On the first day after marriage, my daughter-in-law offered tea to her mother-in-law, who said, "Daughter-in-law, give me the bride price money." What should I do?

There is a deep affection between two people in love, while marriage is a trivial matter between parents. A woman can not consider the man's family when she is in love, but when she is married, she must carefully understand the character of the man's parents and the character of her lover before deciding whether to marry or not. Parents' shortcomings seem simple, but in fact they are extremely complicated. It includes the trivia between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the trivia between husband and wife, and the trivia between family members and in-laws and so on. Women are fastidious and don't understand. Marrying rashly in the past is likely to lead to unhappy marriage and marital relationship breakdown. Don't think that you will be happy if you marry someone you love, and don't think that you will be happy if you marry a rich man. Getting married is not that simple.

When a man marries the person he loves, he has no responsibility and sense of responsibility, and a woman will not be happy. When he marries a rich man, her husband-in-law is stingy and stingy, and a woman can't enjoy a good material life. It is conceivable that she is angry, wronged and miserable with her husband-in-law, and her marriage is not happy. When a woman marries, it is very important for a man to have the responsibility. Secondly, it depends on the character of the man's parents. It is an indispensable condition for a woman to marry a man with responsibility. As for the character of her husband's family, we can attach importance to it or ignore it. After all, perfect marriages are rare, and perfect in-laws are even rarer. Only by not marrying blindly or impulsively can a woman get a perfect and happy marriage.

I wrote this article because I met a friend in my life. She loved a man very much, but because her mother-in-law was stingy and stingy, she chose to go back to her mother's house on the first day after marriage, drafted a divorce agreement and ended her marriage.

Yumei is a kindergarten teacher, born with red lips and white teeth, and quiet personality. There are many matchmakers for her. In her heart, she has always liked Li Xiang, a community cadre. After graduating from college, Li Xiang was assigned to work in the community. The young man was cheerful and sunny, enthusiastic and straightforward, and he was also energetic. My parents are engaged in building materials business, and their family conditions are very good. Because eldest brother Li Xiang's children are working in Yumei's kindergarten, they often meet, but they have no chance to get to know each other better.

The head of the garden saw Yumei's mind, and her family was Li Xiang's neighbor, so she had the heart to make a good marriage for the perfect match. It's just that she hesitated, found Yumei and said with a smile, "Daughter, if you want Li Xiang, I'll tell him. I watched this young man grow up with a good personality, but there were some minor problems when you were married. "Yumei blushed when she heard that the director wanted to pull strings, and when she saw her faltering, she became nervous again and asked anxiously," Does he have any congenital diseases? " The director was happy: "Look at you, where did you get the disease? My concern is that Li Xiang's mother is a good player who hates money, but she is also a well-known cheapskate. The money in her hand is only allowed to enter but not out." After hearing this, Yumei's expression relaxed a lot: "Li Xiang and I both have jobs and salaries, and we don't point to her to support. Old people have the habit of thrift." The inexperienced Yumei simply thinks of people simply.

after a year of love, Li Xiang and Yu Mei became friends in Qin and Jin Dynasties, and the wedding was grand and romantic.

according to the custom, on the first day after marriage, the new wife should offer tea to her mother-in-law to show her filial piety. Of course, Yumei wanted to impress her mother-in-law. She got up early, put on delicate makeup after washing and dressing, and put on a cheongsam woven with gold thread in red, which was a celebration. She and Li Xiang knelt on the mat in front of their in-laws and respectfully handed the tea bowl to their mother-in-law: "Mom, have tea." Mother-in-law "well", end in the past. However, Yu Mei was puzzled. Her mother-in-law didn't drink this cup of tea, and then she looked up at her with a democratic face. Li Mei's heart sank. Did she do something wrong in the morning?

My mother-in-law sat there and said seriously, "Yumei, I gave your family 2, yuan as a bride price to marry you. Your family is not short of money, and it is not easy for my family to earn money. You both have jobs, daughter-in-law, please give me the bride price money. "

I've always heard that my mother-in-law is tight with money, but she asked her for a bride price on the first day of tea service, which made Yumei feel incredible. She said seriously, "Mom, it's just a custom to give a bride price, just to look good on the face. Besides, my mother's family also gives it to you, and others are hundreds of thousands, and my parents gladly accept it when you give 2 thousand." Now you want to go back? "

My mother-in-law sneered, "You don't know anything. When we do business, our money is on the goods. This 2, yuan is my working capital."

Yumei smiled wryly. She knew her husband's family's economic strength, at least she had millions of savings. Why did she have to wait for a bride price of 2, yuan to turn around? Everything stems from her meanness and selfishness. Daughter-in-law has no position in her eyes, and only money is worth cherishing.

Yumei stood up angrily, turned around and went back to the bedroom. She simply packed her clothes. Despite Li Xiang's obstruction, she went back to her mother's house. Her mother-in-law's excessive demands disgusted her and she was extremely disappointed with this marriage. She didn't feel any warmth and care, only felt chilling.

I don't recommend my friends to follow the story of Yumei. Since I understood my mother-in-law's meanness and meanness before marriage, I should understand what I will face in the future after I get married. You shouldn't end your marriage in a rage because of the bride price, regardless of what your man thinks. In fact, the problem of Yumei is very easy to solve. When her mother-in-law embarrassed herself, Yumei first asked Li Xiang's thoughts. If he recognized his mother's behavior, Yumei would choose to divorce again. If Li Xiang also thinks that her mother is doing something wrong and stands on Yumei's side to help Yumei, then Yumei will really miss a good husband if she divorces rashly. Mother-in-law's meanness and meanness have little influence on a woman's marriage, but the key is to look at her man's character. If a man has the responsibility, Yumei will be unhappy with her mother-in-law, but because of the coordination between men, the marriage will be happy. Mother-in-law is stingy and stingy, treating her daughter-in-law as an outsider. Daughter-in-law doesn't care about her mother-in-law, stay away from such a mother-in-law, and just live a good life with her husband.

If the mother-in-law forces her to interfere in her marriage, it would be good for her husband to come forward to solve it. In the future, it would be good for her husband to be responsible for the problem of providing for the elderly. There is no need to be too impulsive. She went back to her mother's house on the first day of marriage and then chose to divorce. Marriage is not a child's play. You must consider it carefully. If you really can't accept the bad behavior of your future mother-in-law, then don't marry. If you know your mother-in-law's character, you should learn to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after you get married. You should neither be bullied by your mother-in-law nor let her interfere in your marriage at will. Don't choose to divorce after getting married before you know your mother-in-law's bad conduct and haven't asked your husband about his views and attitude towards his mother.

Advise some women: Don't treat marriage as a child's play, and get married and then choose divorce. I'm not defending a bad mother-in-law, but because women are not worth it. I finally chose a man who can be my lifelong companion, but I ended my marriage rashly because of my bad mother-in-law's words. This is not only irresponsible for your own happiness, but also hurts the man who loves you. No matter how bad the mother-in-law's conduct is, if her husband has a sense of responsibility, then she can't afford much trouble, and she still enjoys herself in marriage. Women should remember one sentence: the responsibility and responsibility of men is the foundation of women's marital happiness, and others can't affect their own marital happiness. If you marry someone, don't divorce impulsively. It's not too late to choose divorce when a man who is fastidious about himself has no sense of responsibility and responsibility. Otherwise, it is really unworthy to miss someone who can bring you happiness.