"Daughter, don't live together when you go back to your husband's family for the first time. Look at these points first, or you can't get married. "

0 1 A passage written by Zhao Guanchao to his lover in the youth idol drama "I only like you". He said, "At the age of 20, we live together. At the age of 30, we have a dog. At the age of 40, we travel around the world. At the age of 50 and 60, we are all doing what we want to do most. Even at the age of 80, I will praise you for your beauty every day. The love described by Zhao Guanchao is probably the life that many couples will yearn for. Every girl wants such love. A man is affectionate and caring, and he can relax and think nothing with him. Every day, you can listen to sweet words, watch him, watch the sunset hand in hand, and grow old with him. What a happy thing it is. However, love cannot be spent in imagination. Love is better than marriage, and marriage is more realistic. Love is tempered into marriage, which is destined to require a lot of investigation and test. If two people want to make love a positive result, some things must be experienced, some people must be familiar with it, and some problems must be considered. Zack Zhang and Liu Hui met in graduate school. Now that I think about it, they have been together for almost five years. Although it has been a long time, Zack Zhang doesn't know much about Liu Hui's family, and Liu Hui has never officially visited Zack Zhang's family. With the growth of their age, both families began to urge marriage and formally invited their parents to have dinner together. At the first meal, the two families were very polite and had a pleasant chat, because Zack Zhang and Liu Hui had been together for so many years, and their families were at ease. They didn't think much of each other's families at this meeting, so they decided to get their certificates at the second meal. Zack Zhang and Liu Hui got certificates at the end of this year. Liu Hui's mother always wants Zack Zhang and Liu Hui to go home together. After all, she doesn't know much about this daughter-in-law. Before Zack Zhang, Liu Hui asked her to accompany him back to his hometown every time because the relationship was not completely determined, and Zack Zhang didn't follow him back. This year, two people got their certificates, and my mother agreed, so she decided to go back with Liu Hui. Zack Zhang is going back to her future mother-in-law's house for the first time, so her mother is very considerate. She bought many gifts for her in-laws. She should be polite. The day before she left, her mother specially called Zack Zhang to her room and said to her, "Even if she got the certificate, she can't live at home together, you know? Let's take a look at these points first, otherwise we can't get married even if our family is good. "First, the reason why we don't live together is not because Zack Zhang's mother is feudal, but because her mother is worried that Liu Hui's parents are in the countryside, fearing that they have any concerns. Secondly, Zack Zhang's mother has heard that many girls will be caught by their mother-in-law because they gave birth to children before the wedding, and they will not be treated well after marriage. She doesn't want her daughter to become like this. This kind of thing women suffer, of course, it's better to be careful, so my mother repeatedly charged Zack Zhang, and she also explained her situation to Liu Hui in advance according to her mother's statement, and asked her mother-in-law to prepare a separate room for herself. When I got home, my mother-in-law said nothing. When Zack Zhang went, her room was ready, the room was clean and the quilt was brand-new. It stands to reason that you can share a room with a certificate, but in some rural areas, not having a wedding is equivalent to not getting married, and it is better to live in nothing. Besides, there are many people in rural areas, and many people like to talk about things. Having a baby without a wedding will be laughed at. There is nothing wrong with cohabitation, but it is better for girls to be cautious, and this decision must be made carefully. Although Zack Zhang and Liu Hui are very familiar with each other now, they have just received the certificate and are also showing their best side to each other. They will try their best to accommodate each other in everything and keep in touch when they live together. At this time, it is also appropriate for girls to protect themselves more, and cohabitation can have a deeper understanding of each other. However, living together in different rooms can also do these things well. As long as it is put into practice in dressing and eating, cohabitation and living in separate rooms have the same effect. Moreover, even if two people do nothing, cohabitation is also a hidden harm to girls. As girls, they should protect themselves and live a completely clean life to prevent all hidden dangers. Many young people are impulsive, and many couples live together before they get married, so that they pick early-maturing apples and find them really bitter and unpalatable after eating them. Although the two people have already obtained the license, everything in the future is still unknown. Zack Zhang doesn't know each other's family yet, and there is no wedding. Keeping a little distance from Liu Hui is also a kind of protection for yourself. Secondly, we should pay more attention to the fact that Zack Zhang, her mother-in-law, is not familiar with the furnishings at home when she returns to her hometown for the first time. Every time she wants to help, her mother-in-law will stop her and say, "I'll do it. You don't know your family well, wait until you get familiar with it." "Just sitting in the living room watching TV, Zack Zhang was embarrassed, so she swept the floor and cleaned at home when she was free, because at home, she never stayed in bed. When her mother-in-law is in the kitchen, she will also take the initiative to help, and her mother-in-law also praises her. Zack Zhang thinks her mother-in-law is also a very easygoing person. Later these days, Zhang Yue is in her physiological period, and her stomach hurts. Mother-in-law specially cooked brown sugar Jiang Shui for her, sent it to her room, and rubbed her lower abdomen. Because her mother-in-law's hands were cold, she baked by the stove for a long time before putting her hands on Zack Zhang. Listening to her warm words and watching her actions, Zack Zhang felt that she didn't marry the wrong person or choose the wrong family. After all, marriage is not a matter of one person, but the integration of two families. The most important factor affecting the relationship between husband and wife is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, the mother-in-law's behavior also determines a woman's position in marriage. Zack Zhang's mother also told Zhang Yue to observe her mother-in-law's preferences. If the mother-in-law is reasonable and measured, it won't be too difficult to get along with her in the future. But if the mother-in-law is very picky, we should observe her temper and pay attention to her living habits, so as to avoid any irreconcilable contradictions in the future. The most important thing is to see what kind of person her mother-in-law is. If the mother-in-law is unreasonable from the beginning, she still can't marry, otherwise there will be no good life in the future. It's not too late to make it clear. Third, observe the local conditions and customs of your hometown. Do mother-in-law in many rural areas prefer sons to daughters? There are also some backward customs. For example, women can't eat at the table, everything should be centered on men, and women should be investigated for their three obedience and four virtues. Although Liu Hui's hometown is also in a remote mountainous area, the customs and habits are similar to his own, and the people here are also very enthusiastic. Zack Zhang didn't see it was inappropriate. Chatting with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law is quite open-minded about their children: "You decide what you young people want. It doesn't matter whether we want a man or a woman. Just let nature take its course. "Boys and girls are all the same, I like them all and bring them to you." Hearing these words, Zack Zhang was relieved and made a special phone call to her mother, who was also very satisfied. Because she got along well with her mother-in-law this New Year, they also advanced the wedding date, hoping to get married as soon as the epidemic passed. The result of love is marriage, which needs careful consideration. Cohabitation before marriage is bad for both men and women. People are fickle animals, passion is short-lived, but marriage is long-term and must be carefully considered. For a family of two, the woman should pay more attention to her mother-in-law and observe her mother-in-law. Some marriages broke up because of her careless mother-in-law. Many people may say that they have obtained the certificate, but in the view of some people with relatively backward concepts, it is okay to get the certificate without it. If you don't have a wedding, you're not married. I followed my husband back to my hometown the first time I got the license, so I still pay more or less attention. Of course, not everyone must follow this statement, but according to their own actual situation. After all, customs and concepts vary from place to place. Observe carefully, observe the man you are going to marry and his parents, and make a survey. Because many things will be involved during the Spring Festival, knowing more is conducive to the harmonious relationship in the future. In fact, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be avoided in advance. Before marriage, one of the ways to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to look at her mother-in-law's preferences, observe her temper, and then decide whether to get married. And some places are backward in feudalism, which is unfair to women at all. Women are regarded as "fertility machines", and these backward customs should also be put an end to. This must be clearly seen. I hope many women will be slower when they get their certificates. After all, they are legally married. Just like Zack Zhang, even without the wedding, Liu Hui and I are still husband and wife. If it is really wrong, it is also a divorce. Women want to investigate something or have a good relationship before marriage. Only in this way can you not make mistakes. Marry slowly, observe carefully, and you may meet lovers.