What should parents do if their children are severely rebellious before the high school entrance examination?

Facing the high school entrance examination, from a psychological perspective, parents are generally more stressed than students, because the high school entrance examination is the first crossroads everyone faces in their lives. It is a diversionary exam that determines Setting the future direction of life is a major event in life; as the saying goes: the opportunity must not be missed, or the time will never come again. There are nearly 15,000 high school entrance examination candidates in the district. It can be said that there are thousands of troops crossing the single-plank bridge. Whoever rushes ahead can cross the river. A slight inadvertent relaxation may mean that all the efforts of the previous nine years have been in vain. In the only time before the high school entrance examination, we must focus on children's review and exam preparation. Children, schools, and parents work together to ensure that students achieve ideal results in the high school entrance examination.

1. The main existing problems are:

1. Serious pride and self-righteousness. I didn't pay enough attention to the basic questions. I thought I knew what the teacher said repeatedly. I despised him mentally. I didn't pay attention to the lectures in class and my homework was sloppy.

2. Lack of self-awareness and a stronger sense of urgency. The time utilization rate is not high, the learning consciousness is poor, and the students are not proactive.

3. Three-minute heat, lack of perseverance, and laziness are serious symptoms in some people.

4. Do not pay attention to the systematic sorting out of the knowledge in each lesson; or do not pay attention to thoroughly understanding the questions that were wrongly done in the exercises and do the work of checking for omissions; or only focus on dealing with the homework assigned by the teacher, without paying attention to the homework assigned by the teacher. If you study in depth, if you encounter a problem that you don’t understand, you will not consult the teacher in time, or you will only be satisfied with half-understanding, and your ability level will not be improved.

5. Too much pressure, blindly studying, not being able to arrange time properly, not being able to take a break, and often being listless in class.

3. As parents, what should we do at this time

The purpose of our sitting together today is to discuss how to help our children gain one more point on the original basis.

Although we say that one point means nothing at all. It cannot explain whether a person is smart or stupid, or has great ability or little ability. But it means whether you can be admitted to the ideal high school, whether a child or even a family can change the destiny. This score indicates your future identity, unemployed, farmer, worker, urban white-collar worker or urban proletariat. A different life. This score determines whether you can attend 10,000 yuan, 20,000 yuan, 30,000 yuan or more; this score determines whether you can attend a prestigious school or a key class, which means you can meet better teachers and receive a better high school education.

But how to get this precious point? To be fair, the role of parents is very limited and cannot help much; but the attitude and emotions of parents often have a great impact on candidates. If we act too anxious, it will only bring rebellious psychology and negative effects to our children. Therefore, although it is a big event for children to take the high school entrance examination, it is best for parents to maintain a calm mind and an optimistic and stable mood. This is more important than anything else. The following suggestions may provide some inspiration to parents of candidates.

(1) First of all, we must understand the child’s psychology. Junior high school students have a heavy learning burden and a heavy psychological burden. A small setback can easily shake their self-confidence, and they are generally emotionally negative.

We say that in modern society, a person's diligence, perseverance, confidence, and good behavior habits are important factors for success. Without sufficient accumulation of daily study, students will not do well in exams. Similarly, without a positive, confident, and stable mentality, students will not be able to perform normally in the exam room. Therefore, before the high school entrance examination, we'd better help our children reduce stress and build self-confidence.

We need to help children overcome test anxiety. If we act more nervous than the candidates, things will go badly. Some parents ask candidates about their review or test status every day, especially the scores and rankings of the mock exams. This is also very inappropriate for junior high school students. Candidates often conflict with their parents: The exam is my own business, don’t ask, it’s annoying!

Parents should make it clear that home is not a school, let alone an examination room. It is best not to talk too much about examinations at home. When children are working hard to prepare for the high school entrance examination, the home should be a comfortable and relaxing haven for them, a stop for rest and relaxation. If a child feels tired from studying, parents should also remind him to appropriately reduce some study time before the exam. Let your children eat well, sleep well, and recharge their batteries. There is no need to pay more special attention to the child. Even if the child is given more nutrition, it is best to "not show off the mountain and not show the water", and the attention to the child should be "moisturizing and silent".

Before and during the high school entrance examination, peace and quiet are particularly needed at home. As long as everything is normal, it is the best support for the children. Perhaps, being more low-key can really help children score more points. When children feel relaxed, their learning results will be better, and when they feel the full warmth of their family, they will have a stronger ambition.

(2) The main things parents can do are:

1. Guide their children to exercise appropriately and maintain good health. At present, many candidates suffer from "test anxiety" to varying degrees. The crux of the problem is that they "only read books by sages" and their life arrangement is too monotonous. There is such a famous formula: "8-1>8", which means taking 1 hour out of 8 hours for exercise, entertainment or rest. Even though you only study for 7 hours, your efficiency is better than studying for 8 hours. In addition, taking a walk, listening to music, and watching the news in the evening can help regulate your mood and relieve stress.

2. Remind candidates to arrange their work and rest time, not to burn the midnight oil, and to adjust their living habits. It is very important for candidates to live and study regularly to form conditioned reflexes so that they can enter the best state during the day. Especially before the exam, you can consciously go to bed a few minutes earlier than the night before every night and gradually adjust.

3. Create a warm and peaceful family environment, dilute the tense atmosphere, and talk and laugh with your children or play sports together. Communicate more psychologically with candidates, pay attention to the child's inner world, and be a good "mental health nurse" for the child.

4. Give children self-confidence and courage, give them trust and encouragement, and be their spiritual support. After reviewing every day, candidates review their gains from the day, such as "Which question did I get right today" and "Which loophole did I find today", and affirm their gains bit by bit, so as to This is to regulate your emotions and welcome the high school entrance examination with a good attitude.

(3) Pay attention to several avoidances:

① Avoid having too high expectations. Many parents have unrealistic expectations for their children and like to talk about things like "at least what score they need to pass" and "which school they must go to". Little do they know that not only does this fail to motivate them, but it actually makes them discouraged. Children become increasingly pessimistic and anxious, causing unnecessary psychological pressure on them. Therefore, for parents, the first priority is to correctly understand their children's situation. You might as well tell your children: "Just try your best!"

② Avoid creating an atmosphere of tension. In order to supervise and support their children, some parents deliberately create a state of "first-level combat readiness" before the exam, such as taking time off to do "full-time logistics" at home, never turning on the TV at night, etc. In fact, doing so will make the child feel depressed, bored, and "suffocated." The wise approach is for parents to do whatever they need to do, and at the same time, try to avoid incidents that have a negative impact on the child's psychology, such as quarrels between husband and wife, conflicts between neighbors, etc., so as to create a warm and relaxed family atmosphere.

③Do not damage your child’s self-confidence. Self-confidence allows candidates to maximize their current abilities. In the pre-exam stage, parents should encourage and affirm their children and not criticize or accuse them at every turn. When a child fails a certain pre-exam test, scolding them will only make the child less confident and even give up on himself. At this time, it is best for parents to communicate more with teachers and children to jointly find out the reasons for the failure and help the child get out of trouble as soon as possible. The shadow of defeat.

④Don’t nag. During the period when their children are reviewing for exams, some parents always like to repeat in front of their children, "You have to work harder!", "You must do well in the exam!", etc. This can easily cause children to have a rebellious mentality and increase their ideological burden. If you have all the time to nag, why not tell your child a joke to relax his nerves.

We don’t have to speak softly, unplug the phone lines, never turn on the TV, and cook a lot of food every day just because our children are taking the high school entrance exam. In fact, we welcome our children home with a smile every day and send them off with a smile. Just go out and be the parent you are.

Dear parents and friends, the time before the high school entrance examination is limited. It is mythical to expect that children’s grades will make an astonishing leap in this short period of time. We need to create a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere for our children. Because the quality of emotions will directly affect candidates' learning efficiency and test scores, "moderate tension" is the best state. In this state, candidates will be confident, calm, focused, sharp in thinking, and answer questions accurately.