How do you get along with a coworker you hate, the one who speaks harshly?

Getting along with colleagues is quite annoying in itself, not to mention that he is also a hard-spoken person! In Dudu's view, true friendship is really rare when colleagues get along, and they are just using each other. Sometimes even if someone helps you with something, if you don't give the other person the same or more help, then I have to say that the ship of "friendship" between colleagues has completely capsized. Colleagues sometimes seem to get along with each other as if they are intimate, but that does not involve each other's interests. Once a conflict of interests arises, friendship and affection will really be lost. Therefore, getting along with colleagues is a very profound knowledge. Once it is not handled well, it will be a very upsetting thing. So, how do you get along with those colleagues who speak harshly:

Don’t joke too much

Dudu has been working outside for so many years, and when you encounter colleagues who speak harshly, I would never say another word to a person like that, let alone a joke. Although colleagues get along with each other based on interests, they also take into account each other's face and ability to accept each other. As for those people who speak unpleasantly, they don't care about that. As long as they speak happily, they don't care whether you can accept it or not, and whether you can tolerate it on your face. If you joke with such colleagues, you are waiting for vicious cannonballs to come and blow you up. If you are blown up beyond recognition, you will know the power of mouth bombs. By the way, we don’t owe anyone anything, so why should we be so angry? So, try your best not to joke with colleagues like that.

Just pay as little attention as possible

In fact, there is nothing to worry about when you meet such a colleague. Everyone has his own personality. He has his shortcomings, and you still have your own. Bad temper. Of course, if you are really disgusted, just stay away as much as possible. People who speak poorly do not mean they have low IQ, at most they have low emotional intelligence. The fact that these people don't speak in numbers does not mean they don't understand the level of emotional communication between people. If you stay away from him, show no interest in what he says, and just deal with it perfunctorily when you interact with him, then he will definitely notice it. I believe that there are not many people who are willing to put their hot face on someone else's cold ass, so they will naturally keep a certain distance from you, and naturally they won't say anything unpleasant to you, right?

Just push it back

You may think that people who speak harshly are outspoken, but in Dudu’s view, there is a degree of outspokenness. Once you are outspoken, you will be outspoken twice. , have you always been outspoken? People who are outspoken do not mean that they are unpleasant to listen to, but they are kind-hearted and do not have so many messy bad thoughts. However, this does not mean that they are vicious and have no sense of proportion. That is not because they are outspoken, but because they are "lack of heart" or evil-minded. If your colleague has a vicious mouth and is unrepentant, and treats you too much, you might as well say something back, smile and ask him why he is not vicious, then turn around and walk away. For colleagues like that, sometimes avoiding them won't solve anything, it can only make them more unscrupulous.

Turn around and walk away without worrying about feelings

Dudu himself usually does not have this kind of situation with his colleagues. Maybe Dudu is lucky, and his colleagues get along well with each other. Yes, occasionally there is awkwardness, and we can deal with it, but when I encounter a colleague who speaks unpleasantly, as long as he offends me, I will let him go once. As long as the other person restrains himself appropriately, I can still laugh it off. But if I don’t restrain myself but go too far, I won’t argue with that person or make myself angry without saying anything, and let others laugh at the joke. When you encounter this kind of thing, don't you speak harshly? Well, I just won't listen. No matter how fierce or lively you say it, I will sneer and walk away. I believe that as long as you are not a fool, you can tell the truth. of.

If you are in the mood, it’s okay to “tease” him once

I would like to remind you that the prerequisite for doing this is that you must have enough patience, enough eloquence, and Be in a good mood, otherwise I'm afraid you will steal the chicken but lose the rice.

When you meet a colleague who speaks unpleasantly, you can't break up with him, and you don't want to put up with it, so what should you do? Observe him and know what his shortcomings are, or you can understand his shortcomings. Well, you start to use very relaxed and humorous language to engage in a language war. Dudu sometimes likes to make trouble. One time there was a girl in the work unit who was very unpleasant to talk to. Dudu felt bored one time, so he went to "tease" her, taking advantage of my strengths and chatting with her vigorously. "Don't you talk ugly? If you have the ability, tell me one more thing, and I will talk to you to death ( hey-hey). Of course, since then, she has been unwilling to say anything to me, and I am happy to have my ears quiet.

You can try "attacking in groups"

This method is good. I have tried it, and it is very effective. It will "suffocate to death" the person who speaks very unpleasantly and has no skills. ". Generally speaking, a person who talks unpleasantly will not be the kind of person who is stupid as hell. Generally speaking, he is a person who has a good talk and a flexible mind. For such a person, coupled with his unpleasant speech, most people will not be his "opponent". And if a person who speaks harshly offends more than just you in the unit, then the opportunity will come. Find an opportunity to gather those people he offended to "besiege" the person who speaks harshly. I don't believe what you say to me can't be said in one person's mouth. Of course, be careful not to make it too stiff and treat it as a joke, but at the same time, it can teach the person who said the harsh words a little lesson.

He changed the topic once he spoke

Dudu once had a leader in a unit who was very unpleasant to talk to. He could do things well, but his words were very unpleasant and annoying. die. One time, a colleague of mine had a birthday. Everyone was discussing how to celebrate the girl’s birthday in their spare time. Who knew that the man was paying for the treat and said: What kind of birthday is this? One more birthday is one day closer to death. . Even though he was telling the truth, he really wanted to be beaten. For such people, they actually have a good heart, but they just can't speak. Then you can interrupt him directly when he says something unpleasant, or divert it with other topics, so as not to embarrass everyone, so that the person involved will be grateful to you. In fact, when it comes to getting along with colleagues, Dudu still believes that being kind is the main thing. After all, colleagues spend a lot of time with each other. If the relationship is not good, it will directly affect one's work and mood.

Tell him not to talk like that

Let me tell you, if the relationship between you is okay, if you really don’t want to turn against him, you might as well have the opportunity to directly Tell him that what he said is really offensive and offends many people. You are saying this to him as a colleague and friend. I hope he can understand your point of view, because Dudu himself does not agree with this. Dudu doesn't believe that a person can change his nature because of the words of a colleague or friend, but they are colleagues and they are quite familiar with each other, so there is no need to become enemies just because of bad words. But you have to remember, not everyone. People can let you talk "confidentially", but sometimes your kindness may be regarded as "donkey-hearted". Only if you are sure of your relationship, he will not doubt you when he hears your words. , and you can only consider this when you can listen a little bit.