The teacher said "asshole" to my son.

Friday, September 20 17 15, the first weekend of my son's school. My husband and I waited at the school gate early.

The school gate is crowded with people. Most of them come to pick up the children who live on campus. No one in the crowd is taller than my husband, but he still looks forward to it with a long neck.

The son came out. Looking from a distance, a smiling face. Ask how, the answer is very good, very good. In short, I eat well, sleep well and everything is fine. I said, dad and I miss you very much, because we have nothing to do this week. Do you miss us? "Yes," the son said simply. Surprisingly, in the past, Xiong Haizi either asked "what do you say" or smiled at you without answering. It seems that a proper distance helps to express feelings!

A heart fell to the ground

Actually, I'm against my son living on campus. Because he wears a cochlear implant, he has to charge it every day. There was no plug in the dormitory, so he had to put it in the teacher's office. He can't hear the wake-up bell and needs someone to wake him up; The most important thing is that I am in adolescence, and it is inevitable that I can't handle it in time because of a little thing, which will affect my learning efficiency. I used to be at home, and I was very concerned about this work. Now I live on campus and go home once a week. Will there be an emotional backlog? After all, it is the fourth grade, and everyone knows how fierce the competition is. I'm afraid it's not too much to change a person's life. But the child insists on living on campus, so we can only respect his opinion.

After a hearty dinner, my son and father sat on the mat and fiddled with the experimental equipment of physical circuits. I sat on the sofa watching them and chatting with them. Husband said you shorted out again. My son said, oh, really, the physics experiment teacher called me an "asshole" for this that day!

Oh, my god ! ! !

My husband looked at me with a puzzled face, and I was particularly shocked! How can a teacher say that? My son's grades have always been excellent, and he is definitely not the naughty type. Do children have emotions? Would you be ashamed? Will you feel particularly hit and will it affect your study this week?

A series of questions roared by, but they could not be displayed.

The most important thing at the moment is to adjust yourself, stay upright and be ready to give him an "iceberg" to deal with emotions at any time. Try to minimize the loss.

? So he pretended as if nothing had happened and asked his son, "Then what?"

? "………"

My son didn't respond.

I asked again, "Then what?"

? The son looked up and asked, "What?"

I said, "What did you do when the teacher said that about you?"

"Continue to do the experiment, and it will be over if you do it right."

"Aren't you angry that the teacher said that about you?"

"No, he just told me. Besides, the teacher just has a bad temper and is very nice. "

What a long breath!

? I was ready for the big fight here, but I didn't expect the children here to be calm after the rain.

? He doesn't feel pain! Is the child's heart too big, or am I helping him build a strong heart? Under normal circumstances, if the teacher says so, the child will be uncomfortable. However, when I saw that the child didn't take it seriously, I felt that the teacher's words were not so malicious. Perhaps, just like kicking my child's ass and calling him Xiong Haizi, I am full of love.

I secretly relieved that these years' efforts were not in vain. If possible, all parents will try their best to shield their children from all storms. If not, it is better to make their children strong enough to face the storm by themselves.

My son has no hearing and belongs to disability. Under normal circumstances, there will be inferiority complex, because the psychological disability caused by physical disability has far greater consequences than physical disability. In order to avoid this, I have been practicing by myself. After I learned about Teacher Lin's Psychological Nutrition, I got the treasure and studied hard. "three don't do one", "emotional management" and "iceberg handling emotions" are all used on my son. It can be said that my son is my experiment. I have been doing it and practicing it every day. Try not to let him accumulate emotions in his heart. At the same time, it also supplements your psychological nutrition. Teacher Lin said that our generation are children raised by anxious parents, and their psychological nutrition is not enough. If they lack psychological nutrition, they will spend their whole lives looking for it. After the age of 25, you should learn to supplement psychological nutrition. Thanks to my efforts, my mood is more and more stable and my heart is more and more happy. The children are getting better and better.

The son has a strong heart and acts according to his own will. It is unlikely that a little external trivial matter will cause strong fluctuations in his heart.

two

? My son has always been introverted, but that doesn't mean he is not optimistic.

My son always stays up late. He studies early in Grade One and Grade Two, and it is common to be late. The teacher took good care of him and never punished him for standing. My son also asked me why others stood up and taught themselves to punish him and never punished me.

Later, in the third grade, the atmosphere suddenly became tense, and the teacher was not good to him. There is about13 morning self-study a year, and he stands up. Once I asked my son if it would affect your study efficiency if you were punished for standing up and studying by yourself. My son said, no, study is the same. I asked, would you be embarrassed? Do you think girls will laugh at you? The son said, I don't feel it!

What a heart this Xiong Haizi has!

His answer sheet was mismarked twice, and both papers got zero points, so his son didn't care at all. I once wondered if I had raised my son to be too optimistic and not enterprising.

? Until the final exam of grade three, my son had a fever and I was not at home. The husband gave him too many antipyretics, and his son fainted after the exam. This time, my son was very sad because he knew that the grade decided the fourth grade placement. In the past, he didn't care because he knew that he had no problem answering the questions, but this time he felt that he was in a bad state and didn't answer well, which would affect his grades. So it will be very sad. In fact, this time the child's performance is the fourth in the class.

? And as far as the difficulty of raising children is concerned, we feel more and more labor-saving. From primary school to junior high school, his grades are slowly and steadily rising, and our minds are getting less and less. Teacher Lin has a famous saying: it must be wrong to raise a child untidy. From our own experience, we have a feeling that if you are increasingly worried about your child's grades, you must have done something wrong. The child's grades are definitely outside the grades!

Isn't this the direction we are trying to practice? Be strong inside and know what you really want inside.

Fanfan kindergarten director

Psychological consultant

? Secretary General of Yantai Women's Chamber of Commerce

? Lin, director of Yantai Center in Satya.

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