Do you know why Ming Lan, who has always kept a low profile, suddenly became so conspicuous in Yu Jia?

"The life of parents, the words of the matchmaker." It is a procedure of marriage etiquette in the Spring and Autumn Period of the Western Zhou Dynasty. Borrowing the language at that time, it probably means: how about marrying a wife? I'll tell my parents ... how about finding a wife? It must be the media. (< poetry. Qifeng Nanshan > Of course, this marriage system continued into the heyday of the Song Dynasty.

Under the influence of strict hierarchy and feudal ethics, this form of marriage was gradually recognized. Even Li Yaotang, a famous modern writer in China, wrote in his book Home on March 2nd:

"Parents' orders, the words of a matchmaker. Parents are married, and young people are not allowed to mention it-this is a matter of course, and offenders will be prosecuted. "The life of the parents, the introduction of the matchmaker. At that time, the marriage of young men and women was promoted by one hand and treated with courtesy. I also gained a happy life. I remember that Mr. Lu Xun once wrote in "A Brief History of Chinese Novels": "When talented people and beautiful women meet, they often use poetry as a medium. This seems to be a marriage that goes against' parents' orders and matchmakers' words. "If so, marriage will not be happy. However, there is also a lot of love buried in the bud.

Therefore, for Ming Lan, a traveler, such an arranged marriage is actually hard to accept. However, the reality made her bow. When he first heard the news of his brother Changbai's marriage, Ming Lan was devastated. Later, I heard Grandma Sheng's gentle sunshine: "For so many years, there is only one room. That's good. Other stupid names are also called by your big brother. What's the name of a good girl? " ..... That wool is nothing more than a middleman's gesture and a duty. It doesn't hurt to stay or send it back. "

Hearing the old lady's understatement determines a girl's life. Ming Lan's eyes gradually darkened. A girl who is used by her host family but has no birthright like Yang Hao is actually worried about the future. Their best ending was to lift her aunt up. After giving birth to the first child, if the man's favor is still there, you can have one. If the host and his wife live in harmony, she will become a decoration and slowly become young. If the hostess can't stand it, send it out, or let it go, or match someone.

But even so, what good people can you deserve? Just a servant at home, an ant in the street, a woodcutter in the mountain, a farmer in the field, any man who has the money to support menstruation won't want a broken woman. What's more, it is in this society that is so strict with women, but regards chastity as greater than heaven. ?

But it can't be tolerated blindly, because it is the one who knows the tragedy of the old lady Sheng, and a large part of the reason is the result of the gossip provoked by Master Sheng's aunt. This kind of maid, who has served the young master since childhood, is familiar from top to bottom, and has a deep friendship with the master, often has a solid position before the hostess enters the door, and sometimes even sets a trap for the new hostess. Therefore, sympathy for women's fate will evolve to themselves sooner or later, because this is a bondage that women can't break free from. Therefore, Ming Lan once asked herself: At that time, could she deal with her opponent without hesitation? But these seem far away.

Ming Lan is a very affectionate person. When she was going to Yang Yang, she didn't forget her best friend. On her way to say goodbye to Yu Yan, she happened to meet someone like Zhu Manniang. Immediately, there was this scene.

On entering the room, I saw Mrs. Yu lying on the ladder, panting weakly, sitting on the couch, pale and in a trance. When I saw Ming Lan, I stepped forward to hold her hand tightly and murmured with trembling lips, "I played a joke on my sister ... and then I hit her hard and yelled at the woman," Get up quickly, I won't accept your tea! Go quickly! " The girl looked up and saw that she was beautiful and pitiful, with blood stains on her head, red eyes and tears: "The girl will be my mistress in the future. If the girl won't let me live, how can our mother live? If that girl doesn't hand me over today, our mother might as well die here! "That girl can bear to see us die? ! "

Yu Yan Ran is always thin-skinned and soft-hearted. What she said made her speechless. In full view of Ming Lan, she became more and more ashamed and shouted weakly, "You get up first, I, I won't let you die ..." Ming Lan listened to their eyes. Yu Ge is strict with himself, and a generation does not take concubines. Mrs. Yu has been living smoothly until now, and her daughter-in-law dare not disobey herself.

Ming Lan finally chose to maintain and help. I didn't stand by, let alone look on coldly. Even if it is my own business, he still helps. As a modern legal person, she is equally wise. Some things look safe, but they are actually dangerous. Some things look dangerous, but they are actually safe.

Ming Lan stood at the door and looked at the woman under the steps. A clear voice said, "Who is kneeling? If you want my sister to drink your tea, you must give me a name! " Ming Lan, with a gentle expression, said with a smile, "Concubine is not for a mistress to drink a cup of tea. The so-called restless home is a disaster. Even ordinary people have to get a concubine. Besides, Ning is a noble family in the capital. If my sister doesn't know your history and past, she will only drink your cup of tea. Isn't it a scandal that people laugh at? ! "

A series of questions, preconceived, active speech. Pronunciation is clear and coherent This should also be the first time that Ming Lan has truly been himself since he came to this world. Rather than helping Yu Yan get out of trouble, it is better to say that his true feelings have been released. Seemingly impulsive, in fact, I have long understood that today's things will not be leaked from any population present. Ming Lan is very cautious. Doing good deeds without leaving a name also solves the trouble of being a daughter.

I think Ming Lan is myself at the moment. Because women have to be careful in their words and deeds all their lives and can't quarrel with others, but … what's the point of living like this? It is a rule to take a step, and it is also a rule to say a word. From opening your eyes to lying down to sleep, you should always think about the stakes; Ming Lan really doesn't like this, but it's just that Woodhead is usually proud of the sun. She wants to do what she wants to do, and what she wants to say occasionally. ...