Don't laugh at three things about others.

When getting along with others, everyone is eager to get the perfect relationship, that is, get along comfortably.

Don't be suspicious of each other, don't cater to each other purposefully, communicate with each other, accommodate each other, tolerate each other, talk to each other and be true to each other. However, this comfort is limited to your imagination.

Just because you can't look directly at the human nature.

Some people, you think you will be the most iron relationship, and it is very likely that a small matter will make the relationship indifferent; Some people, you think they are brothers and honey juice are sisters, but it is very likely that you just told them your little secret, and when you turn around, it spread to everyone around you.

There is a saying in Augmented Sage: Talk to everyone, but you can't throw away my heart a little bit.

It can be seen that our ancestors told us a long time ago that we must keep three points when talking to people, otherwise you will see: some relationships "turn their faces when they say they turn their faces", some people will really "walk away from tea" after they leave, and some brothers will turn their faces when they say they turn their faces; Some people who treat each other sincerely are now villains. ...

Life is hard to find a bosom friend, and it is hard to find a bosom friend through the ages.

Therefore, since you can't be bosom friends, you should understand that no matter how good the relationship is, you should never tell others everything confidentially.

The more you talk about the following three things, the more trouble you get yourself, the more trouble you get.

Jiang Xun once mentioned in A Dream of Red Mansions that Qin Keqing's death was not due to illness, but was forced to rape by her father-in-law, so she hanged herself in Tianxianglou.

Cao Xueqin's ten-year deletion finally covered up this ulterior scandal in the family. Zhi Yanzhai once commented on this chapter: Qin Xue is really good. In other words, Mr. Cao's attitude is that in the face of domestic scandals, it is better not to say anything.

In fact, when Wang Xifeng took Jia Baoyu to see him earlier, there was a "crawling ash" that was scolded by Jiao. He has long used foul language to tell readers the relationship between father-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Therefore, even a fairy writer like Cao Xueqin, this book looks like a documentary, but in fact, just like when we kept a diary as a child, we are worried that it will be seen by adults and there will be some encryption, so we can also see the charm of the characters in A Dream of Red Mansions.

Therefore, although we are ordinary, if we have ulterior secrets, we'd better hide them as much as possible.

You think that if you tell others, they will treat you sincerely accordingly. It is very likely that at this moment, someone else said a few words of comfort to you, turned around and took it as a joke he heard and spread it to you.

At that time, you will regret it.

Many people, seemingly friendly, secretly wish you had something in your hand, and wish you were not as good as him and made him feel more superior.

Therefore, family matters, in the final analysis, are still family matters, no matter whether they are handled perfectly or not, they are all hidden in their own "homes". It is better for some people to talk less when they encounter something.

The so-called prosperous world is profit-seeking, and prosperous world is profit-seeking.

It is very realistic between people.

If you have money, others will come to you. If you have no money, others will stay away from you.

However, whether you have money or not has never been decided by others, but how much wealth you can master in your own hands.

Only by keeping money secret can we achieve great things. The more you parade in the city, the more you show off to everyone, the more shallow and ignorant you are. Even if you have money now, it's hard to keep it.

In ancient times, there was a saying called "a gentleman on the beam", which meant that thieves always liked to steal money to replace the beam.

Why on the beam? Because there were no banks in ancient times and ordinary people didn't have much money, they all strung their money together and hung it on the beams, so thieves became the so-called "gentlemen on the beams."

And the people he is eyeing must be those who are "rich". You are bragging during the day, and you are likely to attract thieves at night.

So, whether you have money or not, you have to hide it.

You have to know: if you have money, others will miss you, maybe they will borrow money from you every three days, and some people will even be jealous of you, try to make a fool of you and secretly calculate you; You have no money, when you are down and out, others will guard against you, afraid that you will come to borrow money from them and stay away from you.

Therefore, the best way to behave is not to tell others about your financial situation at will, no matter how good the relationship is, don't show off your wealth, let alone cry poor.

Remember, hiding money is the best protection for yourself.

Maybe everyone is not always "rich and shining" when talking about ideals, just because people really have different aspirations in this world.

However, if you come from a poor family and start from a worse place than others, you will always reveal your ambitions to others. Many times, what you get is not the support of others, but the false response and the ridicule behind it.

Or, your ideal is to be a bus driver or a kindergarten teacher. So most people will insinuate that your ideal is "really great" and joke that you don't have lofty aspirations.

Therefore, the ambition of a gentleman is better hidden in the bottom of my heart.

If you like to write novels, then write more, be modest and low-key, and always be the right way; You like the galloping of business, so even if you are cheated, you should be able to withstand the blow, not to mention complaining about how much you have suffered, how much you have been cheated and how much you have earned. You like to work slowly and steadily in the establishment, so do things well now, don't brag to everyone about how carefree you are, and don't complain about the leadership everywhere. ...

Man, ambition equals ideal.

Many people have set their ambitions, but few can stick to them on the way to realization.

In life, you will see that the more silent those people are, the more successful they are, and the more difficult it is to achieve them. Just because they are more ostentatious, others don't like them and want to give him some color to see see.

Therefore, even if the relationship is no matter how good and intimate, you should remember what to say and what not to say, and be a little smart.

There is a saying in A Dream of Red Mansions: Everything is learned, and people's understanding is an article.

It means that if you know the way of the world, you won't get yourself into trouble, and if you know the way of the world, you won't show off. This is real learning.

Do your own thing, or hide it in your heart, so that you can live clearly.

Conclusion:

Zhou once said a word that deeply touched me:

The "distance" here has two meanings. The first is that in the face of external experience, you can maintain your inner autonomy. In other words, you have your own choice under any circumstances; The second meaning is that you can keep inner peace in the face of encounter. In other words, you are open-minded.

Therefore, the same is true when we get along with people.

The calmer you are, the less you will reveal everything and let others judge you at will. However, if you can accept whatever others say, no matter what you say, you don't care whether others ridicule you or praise you. No matter what happens in the future, you can keep up with other people's dirty tricks or tricks, so you can speak freely without scruple.

But most people can't stand the eyes of others. China people, in particular, pay attention to a "face". Once a lot of thoughts are on the body, they will be troubled and regretted because of some trivial things. In the face of other people's "bad", you are even more powerless to resist, then you are likely to regret that you have not kept the door open.

Nan huaijin once said: How many secrets must a person hide before he can spend his life skillfully.

So in the final analysis, you still have to control your mouth and your heart in order to live comfortably.

Therefore, please always remember: people hide secrets in this life, not that you are not open-minded, but that you don't get into trouble for yourself; Don't talk nonsense, not that you are insincere, but that you have the ability to protect yourself.