Because I didn't kneel and kowtow to my in-laws on my wedding day, we had a terrible argument. Why should we be so unfair? We should kneel to our in-laws, not my parents.

Although when in Rome, do as the Romans do, didn't the MC inform the woman of the wedding process in advance? Besides, he didn't kneel to your parents, and tradition is reasonable at all.

Of course, you were a little unhappy at that time, which made him feel that you had some priorities. After all, men care about face. You gave him this face at that time, so it's hard to say anything afterwards, but getting married is a lifetime thing. It is ugly to have a conflict in front of relatives and friends at a wedding.

I think your problem lies in communication, one is meanness, the other is introversion and stubbornness, so facing the ups and downs in life will inevitably aggravate contradictions: the breakdown of feelings is accumulated by small things.

If you have any ideas, you can find a time to be alone, get along with each other and talk to him calmly. You don't have to "talk to him" or make him listen to you, just tell him what you think and let him know what you think, including what you want him to do. Of course, he may not do this, but frequent communication like this will reduce misunderstandings.

You can also tell him: I want you to know what I think, and I don't want us to misunderstand. Of course, I won't force you to do so; Similarly, although your cynicism pains me, I hope you can tell me what you think. Similarly, I may not meet your requirements, but as a husband and wife, we should communicate openly, or we will be worse than strangers.

I suggest you change your mind: who should make way for you unless he is older than you or something?

When you are married, you can ask him to love and care about you, but don't let you go. These two concepts are very different. In addition, it doesn't mean that anyone has to compete with anyone, nor does it mean that you will use it after you have a heart. I suggest that when you encounter problems, you should discuss them on the basis of facts, leave room for seeking common ground while reserving differences, and then understand each other-as long as you have feelings, except for major issues of principle, most small details and contradictions should be solved through mutual consideration and compromise.

I don't suggest that you seriously apologize to your in-laws for the wedding. Being a man, especially a daughter-in-law, can't just compromise. You have to find out what you should tolerate and what you can't tolerate, but since you have a knot in it, you can talk to your husband about what your mood was at that time, and appropriately say that you shouldn't be so persistent at that time-you are psychologically uncomfortable, so you must say it politely. Others are not worms in your stomach. You can always pay attention to your mood swings. As long as it is a reasonable request, you can ask each other, but don't think, "Why can't you understand me?" Put yourself in others' shoes. When confronted with such a question, you won't answer "How can I know what you are thinking if you don't tell me?"