My sister-in-law got married, and her mother-in-law used her pension money as a dowry. Her husband said that it was natural for her son to provide for her in old age. What do you think?

Before marrying my husband, I knew that he had a sister.

But I didn’t take it seriously. After all, here, our daughter will definitely get married in the future. It is rare for a woman to not want a bride price, and it is almost impossible to subsidize her daughter.

But my family seems a little different.

The first time I went to my husband’s house was on the eve of the Spring Festival. We had been in a relationship for about two years, and we both felt it was time to meet our parents, so I went to buy some gifts. .

And in order to make my husband’s family have a good impression of me, I also brought some cosmetics to my sister-in-law.

Who knew, the first time we met, I was very unhappy. If I hadn’t been such a good-tempered person, I would have fallen out with his family on the spot.

The thing is like this, my sister-in-law had just graduated from college at the time. Because she couldn't find a job for a while, she stayed at home.

On the day I came to the door, she happened to be playing games in the room, and the sound was quite loud.

When her husband asked her to come out to meet him, she was very impatient and even lost her temper because he thought he was interrupting her game play.

I was very embarrassed at the time, after all, this was not a scene I wanted to see.

The husband seemed helpless and turned to look at his parents.

My father-in-law sat aside as if he hadn't seen her, while my mother-in-law came out to smooth things over, saying that my sister-in-law was in a bad mood recently, and she hoped I wouldn't mind.

Nonsense, of course I mind, this is obviously rude to me, but I still tolerate it.

When I took out the gift, my sister-in-law glanced at the cosmetics.

Immediately said in a disgusting tone, this kind of cosmetics is too low-grade, I will be allergic to it, you should take it away.

God knows how angry I was at that time. On the one hand, my husband gave me a wink, and on the other hand, he also taught his sister not to mess around. In the end, her sister-in-law didn’t eat anything, so she just took her bag and left the house.

To be honest, if my husband and I didn't really like each other, this marriage would not have been successful.

When we got married, my parents originally wanted a gift of 100,000 yuan, but I advised them to order less. After all, I had just bought a house at that time, and it was very difficult to repay the loan every month. There were too many betrothal gifts. In the end, I was the one who suffered.

My parents listened to my advice and only asked for 36,000 yuan, and finally gave me a dowry of more than 20,000 yuan.

But just because of this, I was ridiculed several times by my sister-in-law Mingchao.

I don’t want to be acquainted with her. After all, I will move out after the house is renovated, and there will not be many opportunities to visit her in the future.

Life continues day by day, plain and warm.

My sister-in-law also found her husband's family through a blind date three years later. The other party's family was very poor. Not to mention the house, they couldn't even afford a bride price of 20,000 yuan.

But my mother-in-law hid it from us and gave all the pensions of the two elders and the pension money we usually gave to my sister-in-law as a dowry.

I was not happy at the time, what did it mean.

I don’t ask for any preferential treatment, but the difference in treatment is too obvious.

My husband and I bought a house with our own money. They didn’t pay a penny. Then we bought cars and had children with our own money. We even gave them money every month for their retirement.

We don’t expect him to be very nice to us, but we should at least treat him fairly.

I expressed my dissatisfaction to my husband. I originally thought that he would feel the same as me, but he looked disapproving.

He said that it is natural for his son to provide for him in his old age, and there is nothing to say.

This is really a joke. Although I am a woman, I also know that the so-called son’s pension in rural areas has a prerequisite, that is, the daughter does not take anything from the house, and there is also a betrothal gift, real estate, property, etc. To my son.

In this way, the son is responsible for providing for the elderly, and the daughter has no responsibility at all.

Is this the case in our family?

What I am most worried about now is how to persuade my husband to change his mind, and at least let us be treated fairly.