My mother-in-law looked down on her rural daughter-in-law, and after she encouraged her son to divorce, she found out that it was her daughter-in-law who had always been the breadwinner. What do you t

My mother-in-law looked down on her rural daughter-in-law, and after she encouraged her son to divorce, she found out that it was her daughter-in-law who had always been the breadwinner. What do you think?

Many people find it difficult to understand why conflicts arise between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. They are both women. The mother-in-law came from the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will eventually become the mother-in-law. The two women should understand each other the most, but the contradiction between them has become a hidden danger in many families.

In fact, it boils down to the generation gap between the two women. One of the major generation gaps is the generation gap in family conditions. This generation gap is mainly reflected in cities and rural areas. It is undeniable that with the improvement of living conditions in cities and rural areas, many rural people have moved to cities for development.

For young people in their twenties, they are full of passion. While working hard, they will also pursue love. As for parents, after decades of baptism, their enthusiasm for life has dropped. They just hope to live a good life peacefully.

So, parents’ biggest expectation when it comes to their children’s marriage is to find a family with better conditions and be able to change their destiny through marriage. No matter how difficult it is, you should find someone who is a good match, at least it won't drag down your life. You know, parents don't want their children to find a job with poor conditions, which will hinder their children's development and their own families.

The mother-in-law looked down upon her rural daughter-in-law, and after she encouraged her son to divorce, she realized that it was the daughter-in-law who had been supporting the family. He Yun is an out-and-out rural girl. After graduating from college, her parents repeatedly persuaded her to return to her hometown town to develop. Although my hometown is not as good as the city, there is still a lot of room for development for outstanding college students.

In contrast, there are many opportunities in cities, but it is also very difficult to gain a foothold in cities. In the view of He Yun's parents, the most important thing for a girl is to have a stable job and be able to support herself.

However, He Yun did not listen to her parents and chose to stay alone in the city. After several years of development, He Yun's work has improved somewhat. It was here that He Yun met Du Biao.

Du Biao's own conditions are not particularly good. He graduated from an ordinary university and is doing a very ordinary job. His monthly salary is only a few thousand yuan, which is barely enough to support himself. When Du Biao pursued He Yun, He Yun refused many times, because in He Yun's view, Du Biao was a person who did not seek to make progress.

However, women are also emotional animals and are easily moved. Despite Du Biao's persistence, He Yun still came together with Du Biao.

Du Biao's parents were extremely happy after learning that their son was in love. They took out their savings over the years to prepare a house and a car for Du Biao, and urged Du Biao to speed up and marry their daughter-in-law back. .

With Du Biao's efforts, the relationship between the two warmed up rapidly, and marriage was put on the agenda. However, when Du Biao's parents met He Yun, they objected. Because He Yun introduced her in a nonchalant manner, saying that she was from a rural area and her family conditions were very difficult. As parents, they certainly did not want their daughter-in-law to drag down their son, so they objected.

He Yun didn't know that Du Biao's parents would have such an attitude. She originally planned to give up on this relationship, but Du Biao always insisted. Seeing Du Biao trying to persuade his parents, He Yun softened her heart. . She thought to herself: Love is a matter between two people, and Du Biao is working so hard for it, so what reason does she have to give up?

In the end, Du Biao's parents could not compete with Du Biao and reluctantly agreed to their marriage. But seeing the face of her future mother-in-law, He Yun knew that even if she got married, she would be destined to face many challenges in the future. However, He Yun believed that Du Biao would face it with her.

After getting married, He Yun did not live with her father-in-law and mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law stayed with He Yun three days a week. He Yun knew her mother-in-law's purpose. She just wanted to see if there was anything missing at home, or if He Yun had brought her parents over from the countryside.

In short, the mother-in-law is afraid that He Yun will take things from her home in the countryside, and that He Yun will use her husband's family's money to subsidize her parents' family. In addition, her mother-in-law always acted condescendingly in front of He Yun, as if she was telling He Yun: You have taken advantage of our family.

He Yun was too lazy to pay attention to her mother-in-law's performance at first, because her biggest wish now is to run her family well. But slowly, He Yun discovered that running a family was not easy. Du Biao still did not strive for progress, and the pressure of life was all on He Yun's shoulders.

Especially after having children, Du Biao still ignored his family. His monthly salary was several thousand yuan, but he could not take any money back home. After He Yun finished her confinement, she had to go out to work. The couple who originally loved each other began to quarrel over family conflicts. At this time, instead of helping with the mediation, her mother-in-law encouraged Du Biao and He Yun to divorce.

When you meet such a mother-in-law, it’s okay if there are no conflicts between husband and wife. If conflicts occur and the mother-in-law interferes, the marriage is destined to not go far.

Sure enough, at the instigation of her mother-in-law, Du Biao filed for divorce from He Yun. He Yun never thought that her husband, who once loved her so much, would take the initiative to divorce herself. After thinking about it, I can only blame myself for being too naive and thinking of love too solidly.

After the divorce, the child was awarded to Du Biao. Not long after, Du Biao fell into trouble. The monthly salary of several thousand yuan is not enough to pay for the nanny and milk powder, so I can only call my parents every two days to ask for money.

Gradually, the old couple could no longer afford it. All their family savings were given to Du Biao to buy a house and a car, leaving only a little pension, which could not withstand such a hassle.

There is no other way, the mother-in-law can only quit the nanny and take care of the grandson herself. What I didn't expect was that even so, the family still couldn't make ends meet. At this time, the mother-in-law realized that it was not her son who supported the family all along, but the daughter-in-law whom she despised.

But it was too late. When her mother-in-law found He Yun again, He Yun already had her own company and a man pursuing her. The mother-in-law regretted it very much. She hoped that He Yun would remarry Du Biao for the sake of the children. However, He Yun directly responded: You looked down on me at the beginning and did not allow me to take away the children when we divorced. Now you are begging me. , too late!

Emotional message:

Through daily life, we can easily find that even now, what our parents pursue is a well-matched marriage. They don't expect their son to marry a rich man, nor do they expect their daughter to marry a rich man, but they do require that the other person's family background should not be too poor.

In fact, such thoughts and requirements are easy to understand. On the one hand, it is for fear of trouble, and on the other hand, it is for the sake of face. However, only the children themselves know whether a marriage is happy or not. As parents, it is best not to interfere too much in the marriage of their children.

It is undeniable that the combination of rural families and urban families will inevitably create a generation gap. However, since we have become a family, we should support those who can be supported within our capabilities. After all, only when the family is harmonious can everything be prosperous, and when a family helps each other, things will be better and better.

Here, Ximei wants to remind some families: When two families come together, no matter what the family conditions of the other party are, they should learn to respect each other instead of raising their own worth. You know, a blind sense of superiority will only make others laugh.

Since a husband and wife are together, they must be determined to be together. A marriage that can be destroyed by a little disturbance, why bother to be together in the first place? So, as the old saying goes, marriage is not easy, but you have to do it and cherish it, treat the people around you well, and only by not forgetting your original intention can you gain happiness.