Education if I can save a heart from being broken

If I can prevent a heart from being broken/My life has not been in vain/If I can bring comfort to a painful life/Alleviate his pain and troubles/Or make a weak knowing If the bird returns to its own nest, my life will not be in vain. ——(U.S.) Dickinson

　01

Before the final exam was over, the teacher on duty during evening self-study told me that a student in my class was sitting outside the classroom crying.

According to reports, just after the physics test, a few restless students got together and got the answers right. I emphasized countless times, "Take one test, pass one, and prepare for the next one with peace of mind." But they just didn't listen.

"Curiosity killed the cat."

The boy was lying on the desk outside the classroom, unwilling to raise his head or say a word. He just lay sobbing.

I asked him to look up.

"What's going on, tell the teacher first."

"There are students from other classes outside watching, don't let others see the joke."

"How bad is the situation? Did you fill in the wrong place or lack of time?"

"Before scanning, let's see if there is any recovery. ”

He remained silent. But I know that sooner or later he will raise his head and must face it.

　02

I handed him a tissue and asked him to wipe his tears.

Touch his head to calm him down.

I can only continue to comfort him: "Some things will feel better if you tell them. Maybe you can't change anything, but if you tell them, you won't be alone with your random thoughts."

Ask the passing students. , the student whispered to me that he got the physics answers correct after taking the exam with some classmates.

I asked him: "Are you so sure that other people's answers are correct?" He nodded.

“Which questions are answered correctly? Multiple-choice questions? Fill-in-the-blank questions? Answer questions? Or are they all correct?”

Still silent.

The wind is blowing outside and the weather is very cold. The student was very depressed and must have hit his lowest point. I pulled at him and he didn't move. I tried to lift his head, but I wasn't strong enough.

I told him that I was in a hurry to grade the papers and didn’t have much time.

Hand him toilet paper again and let him wipe away his tears.

　03

After a stalemate for about twenty minutes, he finally raised his head. Tell me, the last four answers are all wrong.

“How many points?”

“12 points for one test.”

“But the grading is not just about the results. If the formula is correct, it will still be given. Point it out."

He nodded.

“***48 points, are you sad because you lost 48 points?”

“But others will not get full marks, and you may not get 48 points. Finished. So, the situation may not be as bad as you think."

I told him that, coincidentally, there was another student in the class who only wrote one natural paragraph in the exam. Because he didn't listen to me at all, didn't take a break at noon, and memorized geography crammingly in the morning, causing him to fall asleep in the examination room.

“But he is not depressed, but is actively preparing for the next chemistry exam.”

It can be seen that he is much calmer.

I continued to ask: "Is it because I feel embarrassed because I did poorly in the exam? Or do I feel unfair because I have worked a lot but got such a result? Or, maybe I feel that I have not studied seriously during this period and have not settled down. Come to review and feel ashamed and regretful?"

At the last sentence, he nodded again.

In fact, I had expected it, because through daily observation, he is indeed a smart boy, with strong receptivity and understanding, but he is impatient and likes to do things according to his own ideas. I am not practical in my work. I stay in school on weekends and do not want to study by myself in the classroom. Tried to talk, but it didn't work. Because smart children are often the most stubborn, they are reluctant to listen to teachers’ teachings and have a strong sense of rebelliousness.

To be honest, whether to study hard or not is everyone’s own choice. I told them that as long as they can bear the consequences - if they are playful, they should think that the test scores may not be very high, so don't be depressed when they get the results.

If you insist on going your own way, you are likely to run into walls everywhere. Then when the pain is excruciating, you must learn to swallow your tears.

I always believe that the worst education is to force students to accept their own ideas and force children to live according to their own ideal way.

　04

This child did well in the first exam, but as time went by, he became less demanding on himself.

There are too many such students. I waste too much time on weekdays and fail to develop my intelligence. He is also very competitive and unwilling to admit defeat.

No matter how hard you work, you will reap what you gain. God rewards hard work, as it has always been.

If you lower your requirements, lose your vigilance, and relax, you will suffer losses sooner or later.

“Some things must be learned to jump out and look at. Do you still remember your mid-term exam scores when you were a freshman in junior high school? Do you think you will still remember the scores in this exam when you enter your second or third year of high school? "

"What will be the consequences if you do poorly? This is not the college entrance examination that will affect your destiny, nor will it affect your placement test in the next two years, it is just the worst outcome. Your ranking will go down this time, and you will need to spend more time explaining to your parents the reason for the decline in your grades after taking the exam."

"It's not a bad thing for you to do poorly this time. On the contrary, this is a priceless experience and lesson. Only when you fall and feel the pain will you walk more steadily in the future. If you do well in this exam, I will worry about you. You will become more arrogant and go your own way."

"Bernard Shaw once said that the two major tragedies in life are complacency and despair. A successful person depends not only on intelligence, but more importantly. The most important thing is the spirit of perseverance. If you fall, get up..."

The lines are very corny and cliche, but I believe he listened.

"You can choose to sit quietly outside for a while and calm down. But the teacher hopes that you can go to the classroom as soon as possible to prepare for the review for tomorrow's exam."

I told his colleague There is an attentive girl at the table. I went to see him after study hall to comfort him.

In the last period of self-study, the teacher told me that he had started chatting and laughing with another student.

I really hope he won’t be cured so soon;

I hope he won’t forget crying outside the classroom on a cold winter night;