you.

It is said that 18 years old is beautiful, not you, but 18 years old; 30 years old is beautiful, 30 years old is not beautiful, you are beautiful.

May every precious mother be the most beautiful self in the years.

? Cross-class

Becoming infertile after childbirth is a big problem faced by many treasure mothers.

I gave birth early before the delivery. I used to have a job, but at the beginning of pregnancy, I had to resign to raise a baby because of the signs of threatened abortion, and became a proletarian.

After giving birth to the baby, she became a full-time mother for three years and became a senior proletarian.

At this time, it is seriously out of touch with society and the possibility of returning to work is almost zero.

But when a person has no income, that kind of panic goes deep into the bone marrow and makes people sleepless all night.

Panic has a purpose, that is, to make salted fish, and I want to make the saltiest one!

Pick up the book and charge it.

After washing children and going to bed every night, switch from housewife mode to elite learning mode. Yawn, have a cup of brown sugar water to resist (drink red bull? I want to sleep next to the baby as soon as I finish learning.

The English test is too difficult, I can't understand the answer, so I copied it word by word, and then Baidu translated it.

Learn to learn, suddenly hear the baby wake up, automatically switch back to wet nurse mode. ...

Two months later, I passed the written interview and got the qualification certificate of English teacher in senior high school at one time.

This is the first time in my life, because I know that as a full-time mother, the time I can spend studying can only race against time, and the cruel reality will not give you a second chance.

Next, test the water to find a job.

Two months before my child's third birthday, I began to work part-time on weekends to adapt my child and husband to the life when my mother is not at home.

On the other hand, the night I submitted my resume, my husband was as worried as an "old mother": "You have been out of touch with society for so long, will any unit be willing to use you?" "

I suppressed my anger of being discriminated against and made a bet with him: I will get an interview call tomorrow!

In fact, I don't have any ideas myself. I will inevitably underestimate myself if I don't take the first step.

God bless, I received an interview call early the next morning, and I passed the interview once.

After leaving the podium for four years, I finally picked up the pointer again.

(4 years, I reread the time of a university and got my job back. )

The next step is to return to professional work.

After giving birth to a child and still working, there is really no affectation, only gratitude.

You can go out in glamorous clothes every day, and when you go home, you are greeted by your children and husband. From then on, housework and childcare are shared by everyone.

Haha, I just want to say that such a good thing must not live up to ~ I can only treat my work seriously, seriously and seriously.

When you take your work seriously, it will seriously reward you.

After the child is three years old, send it to kindergarten immediately, and I can start the full-time work mode.

After full-time, my salary exceeds my husband's, my family status suddenly rises, and my sense of security climbs to an unprecedented height.

I would like to remind you that from wanting to return to the workplace to realizing it, what is most needed is our own firm determination.

Only when we show our family the determination of a strong man to break his arm will our family give us real strong support.

Take my own example: when I was a full-time mother, I was in charge of the family and children.

Later, I persisted in studying day and night, and my determination to prepare for employment touched my husband.

Seeing that I was really working hard, he changed his attitude and began to share the housework and take care of the children. I can laugh even in my dreams when I think about it.

Anyway, family support is the foundation of our successful employment, but this support must be won by our firm position.

? The real hot mom wears many hats.

Before giving birth to a baby, I always feel that it is not easy to do a job I like.

Only when you bring a baby can you find that there is really nothing that a person with a child can't do.

What treasure mother is not an accountant, chef, nutritionist and early education expert?

With so many babies, who can't do other jobs?

Since we have a baby money breaker at home, our husband and wife's salary is simply not enough. If we want to earn more, what we need is the enhancement of our own ability. All simple and rude part-time jobs that don't match your abilities will only make you physically and mentally exhausted ~ (don't ask me how to know)

After I ran around and hit a lot of south walls, I suddenly realized that I must improve my ability and not be eager for profit.

So after my child's fourth birthday, I set a new goal: to start a new challenge on the premise of persisting in exercise and doing my work to the extreme.

I will insist on inputting a lot of English every day, and at the same time output my attitude, my experience, my joys and sorrows with small videos to improve my spoken English.

At the same time, I will record and share my growing experience in Chinese in class.

I believe that as long as I stick to it, it will bring immeasurable improvement to my main and sideline business.

It may not be perfect at first. It doesn't matter. The key to success is persistence. I believe that time will give me the best return.

Most people think that it is good for women to have children and raise children. Why are you going out so hard? Does anyone feel bad?

However, we always want to educate our children to be independent and strong. If we are not independent and strong as mothers, our children may not listen to you, but when they grow up, they will probably say, Look, my mother is a useless middle-aged woman.

So, it's not that we want to be hot moms, but that we have no choice but to be hot moms!

To more "hot moms"

What I want to share with you is that as ordinary people, our starting point may be very low.

But if you stick to it, the growth curve will always improve.

We can't choose the starting point, but we can decide our own destination.

I have always liked this sentence: the best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now.

If you compare yourself to a tree, you may be born in a ravine, and some people are born at the top of the mountain. Everyone has a different starting point, and we can't change it, but we can choose to grow to five meters? Ten meters? Or higher?

What about you in front of your mobile phone? Are you overwhelmed by children and housework and give up your self-growth?

It took me four years to remould myself.

As long as you want to change, it is not too late to start now.

About myself

I have been a baby-sitter for 85 years. I love English, reading and fitness, and I firmly believe that my dream can be realized by action. I struggled on the way to writing. My greatest wish is to be a role model for children.