In ancient times, men all had wives, so how did husbands maintain the relationship between wives and concubines?

In our Han people's view, this is against ethics. The so-called "brothers and wives should not be bullied" and "eldest sister-in-law is like a mother", which is unacceptable to most people. This reminds me of the ancient system of three wives and four concubines, called "three wives and four concubines". In fact, there were many concubines in ancient times, which were mainly used to carry on the family line, and their status was low, so they could not be included in the genealogy, nor could they participate in family sacrifice activities.

The author is particularly curious, if a man marries "three wives and four concubines", can he handle it well? Isn't it busy? With curiosity, let's analyze the problem.

The premise of three wives and four concubines in ancient times was the absolute authority of men in the family.

First of all, three wives and four concubines are not in place at a time, and they have to marry home one by one. This is a normal idea. Accordingly, if you marry four or five concubines, you can't simply explain it by passing on the family line. If you marry a concubine, you are tired of playing or have a crush on something else. Marrying another one will still satisfy sexual desire. There is another situation. What would you think if someone married five wives and had no children? Answer: This person has a problem.

Of course, in ancient times, you didn't want to take a concubine. Different dynasties have different rules and regulations. Some dynasties did not allow concubinage. For example, the Ming emperor can have three palaces and six courtyards, and the Ming emperor is famous for his luxury. This is typical. Only state officials are allowed to set fires to prevent people from lighting lamps. Although there was a system, it was extremely corrupt in the middle and late Ming Dynasty. Look at Jin Ping Mei. A small Simon official can keep the left and the right, not to mention the powerful nobles. Concubine is not a thing.

In ancient China, concubines had a low status. It seems that after the Qing dynasty, I began to call my aunt. A husband has the right to kill and take away concubines, and concubines have only one function, that is, to have children? No! You can't be the master just by having children and raising them.

This reminds me of a plot in director Zhang Yimou's work "Hanging the Red Lantern High". After the third wife of the main family was discovered, she committed adultery with a doctor, but was punished by family law and hanged in the patio. In modern times, this is an abuse of lynching. Of course, modern society is strictly monogamous, and sneaking around is ok. But there is no room for concubines at home, and many men with power, wealth and needs are there.

In ancient times, the beauty and wealth in the world belonged to the emperor. It is an indisputable fact that most ancient emperors lived short lives. Some people attribute it to too much sexual intercourse, too much sexual intercourse, and the emperor's infertility rate is not low. Is the short-lived emperor really because of indulgence? That's not necessarily true. In fact, the royal family also has some strict rules in this regard. Yes, it's just a rule. Generally speaking, we can understand that emperors are born with opportunities for indulgence, and most of them are indulgent, because most people are influenced by hormones.

In history, famous emperors with surnames all died of indulgence. Emperor Taichang of the Ming Dynasty was the protagonist of the "Red Pill Case", one of the three famous cases in the Ming Dynasty. Words, Zhu Changluo accidentally bumped into the emperor, ecstatic, lucky seven ladies overnight, as a result, a few days later, unofficial history thought he died in too much sex. Let's take a look at the Tongzhi emperor of the Qing Dynasty. He likes to court women. /kloc-died at 0/9. According to folklore, he died of syphilis. I think the cause of death is more reliable. Eighteen or nineteen is the age of passion ... You know, the official statement is not credible.

Far from it, the history of China did not get rid of the era of "home is the world" until after liberation. Since the country belongs to the family, those in power should naturally safeguard the interests of the family. Verbally shouting "the world is for the public", but in fact it is "our country is for the public". The establishment that rules a country is not really committed to the interests of the country and the nation. On the contrary, we can sacrifice the interests of the nation in order to safeguard our own interests. For example, in the era when Cixi Lafayette was in power, such as the September 18th Incident, resistance was not allowed.

Continuing today's topic, if you have "three wives and four concubines" or several lovers, how do you arrange your sex life? This thing is actually quite difficult. I think most people will be tired of coping. I can only think that because there is no experience, experienced people can leave messages. Let's take a look at how this problem was handled in ancient times.

Most big families in ancient times had family instructions and their own "management methods for wives and concubines". However, the rules are implemented in the hands of individuals. For men, with such a high status, they naturally have the right to choose, such as who they like and who they don't like. Concubine's position is more like a sex slave, a hen who lays eggs, but she can't provoke her master or her wife. Pan Jinlian in "Jin Ping Mei" was also carefully served and was beaten by Ximen Qing. It is said that Pan Jinlian is a proud person and can only submit to humiliation because my concubine has no status at all.

For example, a large family in a certain place, a large family, married a wife and four concubines, so many wives, how to arrange sex life? In ancient times, concubines were used to give birth to children. For this legitimate reason, concubines enjoyed the same sexual rights as their wives. And according to unofficial history's records, it is the husband's duty to have sex with my concubine once every five days. If you can't satisfy my concubine in this respect when you get home, people will still look down on you. What logic is this?

If that's the case, Zhang basically doesn't take a vacation for 365 days a year and plays a song every night. How did his body suffer? Not only that, men can retire at the age of 60, while husbands have this obligation before their concubines are 50. Of course, Zhang may have suffered a lot when he was young, but when he is old, he can come whenever he wants, even if he doesn't want to, it is also a tragedy for a concubine.

How much does it affect a man's life span to have so many women at the same time? Also depends on other people's food. Some people live to the age of 100 and have three wives and four concubines, such as young and strong, who were good smokers and good women when they were young. However, if you have a good mouth and are healthy, that will be awesome. If we make an average survey, I think the results may be pessimistic and have a great impact on life expectancy.

A few years ago, I occasionally read a famous western sexology book called Dr. Sex, but I can't remember the name clearly. Westerners' point of view is that human sexual ability is endless. As long as your equipment is normal, you should release it when necessary. If you do it properly, don't mess around, which is good for your health. This is totally different from the viewpoint of China people. We pay attention to moderation and think that frequent sexual intercourse is very harmful. I think it may be caused by the physical and cultural differences between Chinese and western people, which is a bit like the comparison between Chinese medicine and western medicine. In this respect, it is better to listen to the words of our ancestors and be moderate.

If an emperor doesn't control himself, the number of women he can get lucky is estimated to be no less than four figures. Although the number of lucky people can't explain the indulgence, if calculated by lucky 1000 people, everyone is lucky only once a year, and the emperor has not taken a vacation for three years. Does it take more than ten years for most people to complete 1000 times? It is not easy to be an emperor. I am tired. Haha, after all, 1000 is only a conservative estimate!

Therefore, three wives and four concubines also depend on men's physique and coping measures. If you indulge, one wife and one concubine are enough to make you disappear early. It must be said that the current marriage system is reasonable, monogamy meets the needs of the vast majority of people and can also avoid family chaos. Of course, there are also some friends who like to philander and seek more happiness.

Let's make another hypothesis. Many people will be very happy if they learn from the Arab four-wife system. It's cool to think about it!

If this is the case, there are several preconditions. First, the status of men needs to be greatly improved, while the status of women needs to be reduced. Women don't show their faces and work, as long as you can afford it. Second, the ratio of men to women needs to be similar, and it is better to have more women. There are tens of millions of bachelors at present. If you marry a wife, you can buy more, just like buying a house. It is estimated that the number of bachelors will double.

Having a large number of wives and concubines is a great test of the management ability of men. Don't think it is impossible to manage the singing and dancing in the family. It is normal for families with wives and concubines to be noisy, and men go their separate ways after death.

Look at these concubines of Ximen Qing in Jin Ping Mei. Every day, I am intrigued and cheated, and no one will stop. A woman looks for a needle in a haystack, and a group of women serve a man together. Don't expect these women to be broad-minded, it's impossible.

In modern society, society cannot enter, and "three wives and four concubines" has been abolished. However, there are not a few people who "buy another house". Besides their wives, they have a mistress. The news that the wife and mistress are fighting is no longer news, and the rights of women in modern society have been greatly improved. This model of three wives and four concubines has been updated, but the essence has not changed.

In other words, Zhang's great-grandson Zhang (18) made a fortune by doing business. He has had enough of the yellow-faced woman at home, even a little bored, used to listening to the yellow-faced woman's nagging, but also disgusted. There are many beautiful young female employees in our company, all of whom are beautiful and dressed beautifully. He began to have an idea, spent a little money and gave some benefits. Finally, I caught a little beauty born after 90, went home to perfuse my wife on weekdays, worked overtime all night from time to time, and actually had a tryst with Xiaomi Hotel. Later, he found that the hotel was in trouble, so he might as well change to another hospital. After a few days of this life, boss Zhang felt that he could do nothing.

Zhang was very upset. He only found a mistress. You can imagine how difficult it is to manage a group of mistresses! A senior official who was exposed a few years ago scientifically managed dozens (such as 100) and brought his management ability to the extreme. But it's useless to use it in the right place!