How to successfully carry out family meetings?

As we all know, as small as a class, a school, a company, a group and a country, we have to hold some meetings regularly to discuss and solve various problems. Then a family, as the smallest unit of society, should also hold family meetings regularly. What is the significance and function of holding a family meeting?

Amy McCready, a well-known American early education expert and founder of positive parenting institution, described the function and significance of holding family meetings regularly.

1. Family meetings can give every member of the family a fair say in matters involving the interests of the whole family, and at the same time fully satisfy their sense of status and belonging.

2. If children can be involved in the decision-making process of family affairs, parents' decisions will be more rational.

You will teach children how to solve problems, how to cooperate with others, how to solve interpersonal conflicts, how to lead others and other skills.

Children will also understand that although he has the right to speak, sometimes he can even act in his own way, but his voice is not more important than others'.

My understanding of family meetings;

1. Holding a family meeting can solve the long-standing contradictions in the family. You can ask family members to spread out their contradictions and make them clear. Therefore, there is no need for family members to be suspicious of each other. They found and solved problems, which made the family more harmonious and increased the cohesion of family members.

2. Family is not a family of one person, but a family of all people. You can sit down and have a family meeting to ask for the opinions of all the people in the family. This will enable family members to actively participate in the operation of the family, enhance the parent-child relationship, create an intimate, harmonious, warm and comfortable family atmosphere, and help children grow up physically and mentally.

Bi Shumin said, "A good relationship, like a can of fresh milk, is rich in fragrance and nutrition, and can nourish life from infancy to health." "If it is a bad relationship, it is good to have weeds and mosquitoes. I am most afraid of poisonous snakes and Ebola virus, which will hurt my life. "

There are always some important things at home that need urgent decision. This is not a matter for one or two people. It requires family members to actively discuss, brainstorm, brainstorm, and has the effect of brainstorming, which can make the problem have a better solution. Moreover, family members can clearly understand what happened, so it will be more convenient to deal with conflicts in the future.

4. Inadvertently help children develop the good habit of planning everything in advance, which saves valuable time for each family member to a great extent. For example, if you can share this week's business trip arrangement, carpooling plan and outdoor play time with everyone at the family meeting, then the children will not wait for you to pick them up by car, and they will not miss the game and study time.

At family meetings, children have the opportunity to speak, which plays a role in respecting children and can also solve some puzzles, problems and troubles in their growth.

How to have a meaningful family meeting? What specific details should be paid attention to in the development process?

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1. Family meetings need to be held once a week, and every family member should attend. It is suggested that the time of family meeting be posted in a conspicuous place at home, so that children can understand that family meeting is by no means a dispensable thing.

2. The place of family gathering should be far away from TV and other places that are easily distracted, and electronic products are prohibited during the meeting.

3. The time of family meeting should choose the most suitable time according to the actual situation of the family. You can adjust the time irregularly, but if you can choose a fixed time every week, it's best to become a routine. This method works best. In this way, children will understand that there is always a time and place for the whole family in a week. The time of each meeting is generally kept between 15 minutes and 30 minutes.

Form of family meeting:

1. Praise and thanks. Please ask each family member to say some warm words to other members, from "Thank you for telling a joke this morning, which made me very happy" to "Thank you for taking care of your sister this week". Your child may not know what to say at first, but in the process of family members sharing their thanks, your child will soon understand and look forward to this link.

2. Every family is busy. It is beneficial for every family member to browse the weekly schedule in advance. For example, if you have to work overtime one day and can't pick up the children on time, then the children won't wait for you at the school gate.

3. Snacks When holding a family meeting, prepare some special snacks to make the meeting more interesting and solemn. This can also provide children with more opportunities to do things for their families, because he can help prepare snacks, distribute snacks or clean up after finishing things.

4. pocket money family meeting is the best opportunity to distribute pocket money to children. In addition, it can be used as an additional incentive to encourage children to express their gratitude to their families (if necessary).

5. Entertainment This is the best part of the family meeting; Do an interesting activity that the whole family can participate in as the last part of the family meeting. The specific time and difficulty of this activity is up to you. It can be reading an interesting book, playing table games or even taking a walk. Whatever it is, make sure everyone in the family can participate.

6. Roles and Tasks In order to enhance children's sense of status, it is very important to assign clear roles to everyone in family meetings. Children can take turns to organize meetings every week, assign tasks, plan schedules, distribute snacks, prepare snacks and take notes of family meetings. Even very young children can help distribute paper towels or decide the order of speakers. Let a four or five-year-old child preside over the meeting, which will undoubtedly greatly enhance his self-confidence.

Contents of family meeting:

1. Topics discussed by the whole family.

Post a schedule in a conspicuous position at home. Family members can add topics to this list and discuss them at weekly family meetings. Topics include: when and how to do spring cleaning, how to receive visiting guests, and what interesting activities can be carried out during the summer vacation. Anything involving family can be discussed. In order to avoid the long meeting time, the topics to be discussed should be clearly listed before the family meeting.

Second, the solution to the problem. Family meetings are a good opportunity to solve family problems, such as Thomas taking Maggie's headphones without permission. But when children pour out their complaints, they need to abide by the following four principles: (very detailed and specific)

A. Use respectful words, not offensive or insulting words.

B Everyone can express their opinions, but only one person can speak at a time.

C. When raising problems, we should also find ways to solve them.

D. As far as the matter is concerned, if the discussion on this topic is over, don't discuss it until a new solution or scheme is produced.

Although children should be provided with opportunities to express their thoughts, they should not just stay in the problem itself. On the contrary, the focus should be on solving problems and moving on.

Three. Training.

Family meetings are also a good opportunity to quickly train children's life skills, such as fire prevention knowledge, wedding etiquette, and how to butter cakes correctly. But this kind of training should be short. No matter how much you want to teach your child how to scrub the toilet, it is not an enjoyable experience for the whole family to crowd in the toilet and watch you demonstrate with a toothbrush and detergent.

The road of children's growth is the first step of family education; Family education is a family heirloom, and teaching by example is better than teaching by words; Family education is uninterrupted and wins at the starting line; Family education efforts, parents and children progress. * * * Encourage!

About the author: Zang Xiaoyun, female, 197 1 February, 49 years old, Aquarius, graduated from Northwest Normal University, engaged in English teaching in primary and secondary schools for 26 years, and likes reading and writing. Learn family education knowledge every day, hoping to help more parents and children.