A Phoenix man said: What problems do "leftover women" who have not yet married off at the age of 30 usually have?

"I would rather die alone than marry an older leftover girl"! A few days ago, A Hong, who had just finished a blind date, said this resolutely.

After asking, I found out that A Hong’s blind date ended in failure again, and because the woman on the blind date made A Hong so angry, she said the phrase “I would rather be alone.” "I will never marry an older leftover girl until I grow old."

A Hong said that he and the woman were introduced on a blind date through a blind date website. When he just heard the woman introduce herself, A Hong still thought that she was good because the woman was a local and was 32 years old. I am 20 years old, I am not ugly, I am an only child, and both my parents have stable jobs, so I will have little pressure to support my future retirement.

But before A Hong finished introducing himself, the woman interrupted A Hong directly and said: "Let's not waste time on each other. You are not a local, and your family conditions are not good. No." If you don’t have a house or a car, why would you come on a blind date with me? I’ve seen a lot of Phoenix men like you. Don’t you just want to be a live-in son-in-law and cheat on houses in the city? I don’t like men like you at all. It's wrong to have a good family, don't be a toad and want to eat swan meat!"

It was the woman's words that made A Hong half-dead angry. Because A Hong was a person with a very strong self-esteem, he directly replied to the woman: "Although I was born not as good as you, I I'm much better than you. My current monthly salary is 30,000 yuan, and you can't even get 5,000 yuan. Although I can't afford a house now, I will always be able to afford it in the future. But for an older leftover woman like you, if you wait for another two years, No one wants her at all, so don’t look down on me. I would rather die alone than marry an older leftover girl."

It was also because of this failed blind date that Ahong said that he would never marry an older leftover girl in the future, because in his opinion, there are no good women among older leftover girls. It's your own problem.

To be honest, I admire A Hong very much, because he was born in poverty and can take root in a first-tier city. This is something to be proud of. A Hong can be regarded as a noble son from a poor family in the true sense, because none of his ancestors in the past three generations have ever read a book. They have stayed in that remote and backward mountain village to work as farmers all their lives. A Hong is where he is today, all because of his own efforts. , and then stepped out of the small mountain village. He has not talked about marriage in these years. It was because of a bad birth that he devoted himself to work and survived until now. In my opinion, Ahong is actually not worse than that woman. .

A Hong often said: Older leftover women cannot marry, because "leftover women" who have not yet married off at the age of 30 usually have these problems!

The "leftover women" who are not yet married at the age of 30 usually have their eyes higher than their head.

Ahong said that in his opinion, in this era when there are more men and fewer women, the reason why women who are not married at the age of 30 is not because they really don’t have men to marry, but because most of them have eyes higher than their heads. , excessively overestimating themselves, when their abilities are not as great as their ambitions, so they end up becoming older leftover women.

Ahong said that in reality, there are many women who obviously have only 50 points of capital, but they always think that under the cover of beauty and makeup skills, they have 70 points of capital, and then Then they pursue the man with a score of 90, so they naturally become older leftover women, because the man they love doesn't like them at all. That's why they often say: "The person who loves her is miserable, but the person she loves is famous and has his own owner."

The "leftover women" who are not yet married at the age of 30 usually have high material requirements.

Ahong said that in his opinion, "leftover women" who are not yet married at the age of 30 usually have extremely high material requirements, which ordinary men simply cannot meet. It is also because they have fewer goals, so they It is easy to become an older leftover girl.

In addition, for most men, they usually do not marry materialistic and money-worshiping women, so the chance of them becoming leftover women increases. In the minds of many men, these women make men feel particularly insecure, because they usually do not keep to themselves. In their eyes, love is worthless compared to money, and they can give up everything for material life.

Ahong said that he had a cousin who insisted on marrying a rich and handsome man, so she became a 37-year-old leftover girl and now she cannot get married at all.

In A Hong’s words, in his opinion, the problems of older leftover women mean that they are not good candidates for wives and mothers, because these women are not good in all aspects.

The editor has something to say:

In my opinion, I strongly disagree with A Hong’s view, because his statement is too extreme, and not all “older single women” , are all as bad as he said. Most of the older leftover women around me are actually in very good condition. They have never gotten married, not because their eyes are above their heads, nor because of the reality of money worship, but because of the reality of money worship. It's just because they haven't met the man they want to marry. This is just their persistence in love.

I once did such an interview. I interviewed dozens of older single women, and I asked them: "Why have you been single until now?"

From the answers of these women, I found that the reason why many modern women have become "elderly leftover women" is not because they cannot get married, nor is it because their eyes are higher than their heads. It's because they are independent and strong enough that they don't need men at all. In their hearts, men are dispensable, so they plan to marry the one they love the most, otherwise, it would be better to live alone.

Many women also said that the main reason why they ended up being leftover women was actually because they were not proactive enough, were too Buddhist, and were always waiting for love to come, so they missed many opportunities. Then she became an older leftover girl.

Only a very small number of women are eager to change their destiny by getting married.

In my opinion, today’s women are no worse than men, so they no longer need to depend on men. They are self-reliant and self-sufficient, and many of them have never even considered getting married. Therefore, many of Ahong’s views are actually problematic. There is actually no difference between older leftover women and ordinary women. They are just a few years older. Men should not be prejudiced against this.

In other words, even if a woman is particularly picky about love, men are not qualified to make irresponsible remarks, because whether it is love or marriage, it is always fair, and men can choose those. Women who are more beautiful and have better figures can also choose better men. This is everyone's right to choose, and no one can comment on right or wrong.

I often tell the men around me that instead of having the time to complain about women, it is better to work hard to become better first, and then everything will fall into place naturally, just like the saying "If you When it blooms, butterflies will come.”