How do parents feel when their only child commits suicide?

The parents must be very painful and sad.

Suicide has become the second largest killer of human life. According to data released by the Peking University Child Development Center in China, about 100,000 teenagers die from suicide in China every year. Regarding the choice of suicide method, 58 of the suicide cases involved jumping from a building and 20 of them involved taking poison.

When people commit suicide, the first thing they think of is depression; however, this can only explain part of the reason, and the other part of the tragedy can be explained by psychosocial factors.

Specific reasons:

(1) From a psychological perspective, the reasons behind the sudden suicide of children and adolescents can be divided into the following categories:

1. Under intense Negative emotional state. When caught in an extreme fear that is stronger than the fear of death; sometimes to avoid punishment. This fear is generally short-lived. If a suicide attempt fails, the suicidal person often regrets the suicidal behavior and hopes that the suicidal impulse can be suppressed in time.

2. Lose the sense of social belonging. Losing the sense of social belonging often causes people to lose their coordinates and reference system in society, leading to despair. Sometimes worrying about losing social belonging or anticipating that one will lose social status may also induce suicide. This is often because:

(1) Feeling abandoned: such as being abandoned by a social organization or social group, being abandoned/abandoned by a lover, being abandoned by relatives (including the loss of a parent or a child), etc. Sometimes society Failure in role play will also produce a feeling of abandonment, and when the emotions are extreme, you may feel abandoned by the entire society;

(2) Being opposed and restricted: such as loss of freedom, etc.;

(3) Requests were rejected;

(4) Behaviors, moods, thoughts, etc. were not understood.

3. Mental pain and suffering. The psychological pain and torture is so painful that the contradictions between oneself and oneself, parents, teachers, studies, and society continue to intensify and cannot be resolved. Sometimes, in order to relieve or even end the pain, there are May choose to commit suicide.

4. Learning difficulties. Failure to master study habits and methods and unable to keep up with learning progress; children having too much contact with external things, such as the Internet, mobile phones, etc.; bullying and unfair treatment in school, etc.

5. Specific motivation. Such as revenge suicide, which causes greater harm or loss of interests to other members; voluntary choice behavior in the randomness of death, such as betting on who will die first (revolvers, sleeping pills, etc.), duels, death games (mainly jungle games), etc.; alienation of worldview and values, such as mistakenly believing that suicide is a kind of freedom, suicide is noble, etc.

6. False suicide. The person who committed suicide had no motive to commit suicide and did not intend to commit suicide. However, due to improper operation, certain dangerous behaviors (with a high probability of death) became actual suicide.

(2) From the perspective of mental illness, mental illnesses such as depressive episodes, schizophrenia, and personality disorders may be causes.

Depressive episodes, schizophrenia, personality disorders and other mental illnesses may lead to suicide. This type of suicide is generally divided into two categories: one is despair suicide, and the other is anger suicide.

1. Suicide out of despair.

(1) If you are isolated from classmates and unable to face the teacher's punishment, you may not be able to think of a way to deal with it and commit suicide;

(2) Study pressure is high and academic performance declines, It's because you can't overcome it after hard work, and you commit suicide because you are exhausted.

2. Angry suicide.

Performed by committing suicide out of anger when being irritated by parents, teachers, or classmates. When they are provoked, they initially have the idea of ??attacking outwards, but because they do not have the conditions to attack, or are afraid of the consequences of the attack, they turn the attack on themselves and impulsively choose to commit suicide by jumping off the building: I have no power to fight you, I can only avoid it. Liberation through death.

3. Suicide caused by mental symptoms.

Thinking that a classmate laughed at him and committed suicide by jumping off a building. In fact, no one laughed at him. This is suicide caused by delusion. Another example is that he heard a voice out of thin air ordering him to jump off the building and he had no choice but to jump off the building. This was a hallucination. caused suicide.

When encountering difficulties, how should we help children get rid of spiritual pain?

When encountering difficulties, how should we help children get rid of spiritual pain? Dr. Wang Xiuli made the following suggestions .

(1) When symptoms first appear, you should urgently seek psychological crisis intervention help.

When facing a sudden psychological crisis among teenagers, they need to be more vigilant, promptly verify the accuracy, possible form and authenticity of suicidal tendencies, and strive to seek psychological intervention from psychological crisis experts as soon as possible.

(2) Parents should take action to learn mental health knowledge, improve parent-child communication skills, and seek professional help in a timely manner.

1. Education should start from a young age, starting from every aspect of life, giving children enough care, respect and guidance, and accompanying and helping them grow.

(1) Listen carefully. Enter the children's world and listen to their voices. Don't always let the parents speak and the children listen;

(2) Love and companionship. Communicate with your child and let him know how much you love him. Don't scold your child in public, don't always complain and criticize his grades, deprive him of his interests and hobbies... If you love your child, please give him enough love and respect;

(3)** *Participate together. Try to discover the things you and your child enjoy the same way and enhance emotional communication with your child. Children also want to explore the world of adults and participate in it. Let children participate in family affairs, respect the child's dominant position, listen to his opinions, and strive to be as independent as possible. During the participation process, respect and guidance should be used together, rather than blindly following the child.

2. Let children feel that they are needed and strengthen their social belonging and social relationships in one or more aspects. The unchangeable blood relationship between parents and children is the best choice.

3. Learn to communicate with children. When communicating with their children, parents must stay calm and think from their perspective; do not "label" their children at will; use a positive and affirmative attitude towards their children in terms of caring and empathy. In particular, we must understand the characteristics of adolescent children and avoid stepping into their "minefields."

4. Reposition and reduce their psychological load.

For students with high academic pressure and declining academic performance, teachers and parents should appropriately adjust their learning expectations for students, reposition them, and reduce their psychological load. If necessary, they may need a period of rest and adjustment.

5. By calling the mental health service hotline 96008, or following the official account of Chengdu Fourth People’s Hospital or Chengdu Mental Health Center, you can timely understand and learn about adolescent mental health knowledge and learn to identify potential psychological problems early. .

6. Seek professional help from mental health institutions in a timely manner.

In daily interactions, pay attention to observing your children. If your children have the following conditions, you must promptly seek professional intervention and treatment from professional mental health institutions. Actively seeking treatment for these mental illnesses is the best way to solve the problem. Best method.

(1) Unwilling to communicate with others, keeping silent to family, classmates and friends, and becoming withdrawn;

(2) Sudden irritability or anger and low mood, which affects many people Losing interest in things;

(3) Self-injurious behavior or even suicidal tendencies;

(4) Abnormal behaviors such as confrontation with parents and teachers;

(5) Mental confusion, unfounded fear, guilt, numbness, poor appetite or overeating, poor sleep at night, etc.;

(6) Inability to Incompetent for daily learning tasks, academic performance declines, or even tired of studying.

7. For children who are in the treatment period, parents should accompany their children to regular medical appointments to understand their children's condition and medication treatment.

(3) The school attaches great importance to mental health care, pays attention to key groups, and avoids marginalization.

1. Conduct regular lectures on mental health knowledge.

2. Pay attention to high-risk groups. Regularly assess students' mental health status, incorporate depression screening into mental health examinations, and establish mental health files.

3. Evaluate the safety of the environment and choose a suitable conversation environment.

4. Use positive and encouraging conversation skills.

5. Strengthen the parent-school two-way linkage mechanism. The two parties strengthen communication and exchanges, establish a linkage mechanism for effective communication, identify problems, communicate in a timely manner, and effectively solve problems.

6. Help students who have recovered and returned to school to adapt to learning again. When students re-enter school due to remission of illness, the school takes effective measures to enable them to integrate well into the new learning remission and avoid being "overly" specialized.

7. Establish a green channel for referral between schools and hospitals to ensure that they receive timely and effective psychological intervention and comprehensive treatment at the first time.

(4) Children and adolescents should learn mental health knowledge, learn to identify their own psychological problems, and seek help in a timely manner.

1. Seek professional help. Seek professional help as soon as possible, such as a psychotherapist or psychiatrist.

2. Talk to family and friends and express your negative emotions; get support, understanding and help from family and friends who understand you.

3. Place items that can evoke your happy memories in a conspicuous position, and place things that mark your own points in a conspicuous position to promote self-confidence.

4. Divert your attention and find sources of happiness: for example, through exercise, listening to music, enjoying food, communicating with others, etc.

5. Self-awareness of psychological problems through professional and formal mental institution websites, public accounts, APPs, etc.

6. Mark the contact information of the person you particularly trust, or call the Chengdu psychological assistance hotline 96008 in time.

The above content refers to the Sichuan Provincial People's Government-What kind of pain is behind the suicide of teenagers? How should schools and parents solve the problem?