"Son-in-law, your spare house is just for your brother-in-law to get married." As a son-in-law, should I refuse?

There is an old saying that goes like this, "If a woman doesn't marry her mother's son, a man won't marry his younger brother." In my opinion, the first half of this sentence is quite reasonable, but the second half is too absolute.

Why can’t you marry your mother’s son? Many people know that a man like him talks about his mother all day long. Once there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the first thing he cares about is his mother. Few women who marry such a man can be truly happy throughout their lives. Most of the time, women have to fight with their mother-in-law and have disputes and conflicts with their husbands. There is no harmonious and beautiful atmosphere in the whole family. Living with such a man, a woman cannot be truly happy.

As for whether you can marry a younger brother or a daughter, you have to look at it in two parts. Because not all brothers and sisters are confused. Even though some women care about their parents' family, they can maintain a sense of proportion in their behavior and put their parents' family and husband's family on the same level. They have never been out of balance. Such a woman can definitely be married.

Another group of women who are too frightened to marry not only have younger brothers and sisters, but also have younger brothers. This kind of woman will only put all her thoughts on her mother's family. Even if they get married, they refuse to plan for their own small families. Instead, they devote their lives to their parents and brothers. What's even more frightening about them is that not only are they not ashamed of it, but they are proud of it and are complacent about their own greatness.

But such people, in our eyes, are both terrifying and pitiful. The scary thing is that if a man meets her in his marriage, it may be difficult for him to be happy again. Unfortunately, they will never be able to live for themselves.

If Fu Di Mo is pitiful, then the person standing behind Fu Di Mo is truly hateful and hateful. Everyone is selfish by nature, and Fu Di Mo is not born that great. The reason why she became what she is now was due to the training of her parents and brothers, as well as the instilling of some theories of "helping brothers" into her ears. It is a misfortune for a woman to meet such a natal family member in her life.

If a man meets such a wife, it is recommended not to be soft-hearted because of his wife. Sometimes, men can directly veto things that women cannot refuse. If they can't respect themselves, why should you give them dignity?

Before they married Miaomiao, Jiang Yang’s parents advised Jiang Yang: Miaomiao looks like a good child, but the family behind her is not easy to deal with. I heard that since Miaomiao graduated and started working, her mother took away all her salary, saying that she would leave it to her younger brother. If you two get married, their family may not let you go. Don't blame mom for speaking poorly, this is all true.

Of course Jiang Yang has considered such consequences, but for him, Miaomiao is the woman he truly loves, and he does not want to give up a sincere relationship just because of this problem. But for the sake of future happiness in marriage, Jiang Yang still found Miaomiao and had a thorough conversation with her on this issue.

Actually, Miaomiao doesn't want to be what everyone calls the "little brother-supporting devil", but she really doesn't know how to refuse. After all, it's not easy for her parents to raise her. Every time she wanted to refuse, but as soon as she saw her parents' tears, she could no longer resist. However, for the sake of a happy marriage, Miaomiao still promised Jiang Yang that after getting married, she would put her own family first, discuss everything with her husband, and never make her own decisions for the sake of her mother's family.

Because of such a heart-to-heart talk, Jiang Yang and Miaomiao reached a tacit understanding, and the two lived a simple and happy life after marriage. Unexpectedly, this kind of happiness lasted less than half a year before some problems arose.

Miaomiao's younger brother was getting married, but the woman asked his family to provide a wedding room as a bride price. But how could Miaomiao's parents get it, so they set their sights on Miaomiao. Because Jiang Yang happened to have two apartments in his name, one to live in and the other unused, with no intention of renting it out or selling it.

That day, Miaomiao’s parents came to Miaomiao and complained to Miaomiao, saying that her brother couldn’t even marry a wife. What should she do?

When Miaomiao heard this, she felt a little worried. So she told her parents that she, as her sister, could help her brother buy a house, but she didn't have much money, so she could only spend 20,000 to 30,000 yuan.

Miaomiao was thinking that this money was secretly given to her husband behind her back and she would not pay it back in the future. But her parents were not satisfied. They directly explained their purpose and asked Miaomiao to lend the unused house under Jiang Yang's name to her brother as a wedding room.

When Miao Miao thought about the promise she made to her husband, she didn’t dare to agree. But seeing her elderly parents crying in front of her, with a lot of snot and tears making her feel distressed and uncomfortable, Miao Miao's heart still softened. However, she still had sense and just told her parents that she would ask her husband.

When Jiang Yang heard that Miao Miao said that he wanted to lend his unused apartment to his brother-in-law for their wedding, he refused without thinking. Although the joke is superficially borrowed, we still don’t know what the consequences will be in the end! He didn't want to cause trouble. When his father-in-law and mother-in-law are in trouble, he is willing to help with a small favor, but when it comes to major matters related to the house, he will not be so kind.

Miao Miao felt disappointed and angry when she heard Jiang Yang's refusal. She completely forgot about the promise she had made with her husband, and only thought about the pitiful appearance of her parents when they cried. So she accused her husband of being too cold and heartless. We don’t live in that house anyway, so what if we give it to us, let alone borrow it? Anyway, Jiang Yang's family is rich, so does he still care about one or two houses?

Miao Miao's accusation made Jiang Yang a little disappointed in his marriage for the first time. What does "so what if I give it to you" mean? Why do you call him "cold and heartless"? He earned this house by himself. He can give it to whoever he wants, and he can't give it to anyone if he doesn't want to. What qualifications does she have to say this? Besides, the two of them had already made an agreement before getting married, so why is she back to her old ways now?

The first time Miaomiao and Jiang Yang quarreled over matters related to her natal family, neither one gave in to the other. In the end, Miao Miao returned to her natal family angrily to threaten her husband and make him bow down.

But Jiang Yang was very strong-minded. He ignored Miaomiao for several days in a row. He should go to work and eat when he should. Although he was upset deep down, he didn't show it on the surface.

Later, Miaomiao’s parents finally couldn’t wait any longer, and took advantage of the weekend to come to Jiang Yang’s home together. Before Jiang Yang could ask why he was here, Miao Miao's mother said directly: Son-in-law, your spare house is just for your brother-in-law's wedding. We are all one family, why should we be divided between you and me? Anyway, if you leave it there, it will gather dust. Let the young couple move in and look at the house for you!

Hearing this, Jiang Yang was simply impressed by their shamelessness. According to what they said, he seemed to want to thank them? So shameless, Jiang Yang had nowhere to vent his anger, so he just replied with one word: Get out!

Miaomiao's parents never thought that their son-in-law would be so rude. Immediately, they no longer thought about the house. Instead, they pointed at Jiang Yang and said, let him wait, and let Miaomiao divorce him when they get back, and let him be a bachelor for the rest of his life!

Jiang Yang was indifferent. If Miao Miao really divorced him because of her parents' words, then it would be fine. Such a wife will never be happy if we live together again.

As the saying goes, a country is easy to change, but a person's nature is hard to change. The reason why "Fu Di Mo" is disliked by many people is that she lacks the awareness of self-independence and only listens to the words of her parents and brothers. Even though she knew what she was doing was wrong, she couldn't change it. After all, habits formed over 20 years cannot be changed overnight. What's more, she may never really want to change from the bottom of her heart.

It is difficult for men to endure such a woman. And men cannot give corresponding respect to women's parents.